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8 Fun Vibrator Techniques for Ultimate Pleasure

New to vibrators? Recently bought one to add an element of fun to your life? This article is perfect for you.

Our Top 9 Favorite Vibrator Techniques

Whether you want to use it alone or with your significant other, this buzzy little buddy can make your sex life enjoyable. Today’s post will discuss some fun vibrator techniques for ultimate pleasure. Let’s get started:

1. Familiarize Yourself First

Before you get all worked up, it is time to familiarize yourself with your new purchase. Learn about the functioning of buttons and all different intensities. If possible, read the user’s manual so there is no unwanted shock. The key to discovering the right vibrator techniques for you is understanding how your vibrator works.

2. Try it On Your Nongenital Erogenous Zones

One of the less-known vibrator techniques is to use the vibrator on your nongenital erogenous zones. Contrary to popular belief, vibrators aren’t only for your genitals. They can be used on other erogenous zones, such as the neck, armpits, feet, and thighs, to turn you on. You can genuinely double the fun.

3. Use it Over Your Underwear

Using your favorite vibrator techniques with underwear on first can be amazing if your clit is sensitive. Make sure you wear a softer fabric like satin or silk because a combo of cotton and vibration isn’t the most pleasurable and can get quite chafed. A more delicate fabric like silk will create the desired glide and double the pleasure.

4. Experimenting is the Key

Not everyone can use similar vibrator techniques with the same amount of pressure and at the same angle. If a particular angle or pressure isn’t working for you, switch it up, and you will find something you enjoy. Try different sensations: squeezing the buzzy toy on your body, laying on top of it, using it for tickling, tapping in a rhythm, and more.

5. Pay Attention to the Setting

It is tough to get turned on when your room is messy, or your general environment is cluttered. A vibrator alone might not give you the ultimate pleasure. Try to ignite all your five senses. Get your space in order, play a sexy playlist, turn on some classy porn, clean yourself, wear something soft and sexy, and touch yourself with your hands and a vibrator.

6. Experiment with Edging

Once you have thoroughly familiarized yourself with the product, it is time to make yourself orgasm. Edging is essentially a practice of getting close to coming, backing away, building yourself up again, and repeating the process until you can’t control yourself. That is when ultimate pleasure happens. These vibrator techniques surely require some practice, but once you master them, there is no limit to the pleasure you can achieve.

7. Try Buzzy Babe with Your Partner

A vibrator feels fantastic when using it alone, but it can genuinely transform your sexual experience when used with a partner. If your partner is new to vibrators, wait until you are not having sex. You might not want to bring it up while in the act. Always frame it as an addition to your current experience instead of a criticism. The goal isn’t to communicate your sex life as bad but to make an existing fun experience even hotter and better.

Assure your partner that you aren’t replacing them with a sex toy but genuinely trying to transform the experience into something truly spectacular. Some people are very sensitive about the subject, while others are cool with the idea. It would be best to analyze which category your partner falls into and introduce the matter accordingly.

8. Explore Vibrator Techniques and Options Together

You can indeed plan a hot date and buy a toy together. It can turn into an incredible experience. You guys can choose something you both enjoy alone and as a couple. There is no harm in using the product alone and then use as a couple.

Let’s be honest.

Vibrators can do what humans can’t. They can move fast for hours before getting tired and thrust underwater. If you both haven’t used it before, try using it on your own for a couple of days. Once familiar with it, you guys try vibrator techniques together and double the fun.

Reminder: Sex Toys are a Vector

Always wash it thoroughly, especially if you deal with bacterial vaginosis, STIs, or yeast infections and decide to use a vibrator. Otherwise, you risk worsening your condition or transferring it to your partner. Even if you aren’t dealing with any infection, it is crucial to clean the vibrator before and after each use or use a barrier protection method if you are sharing the buzzy toy with your partner. Research suggests that cleaning isn’t 100% effective with sex toys, and the barrier protection method is the safest way to prevent STI transmission.

Regardless, cleaning up your toy after every use is an excellent practice. Make sure to dry it if you use soap and water to wash it and store it in a  clean bag.

Final Takeaway

There aren’t wrong or right vibrator techniques. Try different methods and products to see what works best for you and your partner. Some prefer the flexibility of a wand vibrator, while others enjoy a rotating rabbit vibrator. The goal is to make yourself feel good and get the ultimate pleasure. So, take any pressure out of the equation and let the fun begin. If you feel good, you are using your buzzy friend correctly.

We hope you found this a fun read if you are new to the subject.

Hair today, gone tomorrow: A Brief History of Pubic Hair (or lack thereof)

It is undeniable that history and pop culture have instilled beliefs and ideas about what’s considered kept and unkept below the belt. 

The world’s views, influenced by how we consume art and culture, have transformed views on pubic hair throughout history, leaving pubic hair history as illustrious and diverse as the history of sex itself.

But where did these pubic hair trends start, and what triggered our wax-on, wax-off mentality?

Keen to go down this hairy path with us? Continue reading to learn more about our collective obsession with our pubes.

Bare beginnings

Ancient Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans were fans of the bare look:

Ancient Egyptians

Did you know that the first razors (made of copper) were created in India and Egypt? Egyptian women were actually completely bald—they shaved their heads, legs, and pubic hair.  In fact, they considered those with pubic hair to be uncivilized.

Hair today, gone tomorrow A Brief History of Pubic Hair - Ancient Egyptians

And, much like glitzy A-listers influence current trends, Cleopatra popularized the hairless look in Egypt. (Just were clear, by “completely hairless”, we mean NO HAIR. This represented the highest level of hygiene and cleanliness!)

So while Cleopatra’s block-braided hair is iconic, it was just a wig worn by the nobility as a regal status symbol.

Ancient Greeks & Romans

High-class ladies in the Roman Empire removed pubic hair using tweezers and pumice stones to achieve a silky smooth appearance. Ancient Greek women would remove their bush by plucking each hair or singeing it off with heat. 

In one play by Aristophanes, a male who decides to go undercover as a woman to spy is tied down and has his pubic hair plucked, which “feminizes” him. 

Scrutinize Ancient Greek paintings and sculptures, and you won’t find many ladies with hair below the waist, showing that being bald below the waist was considered more dignified.

The Middle Ages: Maintaining the camel coat 

In the Middle Ages, shaving your muff was viewed as an act reserved for those involved with prostitution, so the odds of removing your hair were much less if you were in high standing. However, in those days, general trends were primarily motivated by health rather than vanity. 

Since medical practices were not particularly advanced throughout the Dark Ages, lice and disease were commonplace. Consequently (and perhaps, ironically) it was thought that keeping your pubic hair intact would protect you from dust, dirt, and vermin. 

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Early 20th Century: Keeping the fuzz at bay

Gillette developed the first female-specific body hair razor in 1915. Their ads focused on armpit hair, suggesting women needed to remove their untamed, unhygienic underarm hair.

And the trend just took off from there…

During World War II, a scarcity of nylon prevented ladies from wearing stockings daily. As a result, more women began to go bare-legged. As skirts and shorts became shorter and shorter, the pursuit for silky smooth legs picked up steam. Clean-shaven legs immediately became a fashion statement.

Then there was the bikini.

First introduced in 1946, the need for clean bikini lines quickly followed.

While no ads promoted pubic shaving (remember, this was the 1950s!), ladies took it upon themselves to tidy up with a razor down yonder.

1970: The birth of the “Seventies bush”

The 1970s were all about going “natural,” which coincided with the hippy trend of the time. People were breaking social norms due to the anti-Vietnam war sentiment. 

