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5 Simple Ways to Look and Feel Sexier Starting Right Now

There are two types of people in the world – those who admit they’d like to feel sexier and those who aren’t being honest with themselves. Being able to command attention and turn every head in the room just plain feels good. Everyone knows or has met someone who positively radiates sex appeal without even trying and has wondered what it would be like to be the same.

Feeling and coming across as effortlessly sexy isn’t necessarily about having a perfect figure or a face that looks like it belongs in a magazine. Sexiness does come more naturally to some people than others, but it’s also something you can learn with enough practice. Here are some great tips for getting started.

1.      Understand that “sexy” is relative.

No two people will have exactly the same ideas as to what makes a particular person sexy. One person may think girl next door-style innocence is the sexiest thing in the world, while someone else might absolutely melt for in-your-face flirtatiousness. People have different ideas about what makes someone’s face, body, demeanor, and attitude sexy, as well.

Don’t waste your energy trying to please everyone (or anyone, in particular, for that matter.) What do you like best about yourself? What features and traits attract the most compliments from other people? Those are the traits that contribute to your own unique “sexy factor,” so focus on playing those up.

2.      Channel your inner confidence.

Although no two people are indeed going to agree on everything that makes a person sexy, confidence is one secret ingredient that’s on almost everyone’s list. Like sexiness, confidence is the type of thing that’s hard to put a finger on, but it is something anyone can cultivate.

It starts with accepting yourself, learning to love the unique person you are, and genuinely believing that you’re sexy. The belief part is critical, as — without it — you’ll never quite get to where you want to be. People instinctively know when someone’s putting on an act, so there’s no way to fake confidence. If you believe you’re red hot sexy, it will show in a way that demands other people think so, too.

3.      Laugh often, and have fun always.

There’s something genuinely infectious about a person who always looks like they’re having a good time. Everyone likes having fun and feeling happy, so they’re naturally drawn to folks who look like they know what that’s all about. Also, laughter and smiles are incredibly sexy no matter what the setting.

One surefire way to look, feel, and seem sexier no matter what you’re doing is to have a good time doing it. Enjoy the moment with wild abandon. Don’t be afraid to let other people hear and see your joy. You never know who might find themselves charmed beyond redemption.

4.      Make it a point to give (and demand) respect.

Sexy, confident people know their value. Even if they’re also the humble type, they don’t allow others to take them for granted or treat them as an option when they know they deserve to be a priority. Always treat yourself and others with respect, and demand that those you keep company with do the same.

As with believing that you’re sexy, knowing in your heart that you truly have worth ensures you’ll be treated well. Surround yourself with people who also agree that you’re valuable and worthy. They’ll help your confidence and sense of self-love to grow, making you even more irresistible.

5.      Treat yourself to sexy things.

Sexy people who believe they’re worth it take good care of themselves from the inside out. They make it a point to eat right and work out because they love feeling healthy and being good to themselves. They dress in a way that makes them feel attractive, and they’re always careful to practice good grooming, as they know a great impression is often about those little details.

They also buy themselves little treats that make them feel sexy instead of always waiting for someone else to do it. Don’t buy or wear sexy lingerie only when you know someone else will see you in it. Buy it for yourself, and bask in the beautiful feeling that comes with wearing it when you want. Do the same with items like satin sheets, luxurious perfumes, fun adult toys, or anything else that helps you feel sexy and irresistible.

Ultimately, the best way to be one of the sexy people is to start thinking like one and treating yourself like one. Sexy people are comfortable in their own skins. They know what makes them unique, and they play those things up. They also get that life’s about enjoying yourself to the fullest. They love themselves, they love their lives, and they own it! Start doing the same, and it’s only a matter of time before you’re where you want to be.

What Every Beginner Should Know About Their First Sex Toy

Even the most experienced pleasure connoisseur had to start somewhere when it came to their impressive sex toy collection, but that’s easier said than done for most beginners. It doesn’t exactly help that today’s consumer has hundreds of different options to choose from. As exciting as having choices can be, it’s naturally confusing, as well.

Then there are all the myths, misconceptions, and wrong ideas those who aren’t in the know still have about sex toys. The more you know about how to choose, use, and take care of your sex toy before you even pick it out, the more you’ll get out of the experience. Here are a few key things you’ll want to keep in mind about your first sex toy.

Sex toys are right for everyone.

Although society’s more knowledgeable and sex-positive than it was years ago, many people still think sex toys are solely for specific people when they’re for everyone. You don’t need to be a woman to benefit from a sex toy, nor do you have to be single. People of every gender and every relationship status can and do use sex toys regularly, couples included.

