Most women fondly remember the day they started masturbating regularly for the sexual milestone that it is. Whether you use a toy or prefer to keep things au naturel, taking responsibility for your sexual pleasure is empowering on so many levels. It’s a powerful way to get to know your sexual self and come to a much higher understanding of your body.
But make no mistake about it. There’s always a way to make a good thing even better, and a good solo session is no exception. Here’s a look at a few tips, suggestions, and strategies to elevate your solo sessions.
Start (or add to) a sex toy collection.
If you’re still among the uninitiated when it comes to using a vibrator, consider this the sign you’ve been looking for that it’s time to jump on the bandwagon. While it’s true that vibrators are super helpful for those who have trouble reaching orgasm, you don’t have to need one to benefit from having it. Start with something simple and approachable like a magic bullet or a wand massager, and move up to more complex toys when you’re ready.
If you’ve been using a vibrator for a while now, it’s time to consider branching out a little. Treat yourself to a new toy that brings some intriguing or unusual sensations to the table. Upgrade an aging toy to something sleek, modern, and luxurious, capable of providing a world-class experience. It’s worth starting a sex toy collection at some point, as well, so there’s always an option on hand for the experience you’re craving.
Go the extra mile.
Many people see the value in setting the mood for a tryst with a partner, especially when a special occasion is coming up. They’ll break out the sexy sheets, light sumptuous-smelling candles, and pick out just the right playlist. They’ll plan lingerie ensembles, a perfect meal, and maybe even extras like a bubble bath or a massage.
But why should your partner have all the fun? You likely appreciate those special little touches as much as your lover does, so why not treat yourself. Schedule a me day and make up your mind to spend it indulging yourself, up to and including a sweet release at some point.
Add some porn or erotica to the mix.
Haven’t you heard? Porn isn’t just a guy thing anymore. Not only do women love watching other people get their sexy on just as much as men do, but they’re increasingly comfortable being open about it. Plus, the right porn can aid arousal and seriously elevate your solo session from okay to phenomenal in a heartbeat.
Don’t sweat it if the typical fare guys are into isn’t for you. Porn that’s female-driven and female-made is a thing these days, and it’s well worth seeking out. And if you’re into written material, there’s no underestimating the potency of some well-crafted erotica, either. Experiment with and explore different options until you find something you like.
Don’t forget the lube.
While lube is definitely helpful to keep on hand for keeping vaginal dryness at bay, you’re doing yourself a real disservice if that’s the only time you use it. Lube helps convey sensation like an absolute dream, whether you’re getting busy with a toy, your partner, or even just your trusty fingers.
There are also many, many different types of lubes out there to try. Some are scented or flavored for an extra layer of enjoyment. Others bring different sensations to the table, like cooling or warming. There are extra long-lasting lubes that are perfect for marathon play sessions, anal play, and more, as well. Just double-check to make sure your lube of choice is compatible with any toys you may also want to use.
Get your partner involved.
Masturbation doesn’t have to remain a strictly solo endeavor unless that’s the way you want it. Masturbating in front of your partner or side by side with them while they do the same is smoking hot and fun to boot. It’s fantastic to share as a form of foreplay, as well as prime fodder for fantasies to enjoy the next time you’re on your own.
If you’re in a long-distance relationship or temporarily not under the same roof, masturbating over FaceTime together can also be a great way to stay connected and keep your relationship red hot. What better way to channel your inner exhibitionist?
As you can see, going solo doesn’t have to mean cutting out all the frills and fun little touches. Masturbation is an incredible way to elevate your relationship with your sexuality, a fun way to pass the time, and a healthy way to be good to yourself whether you have a partner or not. Explore it to the fullest, and elevate your solo sessions now!