With the 1960s and 1970s embracing revolt and sexual independence, a thick bush and lush armpit hair became a gorgeous counterculture emblem. Thus, the phrase “seventies bush” was born. 

Since the 1950s and 1960s were all about covering one’s body, the 1970s witnessed a significant change with individuals leaving their bushes and underarm hair alone, resulting in a massive shift in how people saw their autonomy over their bodies.

1980-90: Taming of short & curlies

The 80s and 90s saw a demise of the natural body-hair movement of the 70s. Some people attribute this to the advent of the fashion industry and enhanced cameras that allow for more inspection of people’s bodies. 

Skin follicles that were previously obscured by low resolutions were now fully visible. People also felt increasing pressure to be hairless or to experiment with additional grooming procedures such as landing strips as porn permeated more areas of mainstream culture.

The 2000s & beyond

In the early 2000s, societal attitudes about pubic hair were heavily influenced by clothing styles. Since trendy designs exposed more skin, women were more likely to have Brazilian bikini waxes while wearing crop tops and low-waisted jeans. 

To add to this, the magazine industry reinforced going hairless as the norm, airbrushing them and often perpetuating unrealistic beauty standards to the forefront of our society’s consciousness.

As the 2000s eventually progressed, the “Hipster” movement regarded longer hair and natural grooming as more appealing, which meant fewer individuals felt the need to wax or shave.

The resurgence of pubic hair may also be a reflection of broader trends.

Pubic hair has long been fashionable in various areas. South Koreans, for instance, consider a lush mop of pubic hair to be a symbol of fertility and good health. 

Some South Korean women even undergo a procedure in which hair from the head is transplanted onto the pubic area to create the appearance of a fuller bush.

Hair today, gone tomorrow A Brief History of Pubic Hair - Today

Today = whatever style rocks

These days, the Hollywood, Brazilian, Bikini, and all-natural growth are some of the most popular pubic hair grooming styles.

These trends may be ascribed to shifts in beauty standards among millennials and Generation Z. In other words, you should do, wear, and grow whatever makes you happy. And your pubes are no exception!

There seem to be no hard and fast rules for grooming your nether regions. For some, shaving a partner is kinky, while others prefer to have their lover be entirely natural. 

We as a society now have the knowledge and hindsight to make our judgments about our bodies and how past ideas can influence the way we groom ourselves. 

So, no matter what style you choose for your pubes—do what makes you happy and love the body you’re in!

What is the Difference Between a Splashproof vs Waterproof Sex Toy?

Just like a pair of good ol’ rain boots, you can certainly get by without them…but once you’ve had one, your life will be changed forever.

Unlike vibes that clearly are a no-go as far as water is concerned, waterproof vibes are specifically designed to be submerged in a bathtub, pool or exposed to a shower stream. 

And while we’re on the subject of showers, waterproof vibes are even better than using a showerhead, the good ol fashioned way to reach a sneaky orgasm (which, of course, you can and should do as well).

Perhaps you’ve had a lightbulb moment and decided that it was time to take your favorite sex toy out of the bedroom and into the bathroom. And then, you suddenly realize that the toy you thought was water-friendly is actually “splash proof”, not “waterproof.” 

Now what?

Yup, “splashproof” and “waterproof” are not the same.

So, to save you the trouble of having to Google the difference, we’ve decided to deep-dive into the wide, wet world of waterproof and splash-proof toys.

Let’s jump in.

What is the difference between waterproof and splashproof sex toys?

Basically, the difference between waterproof and splashproof sex toys is that waterproof toys are fully submersible, while splashproof toys might not survive a tumble into a pool.

The good news is that many vibrating toys are genuinely waterproof. You can take them into the shower, tub, or even the pool or hot tub. And despite having electrical or battery-powered components, these toys are fully sealed to keep water out. 

This means that as hardy as they may appear, you should take good care of your waterproof toys; a slight break might mean that your vibrator is no longer submersible.

Although a splashproof vibe won’t do well submerged, it will be completely fine if it gets slightly wet. Don’t let that put you off, though. Splashproof toys can be just as enjoyable, coming in enough shapes and sizes to fulfill the deepest desires.

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Postpartum Sex & How It Affects Orgasms

It may seem like after having a kid, every part of your life as you know changes. Sure, incubating and giving birth to a little human does a number on your sleep routine, body, and emotions, but have you ever considered how it can affect your sex life, or more specifically, your ability to orgasm?

Well, the short (and most straightforward) answer is that eventually, it’s often a lot like sex before giving birth!

Remember that the human body is designed for pregnancy, but also for recovery; nature wants you to have as many children as possible. Nevertheless, pregnancy (and birth) may be quite taxing on the body, so it’s fair that it may take some time to bounce back.

Doctors generally recommend waiting six weeks following vaginal delivery to have sex to heal lacerations and episiotomies (incisions made between the vagina and anus to help delivery). 

C-sections are also considered “major abdominal surgery,” so doctors usually recommend waiting six to eight weeks before getting back at it. 

However, regardless of the type of delivery you had, there may be undetected complications such as trauma to underlying tissue, even though everything on the surface appears to recover rapidly. 

This explains why they strongly suggest waiting the recommended time, even though patients often start having sex again sooner.

But what happens if (as many have done before) you partake in the horizontal fandango before then?

Potentially nothing. But, because your cervix is still extra-dilated after giving birth, you could possibly reopen healing wounds or, in rare situations, develop an infection since intercourse increases the likelihood of bacteria coming into contact with your uterus.

Now, although we’ve painted a rather grim picture, and you may think that your postpartum sex life will be scarred forever, it’s important to note that many people report having MORE OR BETTER orgasms after birth. 

And while some may experience issues such as painful orgasms or sex, they can typically regain their sexual abilities with the support of a healthcare specialist such as a pelvic floor physical therapist.

The key here is not to become dismayed—you’re not alone!

Below, we explore the possible ways your sex life may change after delivery and the steps you can take if you’re bothered by them.

1. Your vagina may not feel as tight as it did previously (but not to an extreme!)

OK, don’t freak out. This is quite normal. If it happens to you, it shouldn’t hinder your sex life. Vaginal tightness may not return to its pre-delivery state after a baby has passed through the birth canal. 

It may feel a bit different from both your and your partner’s sides, but it won’t affect your ability to enjoy sex thoroughly. 

Strengthen your pelvic floor muscles with Kegels. Like any other type of exercise, the more Kegels you do, the greater the benefits. Momenta is a set of Kegel balls that doubles as a sex toy you can use with a partner. Whether using them for pelvic floor exercise or as a sex toy (or both), simply insert them into your vagina and experience the sensual combination of vibrations and rattling, blended for harmonious strength and stimulation. 

A quick disclaimer though…if you feel like something’s up and your vagina feels vastly different compared to pre-pregnancy, consult your doctor to check for any abnormalities.

2. You may pee slightly during sex

The pelvic floor, which supports your uterus, rectum, and bladder, weakens during pregnancy. According to the American Pregnancy Association, this happens primarily because your uterus swells to the size of a watermelon during the third trimester. 

Whether you deliver vaginally or by C-section, it can be challenging to manage your urine afterward. However, vaginal delivery might aggravate the situation. You may experience leakage when you sneeze, cough, or have sex. 

Again, doing Kegel exercises during pregnancy and after childbirth can reduce the probability of this happening (but don’t worry, your muscles usually become stronger with time and reduce the likelihood of this!)