Sex toys don’t have to be phallic.

If you’re into representational sex toys that look (and feel) exactly like penises, you have options out there and shouldn’t shy away from exploring them. That’s not a requirement, though. Many of today’s most popular toys are designed with various unique aspects of a person’s anatomy in mind and don’t look anything like penises. A sex toy doesn’t even have to be insertable to be pleasurable to use and bring a lot to your sex life.

Body-safety is a must.

Whatever sex toy you choose, keep in mind that it’s going to get up close and personal with some of your most sensitive areas. That makes body-safety a key concern, but not all toys are equal in this regard. Cheaper bargain toys are the most likely to come with safety concerns, so it’s worth investing in a high-end toy from a brand with a great reputation. Read the packaging on the toys you’re considering and do your research, as well.

Do as much homework as you need to.

Speaking of research, there’s no such thing as too much when you’re in the market for your first sex toy. There’s absolutely no reason to go with the first option you see unless you genuinely want to. Take your time and see what’s out there first. Google your little heart out. Have a good look through some of the many toy review blogs out there. Ask your friends what they recommend if you’re comfortable doing so. Remember, this is about you and what gets you excited.

Proper care is so important.

Your vibrator is an investment in your pleasure, and it deserves to be treated that way. Don’t simply toss it in your nightstand drawer or stuff it between your mattress and your box spring for safekeeping. If your toy came with a storage bag, make sure you store it in that, separately from any other toys or accessories. Get into the habit of washing your sex toy after every single use, as well. Plain, unscented soap and water work just fine in many cases, but a good spray-on, wipe-off toy cleaner is an excellent alternative in a pinch. The better you are at taking care of your sex toy, the longer you’ll be able to enjoy everything it brings to your life.

The right lube is your friend.

Just as the right sex toy can be an absolute game changer when it comes to your sex life, so can the right lube. Don’t just think of it as something to keep on hand in case it’s needed, either. A little lube goes a long way when it comes to reducing friction and maximizing sensation. Just make sure your lube of choice is safe to use with your toy before you start playing. When in doubt, go with a water-based lube, as it will be compatible with just about anything.

Sex toys aren’t dirty little secrets.

Although some people are more comfortable being open about their sex toys than others, there’s no reason to hide that you use a toy, especially from a partner. Quality solo sex is a healthy part of absolutely anyone’s life, so there’s nothing to be ashamed of. And toys can be such huge game changers in the bedroom, so it’s well worth using one with your partner at some point. If you like how it goes, consider shopping for additional options to add to your collection together. It’s a beautiful way to nurture intimacy and expand your horizons as a couple.

If you’ve never used a toy before and are getting ready to buy your first one, you’re in for a real treat. In fact, your sex life may never be quite the same, but in the best possible way. Get excited!

How to Spot and Avoid Sexual Red Flags

Ask anyone who’s survived a bad relationship or two, and they’ll tell you the same thing. They’ll say they should have seen it coming because all the red flags were there right from day one. With any luck, they go into their next relationship a little better prepared.

Not all relationship red flags have to do with the other person not supporting your goals or not wanting you to see your friends, though. Some of them make themselves apparent in the bedroom, so it pays to be aware. Here’s a look at some of the most common sexual red flags and what you should do if you spot them.

They have an unhealthy attitude toward your orgasm.

A good relationship partner understands that sex is about both people involved. They want to please you, and they care whether you’re having an orgasm as often as you wish. Avoid people who don’t care whether you get off and can’t be bothered to try to help you get there.

You’ll also want to be careful of people who seem obsessed with getting you there no matter what. A partner should be able to listen when you tell them it’s just not happening tonight without taking it personally. And no one should ever shame you or imply something’s wrong with you if you can’t orgasm through penetration alone, need a sex toy to get there consistently, and so forth.

They insult your body (or you worry they will.)

Even supermodels aren’t as perfect in real life as their flawlessly airbrushed photos might make them appear. Real people usually have flaws. They have cellulite, stretch marks, and armpit fat. Anyone lucky enough to be in bed with you should be mature enough to accept that, especially since it’s unlikely they’re perfect themselves.

It’s just as big a red flag if their actions outside of the bedroom make you feel like you can’t trust them to love your body as it is. Do they often make weird or unsettling comments about other women’s bodies? Do they practically break their neck staring at every stone goddess that walks by when you’re out together? If so, you’re probably right to wonder about their priorities.

They shame you for what you do or don’t like in bed.

