Everyone knows that it’s possible to have too much of a good thing — like chocolate cake, alcohol, or even exercise – but what about sex? Does sex fall into the same category, or is it simply impossible to have too many toe-curling orgasms in your life? The answer is actually “yes”, there is such a thing as too much hanky-panky, but there’s a catch. You’re the only person who can tell whether that’s the case for you. The following are a few signs that you’re either having too much sex or having it for the wrong reasons.
1. You do it so much, you find it hard to reach orgasm.
Granted, everyone has the occasional off night where despite really enjoying the action, an orgasm just isn’t in the cards for whatever reason. Some people also have trouble reaching orgasm as a rule, even if a great sex toy comes along for the ride. You shouldn’t find it nearly impossible to finish when it’s normally not an issue though.
If that becomes the case for you, and you’ve been having a lot of sex, it’s highly likely your body’s just plain spent when it comes to orgasms. Even the horniest body needs a break now and again to power back up and get ready to race another day.
2. Sex is the only way you feel connected in your relationship.
There are a lot of couples out there that go at it pretty much every chance they get, and that can be great. It’s important to make sure sex isn’t subbing in for genuine connection of other types though, so if it feels like you and your significant other do little else, it might be time to think a little bit about the reasons.
Are there other things the two of you like to do that make you feel connected to each other? Is sex your one and only idea of what it means to spend quality time as a couple? Do you feel compelled to take another roll in the hay the minute serious topics come up in conversation? You might want to take a step back and develop your relationship outside of the bedroom for a while.
3. You’re never actually in the mood.
Life happens. Work gets stressful, personal lives get hectic, and energy levels plummet. That can make it hard to have enough get-up-and-go left for sex at the end of the day. However, that’s a state of affairs that should rectify itself once things naturally calm down again. If you’re never in the mood though, it’s worth stopping a moment and considering why.
You don’t necessarily have to be having sex multiple times a day for it to be too much. The human libido rises and falls for lots of reasons, and it’s perfectly natural. If you’re having sex, but can’t remember the last time you actually yearned for it or actively fantasized about it, it’s possible that your libido just needs a little time to recharge.
4. You’re actually injured or in pain.
Everyone knows what it’s like to just be randy and ready because your libido is just that out of control for the moment. Maybe you’re in a brand-new relationship with someone you’re wildly attracted to. Maybe you just bought the best rabbit vibrator you’ve ever owned in your life, and you just can’t stop yourself from taking it out for yet another spin.
That’s all fine and dandy unless you’re starting to hurt because of it. If you’re raw and chapped from the crazy amount of friction you’ve been enjoying lately, it’s time for a break. If you’re so sore you can barely walk, it’s time for a break. If the type of pain you’re in reminds you of your last sports injury, it’s time for a break.
5. It’s getting in the way of you living your life.
Sex should be a way to enhance an already great life, as opposed to the center of it. If you’re genuinely worried you’ve been having too much sex, it’s worth taking a moment to really evaluate the role it plays for you when it comes to your priorities. Sometimes people turn to sex to fill an empty place that’s better filled by something else.
Does sex or the pursuit of it interfere with your ability to function at work or keep up with the rest of your personal life? Do plans you make revolve entirely around looking for or having sex as much as possible? Do you have sex even when you don’t want to just to feel less lonely or bored? You’re almost definitely having too much.
Whether you enjoy it on your own or with a partner, sex can be an amazingly beautifully thing. If it ever stops feeling beautiful, it’s OK to take a break. Your body and mind will thank you for it.