3. If you’re breastfeeding, you may notice a reduction in lubrication.

You can thank your hormones for this one. While nursing, your estrogen levels are decreased, and estrogen is one of the primary contributors to vaginal lubrication. 

This will not necessarily make sex uncomfortable, but it may cause an irritating dryness that reduces your pleasure. Keep lubrication on hand to avoid this problem.

4. You could bleed during intercourse

If you’ve given birth vaginally, you could have some bleeding the first few times you become sexually active. 

The blood may be disconcerting, but it generally occurs as a result of your sensitive cervix experiencing heightened uterine activity (having an orgasm produces oxytocin, which can cause your uterus to contract).  If you notice anything other than minimal bleeding, consult your doctor to confirm that your recovery is going as planned.

5. You may be worried about having sex (fyi, this is entirely natural!)

When it comes to emotions and feelings post-birth, any mother will tell you that that rollercoaster is one hell of a ride. So, while every emotion and feeling is completely valid, having mixed feelings about sex post-delivery is completely understandable.

When it comes to having sex again, your emotions may fall into every part of the emotional spectrum. Some individuals are overwhelmed by the prospect, while others are more eager than ever before having a baby. 

While apprehension is generally the norm, if a woman feels entirely put off, uninterested in, or irritated by having sex after childbirth when she previously didn’t, this could indicate postpartum depression.

woman breastfeeding a baby - Postpartum Sex - Breastfeeding may trigger sexual pleasure

6. Breastfeeding may trigger sexual pleasure (and even orgasm!)

Although this fact may seem utterly bizarre, physiologically, it makes sense. Our body produces oxytocin when we have an orgasm. This is the same hormone released during breastfeeding and can cause the uterus to contract and potentially result in an orgasm.

Also, if nipple stimulation is enjoyable for you, you may find breastfeeding pleasurable (oxytocin in itself increases pleasure!) This is common and natural and does not indicate anything is wrong with you or your child.

7. Your boobs may leak milk when you orgasm

To add to what we’ve covered above, when you have sex, the flood of hormones like oxytocin can result in a milky surprise when you orgasm. Again, this is completely normal, and it’s nothing to be embarrassed about!

8. Psychological or relationship changes may have an impact on your sexual life.

Parenthood can cause many psychological and relational changes, which can impact people’s sex life in various ways. People may feel more attached to their relationships after delivery. Sometimes just being away from a demanding job is enough to decompress (not that raising a baby is any easier!)

Childbirth can also have a negative impact on your sexual mentality or relationship if the delivery was traumatic, you’re suffering from postpartum depression or other mental health concerns, you’re too tired for sex, or parenting is causing tension with your partner.

If someone finds themselves dealing with concerns like these, they may benefit from the help of a psychotherapist or sex therapist.

9. Sex after childbirth may be better than you think

Many people enjoy sex more after birth than before they had children! Sometimes, giving birth awakens us to a spectrum of sensations, and as a result, our bodies, particularly our genitals, become more sensitive, enhancing our pleasure potential. 

Childbirth can also reposition our internal organs, making them more receptive to stimulation. Many women become more comfortable with their bodies and have more intense orgasms after having children.

10. Your orgasm may actually feel stronger for a time

While science has yet to explain why this is the case, a few theories are floating about. One idea is that after birth, the nerves that supply feeling to the pelvis are traumatized.  Women often report feeling less [in that area] in the first week or two after giving birth. 

However, once those nerves heal, they may become hypersensitive…resulting in orgasms of supernova proportions. Although orgasm intensity usually goes back to pre-birth strength, this is still pretty rad!

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Take it slow. You’re not alone.

Let’s face it, nothing lasts forever, and the postpartum phase will eventually fade into memory. But while you’re in it, experience it fully and go with the flow.

Allow yourself time to recover and adjust to your new role. You’ll want to have sex again, just as you want to sleep, go out with friends, and even think about giving birth again. 

Be honest and upfront with your partner, and remember that sometimes you just won’t be in the mood—there’s nothing wrong with you! 

Lastly (and perhaps most importantly), if you find that you’re not where you’d like to be and your sex life isn’t back to normal, don’t give up! 

You are not alone! Many other individuals are going through the same thing you are. And millions of people have gotten through it, are better, and have happy and healthy sex lives.

Your Chemical Romance: The Body’s Sexual Magic Formula

Sex can unleash a roller coaster of emotions, making it difficult to understand what’s going on in your body and brain. Whether it’s a casual or committed relationship (or even something in between), you’re bound to experience the feels of chemical romance…even if it’s just like having more sex! 

What’s fascinating is that those feelings are connected primarily to biology and brain chemistry. While there’s SO much more to sex than mere biology, knowing what’s going on in your body before, during, and after sex can make the experience even more remarkable.

But think about it…it makes perfect sense. Getting in touch with your body allows for a more comfortable and liberating experience—you’ll have a greater understanding of how you feel, what you enjoy, and how to ask for it. It could even improve communication between you and your partner and, in the long run, better satisfy your emotional and physical needs.

When you read about orgasms, hugs, kisses, and pleasure, you’ll often hear about how the brain is saturated with “feel-good” chemicals. You may even hear the words “oxytocin” or “dopamine.” (And for good reason!) 

These are two of the primary hot-shot neurotransmitters the brain produces when experiencing sexual pleasure. But, there’s even more where that came from—hormones and chemicals are abundant—all contributing to those delightful little explosions of sexual pleasure. 

Yep, science is fun…and so is sex! 

Combine the two, and you’ll be in your element! (Pun intended)

So, without further ado, let’s dive into the fascinating world of your body’s chemical romance.

The ‘Desire’ phase

MRI studies reveal heightened activity in specific brain parts before sex, notably the limbic system (your emotional center). This area of your brain is in charge of memory, fear, anger, and other emotions. 

Sex, like eating your favorite meal, gambling, receiving a compliment, or having fun with your fave vibe, induces the release of vast amounts of dopamine (known as the pleasure chemical). 

This, in turn, becomes a sensory experience that your brain “remembers” and you seek out—the greater the reward (in this example, sex), the greater the dopamine release, and the greater the desire to experience it again.

During this first stage of the sexual response cycle, your body becomes stimulated and prepares for sex. When this occurs, the neurotransmitter serotonin is released by the brain. This molecule is responsible for eliciting the feeling of happiness.

The vaginal walls begin to lubricate (hence the importance of foreplay), and the clitoris and surrounding tissue expand. Your heart begins to beat quicker, increasing blood pressure and breathing rate. It may happen in seconds for some and may take longer for others. 

During sex

The peripheral nervous system sends signals to the brain when we touch, kiss, or engage in other sexual activities. The hypothalamus (which regulates all hormones in the body) reacts to arousal in the brain. 

It signals the body to produce testosterone. (That’s why people with low levels of this hormone find it hard to get aroused or experience orgasms!)

The hormone vasopressin causes blood vessels to constrict, the release of which affects male arousal. 

In women, the luteinizing hormone is positively associated with sexual excitement. This hormone reaches its peak just before ovulation when a woman’s eggs are preparing for fertilization. According to several studies, a woman’s gait (that is, the way she walks), voice, and scent change before ovulation.

Heightened continued sexual arousal results in the release of nitrogen oxide and noradrenaline. These substances boost blood flow to our genitalia, causing an erection, lubrication, and labia enlargement. (This is also why your nipples become more sensitive and erect!)

Your pulse, blood pressure, and breathing rate continue to rise depending on how vigorous the sex is. Dopamine and epinephrine (the adrenaline hormone) levels continue to increase during sex. As you approach climax, the muscles throughout your body may begin to tighten, owing to all the changes happening in the cerebellum.