While there’s nothing wrong with keeping things on the vanilla side if that’s what you prefer, there’s an entire world of sexual flavors out there to try. A particular partner may or may not be into exploring everything on your list, but they should never make you feel ashamed of what turns you on or laugh at any of your fantasies.

On the flip side, they shouldn’t pressure you to do things you’re not comfortable with, either. If your partner ever makes you feel like you can’t say “no” to something they want in the bedroom, that’s a big sexual red flag, run the other way. Their respect for you as a person should outweigh their desire to do whatever it is they have in mind.

The chemistry isn’t there on your end.

Sometimes a particular partner looks good on paper, but things never really come together when it’s time to get closer physically. Are you sometimes put off by kissing or making out with them for reasons you don’t totally understand? Maybe you don’t feel as excited as you usually would about the idea of being intimate with them or can’t get into things without pretending they’re someone else.

If not exactly a huge red flag, it’s still a subtle signal from your body that you’re not that into someone. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it’s still significant. Life’s too short to spend it with someone in your bed who makes you feel lukewarm at best about the idea of having sex with them.

You can’t seem to agree when it counts.

No two people will be exactly alike when it comes to their sex drives and bedroom preferences, but you should at least feel like compromise is possible. If you’re just so darned different that the two of you are basically taking turns feeling unsatisfied, that’s a sexual red flag and it might be time to rethink some things.

Are you in the mood to get down and dirty multiple times a week (or even per day) while they’re happy with only a couple of times a month? Is their absolute favorite bedroom activity something you find barely tolerable at best? Are they good at listening when you try to open specific topics up for conversation? If not, it might be a sign you’re not that compatible after all.

Relationships may not be all about sex, but the state of your sex life and the health of the rest of your relationship often go hand in hand. If things aren’t right in the bedroom, and you can’t seem to find any common ground with your partner, it might be time to reconsider.

7 Sexy Resolutions For Every Woman’s List in 2021

If you’re like most women who make New Year’s resolutions every year, you tend to focus on doing less, as opposed to more. Some people vow to cut back on their drinking or make fewer fast-food runs. Others plan on watching less television or spending less time sitting around, wasting time in general. But doing more can be just rewarding and fulfilling.

This is especially the case for your intimate life, both with your partner (if you have one) and yourself. The following are just a few potential sexy resolutions that may help you upgrade your sexual satisfaction factor in a big way this year. Don’t be afraid to let your imagination run wild and come up with more.

1.      Treat yourself to new lingerie for your benefit.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with buying something sexy to slip into because you know it will drive your partner wild, but why leave yourself out of the equation? After all, it’s your body, and you’ll be the one wearing the items you pick. This year add something to your lingerie drawer because it makes you feel like a straight siren. Chances are, your partner will like it too, so it’s a win-win.

2.      Spend more time going solo.

Don’t make the mistake of assuming masturbation is only for people who aren’t in relationships. Solo sessions have a place in every woman’s life, whether she’s attached to someone else or not. They’re an incredible way to care for yourself, nurture your understanding of your body, and discover new sensations to enjoy. Treat yourself to a new luxury vibrator from a top manufacturer like FemmeFunn, and get 2021 started with a bang!

3.      Fall madly in love with your body.

Yes, even the parts you don’t like so much. The better your appreciation of your body, especially in a sexual context, the more satisfying your intimate life will be going forward. Self-consciousness can distract you from thoroughly enjoying yourself, especially when you’re with a partner. However, an unshakeable sense of comfort in one’s own skin can be a gamechanger. Make this the year you fall in love with your body and make peace with your imperfections.

4.      Check out female-directed porn.

Visual porn may or may not be your jam, but if it is, you really owe it to yourself to check out some woman-directed material this year. Porn from female directors tends to be more body-positive and a lot more realistic than what you’re used to seeing from male directors. It’s often more artistic and easier for female viewers to connect to, as well. Do yourself a favor, and see what’s out there this year. It’s hot and inspiring.

5.      Make speaking up in bed one of your sexy resolutions.

When it comes to partnered sex, communication is the key to getting what you want out of the experience, so don’t be shy about speaking up in 2021. The key to success here is to focus on the positive and ask for things that feel good instead of criticizing something that isn’t working as well. Tell your partner how good it would make you feel if they stroked you a certain way or how hot it would make you if they tried out a particular position. Your partner wants to please you, so they’ll likely be more than eager to oblige.

