If you’re like most women who make New Year’s resolutions every year, you tend to focus on doing less, as opposed to more. Some people vow to cut back on their drinking or make fewer fast-food runs. Others plan on watching less television or spending less time sitting around, wasting time in general. But doing more can be just rewarding and fulfilling.
This is especially the case for your intimate life, both with your partner (if you have one) and yourself. The following are just a few potential sexy resolutions that may help you upgrade your sexual satisfaction factor in a big way this year. Don’t be afraid to let your imagination run wild and come up with more.
1. Treat yourself to new lingerie for your benefit.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with buying something sexy to slip into because you know it will drive your partner wild, but why leave yourself out of the equation? After all, it’s your body, and you’ll be the one wearing the items you pick. This year add something to your lingerie drawer because it makes you feel like a straight siren. Chances are, your partner will like it too, so it’s a win-win.
2. Spend more time going solo.
Don’t make the mistake of assuming masturbation is only for people who aren’t in relationships. Solo sessions have a place in every woman’s life, whether she’s attached to someone else or not. They’re an incredible way to care for yourself, nurture your understanding of your body, and discover new sensations to enjoy. Treat yourself to a new luxury vibrator from a top manufacturer like FemmeFunn, and get 2021 started with a bang!
3. Fall madly in love with your body.
Yes, even the parts you don’t like so much. The better your appreciation of your body, especially in a sexual context, the more satisfying your intimate life will be going forward. Self-consciousness can distract you from thoroughly enjoying yourself, especially when you’re with a partner. However, an unshakeable sense of comfort in one’s own skin can be a gamechanger. Make this the year you fall in love with your body and make peace with your imperfections.
4. Check out female-directed porn.
Visual porn may or may not be your jam, but if it is, you really owe it to yourself to check out some woman-directed material this year. Porn from female directors tends to be more body-positive and a lot more realistic than what you’re used to seeing from male directors. It’s often more artistic and easier for female viewers to connect to, as well. Do yourself a favor, and see what’s out there this year. It’s hot and inspiring.
5. Make speaking up in bed one of your sexy resolutions.
When it comes to partnered sex, communication is the key to getting what you want out of the experience, so don’t be shy about speaking up in 2021. The key to success here is to focus on the positive and ask for things that feel good instead of criticizing something that isn’t working as well. Tell your partner how good it would make you feel if they stroked you a certain way or how hot it would make you if they tried out a particular position. Your partner wants to please you, so they’ll likely be more than eager to oblige.
6. Commit to having only genuine orgasms.
Yes, you read that right. Most women have faked it a time or two over the years, and it’s unlikely you’re any different. It’s well worth your while to graduate to having only real orgasms, though. If your partner isn’t stimulating you the way you need to have the orgasms you’re after, it’s time to open up the lines of communication. Otherwise, you’re only encouraging them to do more of what’s already not working, and neither of you truly wants that.
7. Learn something new about sex.
Add a sex book to your collection, and read it cover to cover in 2021. Sign up for a good sex class, or opt for a self-led video course instead if you’re more of a self-starter. Not only is learning new things fun and enriching, but you might be surprised at just how many new techniques, tricks, and tips you pick up in the process. Go for more generalized coverage on the topic of sex, or focus on something specific you’d personally like to excel at – like blow jobs or rope-tying, to name just two examples. You’ll be glad you made an effort.
A brand new year is like a nice, clean slate you can make into whatever you want. After the never-ending weirdness that was 2020, you owe it to yourself to indulge in a few upgrades in 2021. Why not start with your sex life?