The Plateau phase

The plateau phase is the period of sexual bliss preceding climax. In other words, the plateau represents the Mount Everest of sexual excitement. Heart rate, breathing, blood pressure, and muscle tension rise throughout. The clitoris becomes highly sensitive and partially withdraws. The Bartholin glands produce additional lubrication.

Activity in several parts of the brain also rises; the amygdala is one of these. It is involved in memory processing, decision-making, and emotional reactions. 

The Orgasm

Orgasm is the most pleasurable and shortest phase. Vulva owners are slightly luckier than penis owners since their orgasms last longer and can follow in multiples. That said, men have an advantage: it’s easier to achieve an orgasm.

Oxytocin secretion causes rhythmic muscle contraction and ejaculation. The larger the oxytocin release, the more intense the orgasm

The Nucleus Accumbens then rewards us with another significant hit of dopamine, which we experience as a soothing pleasure. More serotonin and DHEA are also released during climax. 

Resolution (or refractory) phase

During the resolution phase, your muscles start relaxing, your heart rate and breathing rate return to normal, and the body experiences pleasant tiredness.

Every individual’s refractory time is different, and various circumstances determine it. Some can be aroused again within a few minutes, while others require an hour or even a day. Researchers now know that the greater the oxytocin and prolactin output, the longer the refractory period.

The release of oxytocin fosters a sense of trust and makes us miss our partners, while prolactin boosts feelings of satisfaction following sexual pleasure and orgasm.

Funn Facts

A few more interesting facts about what happens to our bodies during sex…

  1. MRI scans reveal that orgasms involve approximately 30 active areas in our brains. These include, amongst others, the amygdala (memory and emotions), hypothalamus (subconscious body control), anterior cingulate cortex (impulse control and empathy), and nucleus accumbens (a feeling of euphoria).
  2. Sex is a natural painkiller. It causes endorphins to be released, which reduces pain and tension. According to research, pain sensitivity lessens during vaginal stimulation. Scientists think that this mechanism may be involved in childbirth.
  3. In general, men require some respite (a refractory phase) after ejaculation before they may be aroused again. Their neurons generally need a bit of time to produce the necessary amount of neurotransmitters. Since women do not have a refractory period, they can have many orgasms.

No matter how it looks, smells, or works…you gotta admit, the human body is amazing! Appreciate it, treat it well, and always make sure that you’re giving it a good dose of sexual magic!

Simply the Breast! Ten (HOT) Ways to Enjoy Breast Play

Funn Fact of the Day: Did you know that the breasts (particularly the nipples) constitute a humongous erogenous zone? Caressing the nipples affects the same brain region as stimulating the vagina, clitoris, and cervix!

It’s pretty neat that breast play in the form of breast massage and nipple stimulation can also increase vaginal lubrication and relax the pelvic floor muscles. Discovering what feels good for your and your partner’s breasts is a process—no one approach will feel good for everyone. 

While each person experiences the sensation of breast stimulation differently, it can be fun for everyone. And since fun is what we’re all about, we’ve compiled a list of breast play ideas so you can show your tatas some extra love during foreplay and beyond. 

(Also, in case you were wondering, these techniques can feel sensational for people of all genders, sexualities, and body types, regardless of whether they have bee stings or voluptuous fleshy mounds!)

Keep things interesting

Kissing, stroking, and licking your partner’s breast while purposefully avoiding the areola and nipple can be a massive turn-on if your partner is craving nipple stimulation. 

If your partner is really into nipple play, use your free hand to mirror your mouth’s motions, with your lips on one nipple and your hand on the other. But, if your partner is not too keen on direct nipple contact, caressing the rest of the breast can also be uber pleasurable.

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Discover other sensations

Get the nipple wet with saliva by kissing and sucking the nipple, then blowing softly to trigger tingles. Experimenting with various sensations (like cold water or an ice cube) on the breast can feel fabulous.

Another option is to experiment with sensory play. Sensory play is the technique of reducing one or more of your senses in the bedroom to intensify the experience of the remaining senses.  

When you remove sight and sound from an intimate experience, your sense of touch becomes more acute. Blindfolds or headphones can block out noise and light while your partner caresses your body.  

Add a drop of lube (or two)

Lube is a gift from the sex gods to all of us—and not just for our genitals! A drop of lubricant used before intense nipple-rubbing or massage can provide the perfect amount of glide.

Try some teeth (but ask first!)

Nipple biting should begin slowly and gently. That being said, always ask your partner to help you uncover what they enjoy. If you’re given the green light, start slowly. Ask your partner how they feel and if the pressure is comfortable. 

You can then gradually raise the pressure if they choose. Ask that your partner tell you when you’ve hit their limit. This can give you an idea of what feels good so you know how much is too much in the future.

Don’t forget the rest of the chest

While the nipples often garner the most attention, the entire breast can also provide a bit of sensory overload. Explore the crease on the underside of the breast. Try kissing your partner on the sides of their rib cage. You could even give their clavicle, cleavage, (and even the top of their armpit) some love.

Experiment with two different touches or strokes and ask your spouse which one feels best. Touch two distinct parts of their body and ask which one they prefer.

Spice things up with lingerie

You don’t have to have curves like Kim Kardashian to wear lingerie! That’s right—people of all genders and body types can leverage the power of lingerie to get their sexy on. 

Besides making your boobs look oh-so-bootiful, some fabrics, such as satins and silks, can feel tantalizing on your skin. There are millions of different bra designs, but some of the sexiest include strategic cutouts, open cups, or sheer designs to make you feel hot and confident.

Have some fun!

Think vibrators are just for genital sensation? 

Nope. Vibrating sex toys aren’t only for below-the-belt!  A buzz on the nipples may be a terrific warm-up for sex. 

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As previously mentioned, nipples are formed of erectile tissue, precisely like the places sex toys often target, making them ideal for the nipples and areola. Grab your ultra wand, bullet vibrator, or any other buzzing pleasure toy and offer your sex toys a second wind.

The gap between the arms of two-armed vibes (like Volea) makes them ideal for indirect stimulation and “stroking” motions. The sensation can be pretty powerful because they usually have motors in each “arm.” So, if you desire a massage experience and vibrations, this toy may be worth a try. 

Display them in a harness

Feeling confident increases sexual arousal and pleasure, so wearing something that makes you happy is paramount. Chest harnesses can be very sexy, and like lingerie, they enhance what you have. 

While many people associate harnesses with strap-on sex, there are several harnesses intended for chests of different shapes and sizes.

Make use of nipple clamps

Nipple clamps may look intimidating, but they’re simply tools used to heighten sensation in the nipples. Of course, you can get a little kinky and use them as part of consensual BDSM pain play, but nipple clamps don’t have to be painful. 

Choose an adjustable pair to change the pressure and adjust to your preference. Just don’t keep nipple clamps on for a super long period; instead, a 10-minute on, 5 minutes off routine.

Get some inspo from the clit

As bizarre as it may sound, sometimes how a person wants their clitoris stimulated is similar to how they enjoy their nipples played with. Try gentle, broad touches around the areola if someone has a super-sensitive clit that doesn’t prefer direct contact. 

If you’re dealing with a clit that only an Ultra Wand can adequately service, nibbling and sucking the nipple may very well be on the menu.