6.      Commit to having only genuine orgasms.

Yes, you read that right. Most women have faked it a time or two over the years, and it’s unlikely you’re any different. It’s well worth your while to graduate to having only real orgasms, though. If your partner isn’t stimulating you the way you need to have the orgasms you’re after, it’s time to open up the lines of communication. Otherwise, you’re only encouraging them to do more of what’s already not working, and neither of you truly wants that.

7.      Learn something new about sex.

Add a sex book to your collection, and read it cover to cover in 2021. Sign up for a good sex class, or opt for a self-led video course instead if you’re more of a self-starter. Not only is learning new things fun and enriching, but you might be surprised at just how many new techniques, tricks, and tips you pick up in the process. Go for more generalized coverage on the topic of sex, or focus on something specific you’d personally like to excel at – like blow jobs or rope-tying, to name just two examples. You’ll be glad you made an effort.

A brand new year is like a nice, clean slate you can make into whatever you want. After the never-ending weirdness that was 2020, you owe it to yourself to indulge in a few upgrades in 2021. Why not start with your sex life?

How to Build Your Body Confidence and Feel at Ease in Your Own Skin

Naturally, women today know that they should feel at ease in their own skin, regardless of what it looks like. Putting that thinking into practice can be challenging, though. Regardless of their size or shape, modern women are continually sent the message that they’re not good enough as they are.

Tuning out all the negativity feels impossible sometimes, especially when it seems like that’s all you hear, but it’s worth it. Nothing feels as good as self-acceptance and rampant self-love. Here’s how to build your sense of body-confidence and fall madly in love with who you are.

Focus on health, not looks.

What motivates your approach to eating, exercise, and physical self-care? A body-confident person with a healthy self-image always makes that call with proper health in mind. They eat to nourish themselves and exercise as a way to care for their body. It’s not about reaching or maintaining a particular weight.

Even if it’s hard, it’s time to stop focusing on the scale or how many inches your waist may have on it. Be good to your body instead. Feed it plenty of good quality foods – lean protein, whole grains, and fresh produce. Drink water like it’s your job, and go easy on the alcohol. Exercise by partaking in activities you enjoy and that make you feel alive. You’ll love the difference it makes.

Compliment yourself daily.

Body-confident women appreciate it when others pay them compliments, but they don’t wait around for it to happen. They pay themselves compliments first. Try it sometime, and work on making it a habit. Do it even if it feels silly at first, and do it every day. Remind yourself that these are true things you’re saying and that you deserve to hear them.

How you do this is up to you. Some women do enjoy looking at themselves in the mirror and paying themselves verbal compliments. However, using a journal to focus on what you like about yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is just as effective.

Get to know yourself sexually.

Society still trains women to think of an orgasm (or sensual pleasure of any kind) as something a woman waits for her partner to give her. It should be something every woman knows she can give to herself anytime she’s in the mood and in whatever manner she chooses. Learning your way around your own body is the best way to know what types of touch you respond best to. That’s information you can then use to improve your sex life with your partner.

There’s nothing wrong with doing things the old-fashioned way with fingers alone, but a good vibrator is too good to miss out on. Treat yourself to a luxury vibrator you can count on to come through for you. Then have a blast taking your solo sessions to the next level.

Do things for yourself often.

Telling yourself you’re worth it is a great start when it comes to building solid body-confidence, but you shouldn’t stop at mere words. Confident women show their love for themselves with actions, as well. Go out of your way to be kind to yourself and treat yourself to things or activities that make you feel your best.

Need a breather from an over-hectic social life? Schedule a weekend alone to regroup and recuperate. Pour yourself a glass of wine and treat yourself to a long, hot bubble bath. Spend an entire Sunday morning on a luxury skincare routine. Treat yourself to a day at the spa or splurge on that gorgeous new pair of boots you’ve wanted since forever. You deserve it, and you’re worth it.

Style yourself for you.

If you’re like many women, you’re conditioned to think that looking good is something you do to impress other people and gain their approval. And it’s OK to enjoy turning a few heads because it feels good. Just don’t build your whole aesthetic around what you think other people want to see from you.

First of all, it’s impossible to please everyone. Second, no one else’s opinion matters more than your own. Style yourself according to what you think is beautiful. Wear clothes that make you feel amazing and that you feel express who you are to the rest of the world. That can mean dressing to the nines in heels, lots of makeup, and a fresh blowout every day, or it can mean going au naturel every day in jeans, a t-shirt, and a fresh face. It’s your life and your body, so you, do you!

The more you consciously practice body-positivity and self-love in your life, the easier it will become. Before you know it, loving yourself and treating yourself like the queen you are will be second nature. Try it and see!

5 Simple Tips for Boosting Your Body Confidence Quotient

Everyone occasionally struggles with their body image, but it’s important not to normalize negative self-talk or to let criticizing your body become a habit. Cultivating a positive, confident attitude toward your body instead is too beneficial to miss out on. It lowers your likelihood of developing mental health issues like depression and anxiety. Body confidence leads to happier, stronger relationships overall as well, including the one you have with yourself.

The following tips can help you start breaking bad body-image habits and replace them with healthy, nurturing new ones. Which ones will you start with first? How do you like to keep negative thoughts and feelings about your body at bay?

1.      Fall in Love with Exercise

If you think of exercise as nothing more than a way to conform to narrow social standards about what your body should look, it’s officially time to think again. Regular exercise is an important part of staying healthy and taking care of your body on every level, including mentally and emotionally. It’s also something that deserves to be enjoyed, as opposed to treated as a punishment for eating too many doughnuts.

Any activity that gets you up and moving counts as exercise, so choose something you genuinely enjoy. Yes, you’ll love how toned exercise makes you look, but you’ll also find yourself celebrating everything your body can do before too long.

2.      Limit Social Media Use

If you could swear scrolling through your feeds on Facebook or Instagram makes you feel worse about yourself, it’s not your imagination. The endless parade of vacation photos, perfect selfies, and humblebrags can easily give onlookers the impression that they’re the only ones out there who aren’t completely satisfied with their lives or their looks.

Keep in mind that other people’s pages are carefully curated highlight reels, so you’re only seeing what they want you to see. (Facetune and Photoshop make it even easier to make life seem perfect when it’s anything but.) Limit your screen time to make staying in touch with reality easier. Fill your feeds with people, brands, and accounts that inspire you, as opposed to bringing you down.

3.      Take Control of Your Pleasure

Not feeling as body-confident as you’d like can affect your ability to enjoy intimacy with a partner. If you’re busy worrying about how your body moves or your O-face looks, you’re not getting lost in how pleasurable the experience is. The same thing can happen if you’re too focused on your partner’s pleasure at the expense of your own.

A great way to cultivate a better relationship with your body is to learn how to please it. Treat yourself to a fantastic new luxury sex toy and put it through its paces. Learning what types of stimulation feel the best to your body helps you enjoy partnered sex more. You’ll become a more passionate, less inhibited lover as well. It’s hard not to fall madly in love with your body under circumstances like those.

4.      Upgrade Your Look

When you aren’t happy with your body, it’s all too easy to let your look go stale over the years. You get into the habit of wearing shapeless, nondescript things to hide your figure and trying your hardest to blend in instead of standing out. It’s easy to forget how much fun expressing yourself through your looks can be.

You don’t have to wear a size two to treat yourself to clothing that makes you look good and feel good. Breathe new life into your wardrobe by getting rid of anything that doesn’t fit, doesn’t make you look good, or isn’t “you” anymore. Replace those things with stylish, contemporary new clothes that are not only comfortable but make you look your best.

5.      Focus on the Positive

Life is about so much more than what you look like. It’s also way too short not to spend it appreciating everything that makes it awesome. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself and love about your life. Hang it up somewhere you’ll see it often and be reminded to keep things in perspective. Actively work on replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations as well.

It’s OK if you have to fake it at first. Thinking more positively will likely become second nature given enough time and practice. If not, there’s no shame in asking a counselor for additional help. Sometimes body image issues have underlying causes that need to be addressed before you can get where you want to be.

At the end of the day, all bodies are beautiful, capable, and worthy of being appreciated. Yours is no exception, so take steps to love it a little more sooner rather than later. You’ll be glad you did.

5 Adventurous Sex Ideas Best Approached with Caution

While movies, television, and popular culture can be great sources of inspiration when it comes to your bedroom repertoire, some adventurous sex ideas translate into real life a lot better than others. There’s no need to remove them from your sexual bucket list just yet though. Just think them through thoroughly before you try them for best results.

1.      Having a One-Nighter

When you’re happily single or in between relationships, casual sex can be a terrific way to scratch that all-too-familiar itch without taking on a commitment you’re not ready for. If you’re new to going casual though, don’t just impulsively have a one-night stand on a whim. As sexy as they sound, one-nighters aren’t for everyone.

Have a one-nighter because the idea of casual sex sounds truly exciting to you. Don’t do it just to prove a point to yourself or someone else. Be prepared to be responsible about your sexual health as well. Don’t simply hope the other person will have protection on hand. Always carry your own on you and insist on using it.