The ultimate juggernaut orgasm

Breast and nipple play, like clitoral stimulation, can trigger orgasms. Nipple orgasms are not only for real but can also boost the likelihood of other orgasms. Stimulating two erogenous zones, such as the breast and clitoral regions simultaneously, can induce a sensational blended orgasm by increasing arousal, engaging more nerves, and making orgasm easier and stronger.

So what are you waiting for? Get your breast partitty started!

 

Feeling Burnt Out? Masturbation Can Help!

Masturbation can help you learn what you like sexually, and, well, it just feels good! But did you know that masturbation can be great for your mental health, too? 

Aside from making you feel ahhhmazing, masturbation is an excellent tool for de-stressing. While masturbation alone isn’t an effective treatment for mental health conditions, it can relieve some symptoms, such as those resulting from burnout. 

(If you’re not already masturbating regularly, you might want to add it into your routine)

Not convinced yet? No stress! 

We’ve got the scoop on keeping burnout at bay with a lil bit of self-love.

What is burnout?

Psychologist Herbert Freudenberger coined the term “burnout” in the 1970s to define an intense stress condition that results in extreme physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion. Burnout, which is more severe than fatigue, makes it difficult for people to cope with stress and perform day-to-day tasks.

People who are burnt out frequently feel they have nothing more to contribute and may dread getting out of bed each morning. 

Burnout doesn’t just disappear on its own; if it’s not treated, it can lead to other serious mental and physical illnesses.

Symptoms of burnout

Exhaustion

Feeling physically and emotionally depleted. Headaches, stomachaches, and changes in eating or sleeping patterns are all possible physical signs.

Isolation

People who are burned out often feel overwhelmed. As a result, they may withdraw from socializing and confide in friends, family, and coworkers.

Escape fantasies

People who are burned out may fantasize about running away or taking a solitary trip because they are dissatisfied with the never-ending responsibilities of their job. 

Irritability

Burnout might make it easier to lose one’s cool with friends, coworkers, and family members. Coping with everyday concerns such as preparing for a work meeting, taking kids to school, and tending to domestic responsibilities may often become overwhelming, especially when things don’t go as planned.

Recurrent illnesses 

Burnout, like other forms of long-term stress, can weaken your immune system, leaving you more vulnerable to colds, flu, and sleeplessness. 

How masturbation can prevent burnout

We all know that masturbation feels great. But, truthfully, sexual pleasure is a necessary aspect of self-care. Giving yourself pleasure should be as important as eating breakfast and combing your hair. Why? 

Well, because it’s really good for you! When we orgasm, our brains produce a host of feel-good hormones and other chemicals that promote relaxation and well-being.

The brain…it’s where all the action’s at!

Masturbation involves more than just your nether regions. So, when you’re getting your Booster Rabbit buzz on, here’s what’s happening between your ears:

Hormone and chemical release

Sexual pleasure or orgasm causes the release of hormones and chemicals in the brain’s pleasure-reward system. 

These include:

Dopamine: 

Also sometimes known as the “happiness” hormone, dopamine is a neurotransmitter involved in motivation, movement, and reward-seeking.

Oxytocin: 

This hormone promotes a feeling of love, positive social interaction, development, and healing.

Serotonin:

An important neurotransmitter, serotonin, is responsible for promoting feelings of well-being and happiness. There is also a relationship between increased serotonin levels and improved mood.

Endorphins:

These are “feel-good” chemicals that relieve pain more effectively than morphine. They are in charge of the pleasant rush or high associated with exercise.

Prolactin:

Prolactin is a hormone that stimulates physiological responses such as reproduction, stress management, and emotional modulation.

Endocannabinoids:

These neurotransmitters are important for rewarding activities, including exercise, social engagement, and eating. They also aid in regulating pain, inflammation, metabolism, cardiovascular function, learning and memory, anxiety, depression, and addiction.

Norepinephrine or noradrenaline: 

This stimulating neurotransmitter promotes and controls dopamine transmission, which is associated with happiness levels.

Adrenaline: 

Adrenaline reduces stress by regulating heart rate, blood vessel and airway diameters, and aspects of metabolism.

Wash stress away with waves of pleasure

The release of hormones can result in the following health benefits:

Reduced stress and anxiety

The release of oxytocin appears to reduce stress hormones like cortisol while encouraging relaxation. Prolactin also assists with the regulation of stress responses.

All of that delightful oxytocin also contributes to our overall well-being. In addition to being a superb pain reliever, research suggests that this lovely little hormone also helps reduce anxiety. (Now that’s something we could all do with right now!)

FYI…you don’t even have to orgasm to experience these benefits. Your brain naturally releases the chemical serotonin during foreplay and sexual excitement, which helps to boost sexual satisfaction and regulate mood. Self-love provides the perfect combination of brain-balancing benefits.

Sleep better

We all know the benefits of getting the right amount of quality sleep.

Masturbation triggers the release of neurotransmitters and hormones that assist in lowering tension and blood pressure while also boosting relaxation, which may make falling asleep easier.

A 2019 research of 778 people discovered that people are likely to sleep better post-orgasm. Many respondents reported that masturbating helped them fall asleep faster and sleep better.

Pain relief

Endorphins are painkillers produced by the body. Endocannabinoids are also known to aid in the regulation of pain and inflammation. These natural pain relievers can also ease menstrual cramps.

According to a 2013 study, sexual activity can provide partial or total relief from migraines and certain cluster headaches.

Immune system boosting

Masturbation increases prolactin and endocannabinoids, which assist with immune system regulation. It also increases stress-reducing chemicals and neurotransmitters.

Masturbation may boost hormone levels related to a good mood, such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins.

Increase your self-esteem

Masturbation might cause an increase in adrenaline levels. According to researchers, higher amounts of salivary and urine adrenaline are associated with higher degrees of personal growth or a feeling of life purpose. Learning to please oneself may be powerful and enhance one’s body image.

Neuroprotection

Prolactin has a neuroprotective effect, which reduces brain damage in reaction to stress. Dopamine appears to contribute to healthy cognition as well. Sexual activity boosted recollection and number sequencing in older males and in older females aged 50-89, according to a 2016 study.

Reduced blood pressure

Stress can raise blood pressure. Oxytocin and endocannabinoids can also aid in blood pressure reduction.

Self-love & good vibes are key to a healthier you

Being under constant stress might lead to burnout. In addition to the traditional therapeutic strategy (which includes eating a balanced diet, frequent exercise, and getting a good night’s sleep), masturbation is a fantastic tool that may avoid this stressed condition.

Avoid burnout by including self-care in your everyday practice. Whether you’re working long hours, caring for small children, or even writing exams…be kind to your mind, body, and soul! 

Spilling the tea on wet dreams: Everything YOU need to know!

If there’s one thing that the Netflix hit series Sex Education taught us, it’s that for everything we know and have been taught about sexuality, we still don’t know nearly enough about the vagina. 

Think of it this way: until very recently, the very existence of the clitoris was completely ignored!

So, as a teen waking up in the middle of a wet patch, no one would blame you for thinking that you had some sort of incontinence issue. Of course, if you happened to have a penis, there’s a very high chance that you’d know all too well that you had a nocturnal emission…because that’s just what happens, right?!

It’s hardly fair that those with penises are generally taught about the normality of wet dreams, while the same can’t be said for those with vaginas. As a result, many women just assume that we don’t have them.

But, what exactly is a “wet dream” and why do they occur? There’s a lot to know about wet dreams, some of which might surprise you… 

 

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Our Funn Wet Dream FAQ’s

What is a wet dream?