2.      Getting Naughty in Public

If you’ve ever considered getting down and dirty with your partner (or even yourself) in public, you’re far from alone. Most people have at least fantasized about it at one time or another, but there’s a fine art to actually getting away with it. People can and do wind up with lasting sex offender records for public sex, so you don’t want to get caught.

The good news is you don’t have to get naughty in a super-conspicuous location to experience the rush public sex can bring to the table. Pick a place and time that carries a low risk of being spotted, like your enclosed back yard or patio late at night or early in the morning when your neighbors are almost surely in bed.

3.      Sexting

If it feels like most of your friends are into sexting these days, it’s probably because they are. It’s estimated that around half of all people at least occasionally use their trusty smartphones to send naughty IMs, spicy text, and even racy nudes. Sexting can be super-hot, not to mention a great way to keep sparks flying between you and someone special when you’re apart, but it’s always a good idea to proceed with caution any time you’re sending intimate information or images.

While it might not be the most adventurous sex idea, always consider the possible consequences if you accidentally sent a naughty text to the wrong person or it otherwise fell into the wrong hands. One person’s “a little embarrassing” could easily be another’s “life-ruining”, so choose your sexting partners with care as well. Unless you’re completely unbothered by the idea of your sexts or nudes possibly being shared around, it might be best to limit sexting to a long-time partner or really close friend-with-benefits.

4.      Indulging in a Three-Way

Like public sex, threesomes are common fantasy fuel for millions of people. Just don’t let the movies fool you into thinking they’re best experienced spontaneously in the heat of the moment. A threesome can be a wonderful way to experiment and push your sexual boundaries, but you may be putting your relationship at risk if you don’t thoroughly plan and discuss things first.

Make sure this is something you both want to do, because it’s sure to spell trouble for your relationship otherwise. Go over things like what’s off-limits for each of you and how you each want the event to go down. Choose a partner together. Agree that either of you can simply shut down what’s going on at any time if you’re uncomfortable as well.

5.      Shower Sex

As adventurous sex ideas goes, shower sex is unlikely to carry harmful repercussions for your relationship or social life if things don’t go as planned, it can find someone getting hurt if you’re not careful enough. Keep in mind that most showers mean working within pretty close quarters, so it’s a good idea to be limber enough to make it work. Don’t let the hot, wet circumstances cause a bad fall or any unfortunate slipping either.

Add some traction to the floor of your tub with some well-placed appliques or a removable grip mat. Handrails in strategic places can be real godsends as well. (Just make sure they’re securely installed.) Last but not least, double check that any adult toys you’d like to add to the mix are fully waterproof and that all seals are intact before bringing them along for the ride.

Although the movies never make it seem that way, a little planning and preparedness are the keys to outside-the-box thinking that takes adventurous sex over the top. Put it into play for yourself the next time you’re thinking of mixing things up!

How to Get in Touch with Your Inner Sex Kitten

Knowing you’d like to be more confident, both in and out of the bedroom, is easy. It’s getting in touch with that confidence and making it feel natural that’s really challenging. That said, have you always longed to be a more effortlessly sexual person? Would you like to be the sort of woman who’s unabashedly comfortable in her own skin? It’s simpler than you probably think.

That brand of raw sexuality that seems to flow so naturally for some people has a lot less to do with actual sex than you think. Sure, being comfortable with the idea of wearing a strap-on or dominating a partner like a boss can be sexy in its own way. However, it has a lot more to do with self-love and self-acceptance. Thankfully, these are qualities you can learn to cultivate with time and patience.

It Has to Be About You

Wanting to grow into a more primal version of yourself is admirable, but it’s important to do it for the right reasons. That said, what are your reasons for wanting to be more outwardly sexual? Is this something a partner pressured you into feeling you need to do in order to be more acceptable to them, or is it something you want to do for yourself?

Ultimately, channeling your inner sex kitten is about learning to love and appreciate yourself. Sexy, confident women don’t worry about whether they’re enough for their partners. They simply focus on being the best possible versions of themselves, resting easy in the knowledge that the right partner will appreciate that authenticity.

Address Any Underlying Issues

A person’s sexuality and sex drive can be pretty complex, so you’ll definitely want to ask yourself why you’re having trouble being as sexual as you want to be. Is it simply a confidence issue, or are there underlying medical or physical issues at work as well? If you struggle with a lack of desire or low sex drive, and you’re not sure why, consider asking a doctor about underlying issues that might be at play. You might be surprised how much it helps.

Taking good care of yourself physically is also key when it comes to maintaining a happy, healthy sex life. Nourish yourself with wholesome foods, move around as much as possible, keep stress to a minimum, and practice healthy self-care. When you’re good to the body you’re in, it’s easier to build a relationship with it and ultimately learn to love it more.

Communicate with Your Partner

If you’re in a relationship or otherwise have a regular sex partner, bringing them on board with what you’re trying to do will be really helpful. Let them know you’re working on becoming more confident and ask them to support you in your efforts however they can. If there’s something specific you need from them, let them know what that is. If your partner truly cares about you as they should, they’ll be happy to help any way they can.

You’ll also want to spend as much quality time as possible with your partner. Intimacy and chemistry in the bedroom go hand in hand with connection everywhere else. Foster a deeper connection as far as your relationship goes in general, and you might be surprised how quickly your inner sex kitten comes out.

Learn What You Like

Far too many women have little to no idea what they really enjoy sexually, because they wrongly think sex has to involve someone else in order to be worthwhile. Connecting with a partner in the bedroom is great, but sexually confident women know how to appreciate pleasure for its own sake all on their own as well. If you’re not in the habit of masturbating on your own, it’s officially time to start.

Pick a private, quiet place where you won’t be interrupted and simply enjoy the process of exploring your body. Experiment with different types of touch and stimulation. Invest in a couple good quality sex toys that appeal to you, and practice bringing yourself to orgasm in different ways. Exploring different types of porn or erotica can be a wonderful way to discover new turn-ons (and turn-offs) as well. The more you know about yourself sexually, the easier it will be to let your inner sex kitten off the leash more often.

Define Sexy for Yourself

Last but definitely not least, decide what sexy looks like and feels like to you, and cultivate that aesthetic. Maybe the epitome of feminine sex appeal to you really is do-me pumps, tight dresses, and lots of red lipstick. If that’s the case, that’s great, but sexy can just as easily look like jeans, a white t-shirt, and a freshly scrubbed face.

At the end of the day, you need to be able to look in the mirror and see someone you think is sexy looking back at you. Once you can do that, the rest is easy. Are you ready to get started?

5 Sex- Related Things Every Woman Should Add to Her New Year’s Resolution List

Don’t make the mistake of thinking every New Year’s resolution has to be about nipping bad habits in the bud by doing less of something negative. Sometimes it can be just as beneficial to do more of something positive, especially when it comes to having better sex or developing a better relationship with your body. The following are just a few sexy, intimate New Year’s resolution suggestions that every woman should consider in the year to come.

1.      No More Faking It

Over half of all women admit to having faked an orgasm at least once over the course of their lives, so if this is something you’ve done, you’re definitely not alone. If it’s something you still do, consider making the new year to come the year you graduate from faking it to enjoying the real thing and nothing but.

Although your intentions are probably honorable as to why you’re faking it in the first place, keep in mind that you’re cheating yourself out of enjoying a real orgasm every time you do. Do something different this year so you can stop missing out, like getting vocal about how you really like to be touched or bringing a sex toy into the bedroom to enjoy as a couple.

2.      Masturbate More Often

Did you know that 20 percent of woman say they’ve never masturbated before? An additional 40 percent say they haven’t within the past month for various reasons, up to and including being in a relationship. Where do you fall on the scale? Is masturbation something you see as a lackluster substitute for sex with a partner, or is it something you appreciate as its own unique activity?

Indulging in regular self-love sessions is one of the best things a women can do for her relationship with her own body, as well as for her sex life in general. Why not let the new year be the year you make more time for solo sessions? Not only will you feel amazing, but your sex life with your partner will likely improve as well. Put that on your New Year’s resolution list.

3.      Try a Luxury Sex Toy

Speaking of taking solo pleasure more seriously this year, when was the last time you treated yourself to a really great sex toy – the kind of toy that can teach even a veteran a thing or two about how to enjoy an orgasm? If it’s been a while, consider this the sign you’ve been waiting for that you should totally splurge on a sweet new luxury toy for your collection this year.

FemmeFunn’s extensive catalog of designer sex toys is the perfect place to look for your next big toy obsession. Try a vibrator that brings a new function to the table to explore, or pick up a multi-purpose toy to try with your partner sometime soon. Sex toys are game changers when it comes to every kind of sexual pleasure, and it’s impossible to go wrong with any of the FemmeFunn masterpieces currently on the market.

4.      Make Peace with Your Body

If you’re one of the millions of women who can’t seem to help obsessing over body parts they don’t like, know that you’re not alone. Not only do a lot of women have things they really don’t like about how their body looks or functions at times, but more men than you’d think have the same issue. You don’t necessarily have to fall head over heels in love with your body, but it’s definitely to your benefit to simply be more accepting of it as it is this year.