Simply defined, a wet dream occurs when you ejaculate or release vaginal fluids while sleeping. FYI, most individuals have them, and they are a totally normal component of sleep (but we’ll get into that a bit later!)

 

The term “wet dream” is, in itself, a bit of a misnomer because while a sex dream can result in some sleepy-time splooge, most occur without an apparent explanation.

 

Wet dreams occur during REM sleep when your breathing and heart rate rise, boosting blood flow throughout your body, including your genitals. Due to the increased blood flow, your genitals become hypersensitive to any stimulation.

 

You might wake up in the middle of a wet dream or sleep through it and only know you had one when you wake up with wet sheets.

 

You may not even remember your sex dream when you had your wet dream. Most of the time, your brain controls your dreams so that they focus on sexual symbols rather than scenes. 

 

Women, for example, may have dreams of phallic-shaped items, whereas men may have dreams of tunnels and subways.

Do you only have wet dreams during puberty?

Nope. Wet dreams are more common during adolescence because your body undergoes significant hormonal changes that affect your sexual maturity.

 

But adults, too, experience erotic dreams, especially if they are sexually active.

 

Aside from hormonal fluctuations, wet dreams can be your subconscious mind’s way of dealing with stress. Consequently, orgasms can be quite calming. Therefore, it’s no surprise that the body resorts to a sexual release when sleeping.

 

Can individuals with vaginas have wet dreams?

 

Absolutely! Although the abundance of research and literature out there may make you think that only teenage penis owners have wet dreams.

 

No surprises here…there is a severe paucity of studies on wet dreams among people with vaginas. Still, recent evidence indicates that wet dreams are not exclusive to those with penises. According to current research, most vagina owners experience a sleep orgasm before age 21.

 

Why do wet dreams happen?

Women typically experience wet dreams from dreaming of erotic material involving sexual acts or other arousing dream material. 

 

When whatever is going on in the dream is sufficiently erotic, a woman’s body may naturally respond by creating vaginal lubrication—and if she is sufficiently excited, an orgasm may also ensue.

 

Are wet dreams normal?

Totally! There is no need to be worried or concerned about wet dreams—even if they happen rather frequently—as long as the wet dreams feel good to the dreamer. And it’s completely normal not to have wet dreams and not recall having them.

 

Still, if your dreams ever become uncomfortable or traumatic—especially if there is a history of sexual abuse or a psychological issue—seek professional help as soon as possible.

 

Why are they most commonly associated with boys?

One primary reason is that when boys orgasm, they make semen, a tangible, visible liquid indicating they just orgasmed. But what about women? 

The issue of female orgasms was also somewhat taboo until fairly recently—especially in the case of adolescent females. Wet dreams are therefore more commonly associated with younger males.

 

Do all sex dreams culminate in orgasm?

Nope. Not every sex act ends in orgasm; not every wet dream does either. On the other hand, having an orgasm does not necessarily result in ejaculation or dampness.

Wet dreams can occur both with and without orgasm. You don’t need to orgasm to have some vaginal wetness.

Because of the genital hypersensitivity during REM sleep, even brushing your bedsheets against your body might be enough to set it off.

Sexy thoughts before bed, a lack of sexual activity and orgasm in general, and a greater level of sex hormones can also play a role.

 

Why do I experience sleep orgasms yet struggle to orgasm while awake?

First and foremost, it is not uncommon to have problems with orgasm. Everyone’s capacity to orgasm differs, and many individuals have difficulties climaxing.

This can be caused by several factors, many of which may not impact you as much when you’re sleeping, such as:

  • Chronic pain and other bodily ailments
  • Mental health issues
  • Previous sexual trauma
  • Problems in a romantic or sexual connection
  • Sex repression
  • Not being adequately aroused
  • Body image concerns and inhibitions

Your body and mind relax as you sleep, and your guard is down. Inhibitions related to your body and sex are less likely to impact your arousal. Furthermore, you may be aroused by things in your dream that you are unaware are turn-ons for you.

The good news is that if you can orgasm in your sleep and want to try having an orgasm while awake, your body is physically able. It might just be a question of exploring your fantasies and trying to discover what feels right for you. Experimenting with sex toys can help bring you closer to the Big O!

 

I’ve never experienced a wet dream before. Is this a common occurrence?

Not everyone will experience a wet dream. Some people have a few, while others have many.

Then there are some who, as teens, experience wet dreams but not as adults. Dreams are very intimate, one-of-a-kind experiences that are unique to each individual.

 

Can you make yourself have a wet dream?

Maybe. According to research, sleeping in the prone position (on your stomach) may result in sexual or erotic dreams.

It is unknown why this relationship occurs. However, if you want to put the hypothesis to test, lie on your stomach before going to sleep.

 

Can you avoid having wet dreams?

No, not at all. Sure, some dream specialists believe you can control your dreams.

How so? Some studies show that you may be able to influence your dreamland story. This is known as lucid dreaming, and some ways can help you achieve it.

Just remember that just because you use these techniques doesn’t imply you’ll be able to manage your dreams entirely. There is no way to ensure you will not have a wet dream.

 

In the words of Annie Lennox, sweet (wet) dreams are made of these…

Although not everyone will have a wet dream, there is nothing wrong with experiencing one.

Remember that sleep orgasms, like all orgasms, are profoundly personal. There is no right or wrong way to have one — or two, three, or four. 💦

What is Vaginismus & how can you overcome it?

We all want and expect that sex will feel great and bring pleasure. The truth is, though, that it’s very common for some vulva owners to feel pain during sex. For some, the discomfort is so severe that they are physically unable to have sex. 

If this sounds like you, you could have Vaginismus, a condition that causes the muscles around the vagina to spasm on their own. This makes penetration very painful and, in many cases, impossible.

Despite affecting almost 12–21% of vulva owners in North America, Vaginismus is rarely talked about. As a result, many individuals are left for years not knowing what’s going on with their bodies or how to rectify it.

But there is light at the end of the tunnel for those with the condition, and there are treatments that, with time and effort, can make sex possible and pleasurable. 

The most important thing is to recognize that you have it, which can be extremely difficult if you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable talking about it with other people. Here’s what you should know about Vaginismus.

What is Vaginismus?

This medical condition is characterized by uncontrollable pelvic floor muscular contractions, spasms, and cramps. This might be tightness, cramping, pressure, or discomfort.

These involuntary contractions are usually linked to stimuli (either psychological or physical), such as an anxiety or trauma reaction to sexual penetration or simply an involuntary non-psychological response to pressure or touch in that area.

This can make sexual activity, tampon use, and even a gynecological checkup unpleasant or even impossible.

The pubococcygeus (PC) musculature is the most commonly afflicted muscle group by this ailment (responsible for orgasms, intercourse, bowel movements, urination, and childbirth).

Facts About Vaginismus

  • The condition may worsen with time, but it is curable.
  • It is non-contagious and involuntary (not your fault).
  • Symptoms, severity, and type might differ from person to person.
  • Both medical and psychological reasons can cause Vaginismus.
  • Treatment can be beneficial. 

Do I suffer from Vaginismus?

Although only a medical practitioner can provide an official diagnosis of Vaginismus, many crucial signs may suggest you have this condition. Should you encounter any of these symptoms, consider seeking the advice of a licensed medical professional.

Just know that, while it’s tough to discuss, the situation is more prevalent than you think, and you’re not alone. Your body is communicating with you for a reason. Listen to it, and you’ll be one step closer to conquering any difficulties you’re facing.

Do I suffer from Vaginismus

Types of Vaginismus

1. Primary

The primary type, often known as “lifelong vaginismus,” causes pain and discomfort whenever something penetrates (or attempts to penetrate) the vagina.

People who have the primary type have always had the condition. It is usually first felt when attempting to use a tampon, having first-time intercourse, or when a doctor performs a pelvic examination.

2. Secondary

Secondary vaginismus patients have previously accomplished painless penetration. A life event, change in medical status, new health condition, or life stress may occur, making penetration difficult.

People with this type of Vaginismus may suffer pain or difficulties following penetration.

What are the Symptoms and Signs of Vaginismus?

Dyspareunia (painful sex) is the most common symptom of Vaginismus and is frequently the first sign of a problem. Although the discomfort associated with intercourse usually subsides when the penetration (or attempted penetration) is completed, this is not always the case.

Many women describe the discomfort as a burning sensation, pressure, or as if the penis has hit a block. Women suffering from Vaginismus may also experience bleeding. 

However, sexual intercourse is not the only source of pain. It is usual to experience pain or discomfort when using a tampon or during pelvic examinations.

Other common symptoms are as follows:

  • Inability to insert a tampon
  • Inability to insert a sex toy 
  • Sexual activity-related fear or pain
  • Loss of sexual desire or performance anxiety
  • Pelvic or wall muscle spasms 
  • Hypertonic pelvic floor: unpleasant or painful, lengthy, persistent contractions
  • Hip, hamstring, low back, and abdominal muscular tension

Symptoms might be minor to severe, are involuntary, and may not improve without intervention or therapy.

Vaginismus can cause significant emotional and psychological discomfort, lowering the quality of life and making it difficult to maintain healthy sexual relationships.

What to do if you have Vaginismus

If you suspect you have Vaginismus, the first step is to see your doctor; don’t be shy to request a female doctor if it helps you feel more at ease.

The examination may be uncomfortable, but your doctor will talk you through it and explain everything. To better understand your discomfort, they’ll ask you a few questions about when you feel pain. They’ll also check if your symptoms indicate anything else, such as a urinary tract infection (UTI).

If you have Vaginismus, several therapies are available, and it may take some time to discover the one (or combination of treatments) that works best for you. Four out of five people can enjoy pain-free intercourse after vaginismus treatment.

Treatment options include:

Vaginal Dilators

A vaginal dilator is a plastic or silicone rod used to relax and reduce discomfort in the pelvic floor muscles. Think of it like a medical dildo!

You gently insert the dilator (with lube) each week for a few minutes. You may work at your speed and gradually increase to a larger dilator when ready. Involving a partner may be a terrific way to establish closeness, but remember that you’ll need to be in charge of the situation.

Exercises

Exercises

Exercise might help you regain control of your muscles if you suffer from Vaginismus. Pelvic floor stretches, similar to yoga, can help you strengthen the muscles surrounding your vagina.

Vaginismus Exercises You Can Do At Home

PELVIC FLOOR BREATHING

Start by lying on your back with your legs straight out in front of you. If lying flat is uncomfortable, prop your legs up with one or two pillows. Pay attention to your breathing and try to expand your belly and rib cage.

 

PELVIC FLOOR BREATHING

Imagine them slowly rising up and out like an umbrella opening during the inhale. Allow the ribs and belly to return to their resting position on the exhale.

Getting Better With Each Exercise

Continue the breathing pattern and focus on your pelvic floor to advance this workout. This diamond-shaped set of muscles is placed between your tailbone and pubic bone from front to back and between your sit bones from right to left.

Notice how the pelvic floor dips down on the inhale and then rises back on the exhale. This movement is very slight, and you may perceive it as the tailbone falling toward the floor on the inhale and rising off the floor on the exhale.

This exercise can be performed while you’re seated on a firm chair. The chair might help deliver feedback during the workout by offering additional sensation to the pelvic floor. Keep this slow breathing pattern going for two minutes.

HAPPY BABY POSE

Start by lying on your back. With your legs apart, bring your knees up to your chest, then reach for your big toes. Softly bend your knees and push your feet toward the ceiling. If your hips or hamstrings are tight, use a towel or yoga strap behind your knees to extend your reach. 

HAPPY BABY POSE

Maintain this position while breathing deeply and allowing the pelvic floor to relax. Hold this posture for 2-3 minutes.

DEEP SQUAT

To help with balance, start by standing near a sturdy and steady object. A kitchen counter or a handrail is ideal, but a firm chair can also suffice.

Press your hips backward and drop into a deep squat while holding onto the counter or chair back for support. Breathe deeply into your rib cage and visualize dropping your pelvic floor, just like you did in the previous exercises. Hold this position for 1-2 minutes.

DEEP SQUAT

 

Mindfulness exercises can also be beneficial. You can reduce your anxiety and gain control of your Vaginismus by focusing on your breathing and filtering out undesirable ideas. Meditation, journaling, and adult coloring books are excellent methods to accomplish this.

Physical Therapy for the Pelvic Floor

Your doctor may suggest pelvic floor physical therapy. This therapy is intended to help persons with various pelvic floor disorders, including Vaginismus.

A physical therapist will assess the strength of your pelvic floor muscles and devise a strategy to help strengthen them, which may include exercise and even electrical stimulation.

Physical therapy has the benefit of being more likely to be successful since it is tailored to your specific requirements. According to studies, patients describe it as very rewarding/beneficial.

Counseling and therapy

If you feel a psychological condition is causing your Vaginismus, counseling might help you work through your issues and reduce your anxiety.

As previously stated, Vaginismus can be caused by physical and psychological triggers. Many people with the disorder have already suffered trauma or abuse, particularly in the context of sex.

Individuals will respond differently to treatment and counseling. Cognitive behavioral therapy gives you coping strategies by examining how your ideas and behaviors impact your Vaginismus. 

Sex therapy examines methods for improving communication and intimacy with your spouse. You can boost your confidence in the bedroom by discussing your doubts and concerns.

Botox and surgery

Some clinics offer botox to treat Vaginismus, which relaxes the vaginal muscles. While studies have shown that it can assist with symptoms, it’s important to remember that while Botox can help with the physical issues caused by Vaginismus, it won’t help if there are any underlying psychological concerns.

Remember that you’re not alone

Vaginismus can be uber frustrating, especially if you crave sex but know you’re having difficulties with it. The most important thing to keep in mind is that your condition does not define you. Many people with Vaginismus believe they are “broken,” but this is not the case.

Most people with Vaginismus can still get aroused, which means they can still enjoy oral sex, foreplay, and gentle masturbation. Take your time, and never be ashamed or embarrassed to tell your partner to stop or slow down.

 

Twice the Pleasure, Twice the Funn: How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator

If there ever was an OG sex toy, there’s no doubt that the rabbit vibrator would be it! These veterans of the sex toy world have become a firm favorite of sexually-empowered women since the days when women’s sexual wellness became a priority. 

Since their first mainstream appearance on Sex and the City in 1998, the best rabbit vibrators have become nightstand mainstays.

However, despite their popularity, to newbies, it’s not always apparent what they are, how to use them, or how to find one right for you. Fortunately, that’s our area of expertise! 

Below, you’ll learn everything you need to know about the iconic rabbit vibrator, including what they are and how to use them.

So, what is a rabbit vibrator?

Rabbit vibrators, also known as dual-stimulators, are toys that combine vaginal penetration with clitoral stimulation to provide an integrated, intense sensation that is commonly referred to as a “blended orgasm” or “mixed pleasure.”