Obsessing over certain body parts only makes it harder to enjoy the moment and everything that’s going on when you’re having sex. If it helps, know that your partner is only thinking about how perfect you are. They’re completely lost in how good you look and feel, so give yourself permission to get lost in them as well.

5.      Try Something New in Bed

It’s time to add adventurous to your New Year’s resolution list. No matter how many times you’ve been around the block, there’s always something new to discover, try, or get excited about when it comes to sex. Make this year the year you add to your list of favorite ways to get down and dirty (with or without a partner). Even if you’re not usually the most adventurous sort, a little change can do a lot of good when it comes to keeping sex stimulating and electric.

What you try is up to you. When was the last time you tried a new position or did something to change up a position you already love? How about the last time you got busy somewhere brand new or got a little frisky in public? Anything goes so long as both you and anyone else involved are equally excited about it. Go ahead and get creative!

Women’s Sexual Health Essentials for a Happy, Satisfying Sex Life

Sex is so much more than just a fun way to spend a little free time. Numerous studies have proven that it’s also great for your health, not to mention a beneficial part of any well-rounded lifestyle. It’s a great way to get closer and more intimate with a partner (or with yourself) as well. However, there’s a fine art to getting things right when it comes to sex, especially if you’re a woman. Here’s a closer look at a few things every woman needs when it comes to making the absolute most of her life as a sexual being.

Healthy Body Image

Body image plays a huge role in any person’s ability to thoroughly enjoy sex. However, social pressures and persistent beauty standards that are far from realistic can make establishing and maintaining a healthy body image especially tough for women. Factors that can contribute either positively or negatively to a woman’s body image include weight, age, perceived sexual attractiveness, and so forth.

For some women, cultivating a positive body image means staying fit and keeping up with a beauty routine that meets their needs. However, others find it much more empowering to simply accept themselves as they are. It’s up to every woman to decide what loving herself looks like to her. Just keep in mind that a partner isn’t going to be anywhere near as focused on what you look like in bed as you think they will. Most people’s personal tastes tend not to conform to the going social standard anyway.

Knowing Your Likes and Dislikes

Reaching a place where you’re comfortable in your own skin is only part of the equation when it comes to enjoying yourself to the fullest in bed. You also need to have a solid, honest understanding of what you do and don’t like in bed, which is a challenge for a lot of women. Start by figuring out what turns you on both mentally and emotionally, as well as what turns you off. Exploring porn or erotica can be very helpful when it comes to learning about the possibilities and seeing which ones do and don’t intrigue you.

A really amazing vibrator and plenty of solo intimate time is perhaps the best way to discover all the ways your body likes to be touched. You don’t have to worry about meeting another person’s expectations or be concerned about how long it does or doesn’t take you to reach orgasm when you’re on your own. You’re free to simply explore to your heart’s content and focus on pleasing yourself without inhibition or fear of judgment. You can then communicate what you learn to your partner to make your sex life together even more fulfilling.

Emotional Security and Trust

Even when she’s into a more casual, carefree approach to sex, a woman really needs to feel safe and secure on every level when she’s intimate with someone else. Emotional security and trust are especially important if you’re married or committed to someone for the long term. That said, it’s important to promptly address any issues that might be stopping you from feeling as connected as you should when it comes to your partner.

Don’t be afraid to bring up problems or concerns that may be causing emotional distance on either person’s end. It’s also important to continually address concerns about STD status, birth control, and other sexual health topics, especially if you’re in an open relationship, are in a “friends with benefits” type situation or prefer a casual approach to your sex life. Never let anyone make you feel like you’re out of line for bringing such topics up for discussion.

Realistic Expectations

Popular culture has sold men and women alike on the idea that every woman should be able to reach orgasm quickly, easily, and under every possible circumstance. If you’re still buying into that concept yourself, it’s officially time to stop. In reality, very few women can reach orgasm at the drop of a hat or within seconds. For most, becoming properly and adequately aroused takes time and patience, especially as people grow older.

Take advantage of some of the absolutely amazing products on the market that are designed to make sex better and more comfortable. Lubricants are a great place to start, and can be a game changer whether you need the help in that department or not. You may also want to consider introducing toys and other fun gear options into partnered play. You might be surprised at how big a difference the right toy can make for both of you.

At the end of the day, sexual fulfillment is easier to achieve than you might think. It’s largely about reaching a place where you’re completely comfortable with yourself, your body, and any partners you might decide to bring into the mix.

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