Rabbit Vibrators earned their name after Vibratex’s prototype original, the Rabbit Pearl. When it came out in 1984, the Rabbit Pearl had small, soft bunny ears on its external portion that fluttered and flickered on either side of the clit as the toy vibrated. It also had a row of rotating beads on its shaft intended to pleasure the G-spot or vagina.

Modern iterations of the rabbit differ significantly, yet they’ve managed to keep their original name, whether for emotional reasons or sheer, unabashed cute factor.

Today’s rabbit vibes, like genuine rabbits, come in various species. Some clitoral stimulators resemble fingers or knubs, whilst others feature shafts that move, thrust, or rotate. 

While the many combinations of clitoral stimulators and shafts are pretty much limitless, the goal remains the same: simultaneous internal and external pleasure.

FemmeFunn Booster Rabbit

Types of rabbit vibes 

It may surprise you, but there are numerous sorts of rabbit vibrators. Simple models, for example, have a basic wand and ears with no added frills. Others sport a distinct head with ridges to provide additional stimulation during penetration.

Some models include a thrusting motion, so all you have to do is insert it, sit back, relax and enjoy the experience. For those of you who are tired of replacing batteries (aren’t we all?), there are rechargeable vibrators with USB charging – talk about keeping abreast with tech these days! 

What Does a Rabbit Vibrator Do?

A rabbit sex toy is designed to double or triple the pleasure and is often recommended as one of the best vibrators for women. It facilitates a faster, more intense orgasm during solo or couple play.

How do they do it? 

It all comes down to the ergonomic ‘bunny rabbit’ shape and dual motors. The larger, insertable arm vibrates against the upper wall of the vaginal canal (where you’ll find your G-spot), while the smaller arm is for external stimulation, massaging the clitoris.

It’s really quite cool.

Now, we get to the fun part!

How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator

1. Switch it on

If your rabbit is battery-powered, ensure the batteries are fresh. If it’s rechargeable, make sure you’ve charged it, so you’re not caught off guard by the sudden death of your rabbit.  It’s heartbreaking.

(Hint: That’s why you need a rechargeable vibe!)

2. Familiarize yourself with the controls

It can be tempting to get down to business and start using a new toy without properly getting to know it. That’s usually OK because most toys are very intuitive. BUT, with rabbit vibrators, it’s imperative to study the controls first.

Why? Simply put, they have more buttons. There are more controls in many toys because there is a shaft and a clitoral stimulator to work with and because you may operate them independently of each other.

Many rabbit vibrators also spin or stimulate the G-spot with wave-like “come hither” motions. Knowing which buttons control which functions (and the speed, intensity, and patterns) will help you find the most pleasurable combination of settings.

(Of course, some rabbits are far more straightforward. If that’s the case, then don’t worry, just ignore this part!)

3. Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate

Lube makes everything better!  Apply some lube to both the vibe and your body. Please ensure that the lube you use is compatible with the type of materials used to make your toy. 

If you don’t know the material of your toy, stick to water-based lubrication. It’s your safest bet, and you can pretty much use it with everything.

4. Place in position

Insert the vibrator shaft deep enough into the vagina so that the clitoral stimulator is flush against the clitoris. You may need to change up your position or the toy so that it makes touch with the correct areas.

There is no right or wrong way when it comes to using a rabbit vibe. Some people use it while lying on their backs, while others turn over onto their stomachs to grind against the clit stimulator.

You may also use it to increase arousal by stimulating around the vulva and labia initially. Similarly, rabbit vibes can be held in place by a partner in any position that feels comfortable.

If you get the need to utilize your bunny anally, go for it! The majority of rabbit vibrators are anal safe. The clitoral stimulator works as a base, preventing it from moving too high.

5. Activate the controls

Once you’re feeling confident and know how to work the controls, turn it on and set the controls according to your preference. Starting with the lowest setting allows you to gradually build your enjoyment for a stronger climax. 

6. Do whatever makes you happy

Once you’re lubed up, in position, and have your rabbit locked and loaded on your ideal setting combination, the rest is up to you.

You may leave it in place, use it for hands-free Kegels, thrust it in and out, spin it around, so the clit stimulator is on the perineum, or use it while giving or receiving oral sex.

Get creative, and keep in mind that they’re just as enjoyable for partnered sex as for solo play, so do what works for you.

Keep in mind that the clit stimulator will not always contact the body if you thrust it in and out with long or shallow strokes.

That’s fine if it feels wonderful to take it out and replace it every time you thrust, but if you want full contact all the time, focus on shorter, deeper strokes or grind your hips back and forth on it for an in-and-out action.

7. Use it with a partner

While it’s a terrific tool for masturbation, why not bring your spouse along for the ride? Toys, according to educators, can help you enhance your sex life, and we’re here to help. 

Even if you have nothing to complain about, there’s something to be said for taking things to the next level in the bedroom (or on the kitchen counter, we’re not judging).

How does a Rabbit vibrator feel?

Of course, after hearing about all of its features and functions, you’re curious about how the rabbit vibrator feels? Well, let’s just say that considering it provides both internal and outward stimulation, giving you the best of both worlds… it feels pretty darn good! 

By engaging your erogenous zones, you can reach climax faster than ever before. And don’t just take our word for it— look at the toy’s customer reviews before purchasing your rabbit vibe. 

You’ll soon see that many happy customers report having stronger blended orgasms than before, while others straight out encourage every woman to get one.

Well, what are you still waiting for?

Rabbit vibes that never disappoint

So, which rabbit vibrator should you try? 

Hmmm… with so many great options to choose from, that can be a rather tricky question!

To help you out, here are three of our faves:

Booster Rabbit

  • Dual Stimulating Heads
  • Full 360º Rotation
  • Turbo Boost Button
  • 100% Waterproof
  • Quiet

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The Booster Rabbit combines innovative 360º rotation technology with sensational rabbit vibrations for the ultimate dual-action stimulation. 

With its seven external vibration modes, three internal rotation speeds, and supercharged boost mode, it won’t take long to realize that this toy means some serious business—you’re guaranteed continuous waves of orgasmic bliss! 

The Booster Rabbit’s soft silicone rabbit ears gently stimulate external pleasure zones and the boost button cranks up the intensity just when you need it most. With these sorta vibes, expect to reach the summit of Mt Pleasure in record-breaking time!

Pirouette

  • Full 360º Rotation
  • Wireless Remote Control
  • Turbo boost button
  • Sculpted G spot stimulation
  • Harness compatible
  • 100% Waterproof
  • Quiet

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Offering extra pleasure to satisfy even the most experienced sex toy users, the Pirouette’s curved tip strokes the G-spot whilst the external rabbit ear simultaneously stimulates the clitoris. 

It’s harness compatible (making it perfect for solo or partner play) and features 360 degrees of rotation, eight vibration modes, and wireless remote control. It’s also waterproof, so it makes for a great bath companion.

Essenza

  • Standby Mode
  • Magnetic Charging
  • Real Feel Liquid Silicone
  • Splash Proof

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If you need a powerful thrusting sensation to get you there, make a beeline for the Essenza, which moves in a thrusting motion when turned on. 

In addition to the seven thrust speeds, this rabbit vibrator has three external vibration modes, so you can experiment with what feels best. Plus, the rabbit ears serve up clitoral stimulation in abundance—blended orgasms, incoming.

Happy playing!

A rabbit vibrator is one of the most adaptable sex toys around. Whether you want to enjoy some alone time or have your partner(s) do all the hard work, the possibilities are virtually endless!

Check out our other rabbit vibes here 🐰

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