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5 Simple Ways to Look and Feel Sexier Starting Right Now

There are two types of people in the world – those who admit they’d like to feel sexier and those who aren’t being honest with themselves. Being able to command attention and turn every head in the room just plain feels good. Everyone knows or has met someone who positively radiates sex appeal without even trying and has wondered what it would be like to be the same.

Feeling and coming across as effortlessly sexy isn’t necessarily about having a perfect figure or a face that looks like it belongs in a magazine. Sexiness does come more naturally to some people than others, but it’s also something you can learn with enough practice. Here are some great tips for getting started.

1.      Understand that “sexy” is relative.

No two people will have exactly the same ideas as to what makes a particular person sexy. One person may think girl next door-style innocence is the sexiest thing in the world, while someone else might absolutely melt for in-your-face flirtatiousness. People have different ideas about what makes someone’s face, body, demeanor, and attitude sexy, as well.

Don’t waste your energy trying to please everyone (or anyone, in particular, for that matter.) What do you like best about yourself? What features and traits attract the most compliments from other people? Those are the traits that contribute to your own unique “sexy factor,” so focus on playing those up.

2.      Channel your inner confidence.

Although no two people are indeed going to agree on everything that makes a person sexy, confidence is one secret ingredient that’s on almost everyone’s list. Like sexiness, confidence is the type of thing that’s hard to put a finger on, but it is something anyone can cultivate.

It starts with accepting yourself, learning to love the unique person you are, and genuinely believing that you’re sexy. The belief part is critical, as — without it — you’ll never quite get to where you want to be. People instinctively know when someone’s putting on an act, so there’s no way to fake confidence. If you believe you’re red hot sexy, it will show in a way that demands other people think so, too.

3.      Laugh often, and have fun always.

There’s something genuinely infectious about a person who always looks like they’re having a good time. Everyone likes having fun and feeling happy, so they’re naturally drawn to folks who look like they know what that’s all about. Also, laughter and smiles are incredibly sexy no matter what the setting.

One surefire way to look, feel, and seem sexier no matter what you’re doing is to have a good time doing it. Enjoy the moment with wild abandon. Don’t be afraid to let other people hear and see your joy. You never know who might find themselves charmed beyond redemption.

4.      Make it a point to give (and demand) respect.

Sexy, confident people know their value. Even if they’re also the humble type, they don’t allow others to take them for granted or treat them as an option when they know they deserve to be a priority. Always treat yourself and others with respect, and demand that those you keep company with do the same.

As with believing that you’re sexy, knowing in your heart that you truly have worth ensures you’ll be treated well. Surround yourself with people who also agree that you’re valuable and worthy. They’ll help your confidence and sense of self-love to grow, making you even more irresistible.

5.      Treat yourself to sexy things.

Sexy people who believe they’re worth it take good care of themselves from the inside out. They make it a point to eat right and work out because they love feeling healthy and being good to themselves. They dress in a way that makes them feel attractive, and they’re always careful to practice good grooming, as they know a great impression is often about those little details.

They also buy themselves little treats that make them feel sexy instead of always waiting for someone else to do it. Don’t buy or wear sexy lingerie only when you know someone else will see you in it. Buy it for yourself, and bask in the beautiful feeling that comes with wearing it when you want. Do the same with items like satin sheets, luxurious perfumes, fun adult toys, or anything else that helps you feel sexy and irresistible.

Ultimately, the best way to be one of the sexy people is to start thinking like one and treating yourself like one. Sexy people are comfortable in their own skins. They know what makes them unique, and they play those things up. They also get that life’s about enjoying yourself to the fullest. They love themselves, they love their lives, and they own it! Start doing the same, and it’s only a matter of time before you’re where you want to be.

What Every Beginner Should Know About Their First Sex Toy

Even the most experienced pleasure connoisseur had to start somewhere when it came to their impressive sex toy collection, but that’s easier said than done for most beginners. It doesn’t exactly help that today’s consumer has hundreds of different options to choose from. As exciting as having choices can be, it’s naturally confusing, as well.

Then there are all the myths, misconceptions, and wrong ideas those who aren’t in the know still have about sex toys. The more you know about how to choose, use, and take care of your sex toy before you even pick it out, the more you’ll get out of the experience. Here are a few key things you’ll want to keep in mind about your first sex toy.

Sex toys are right for everyone.

Although society’s more knowledgeable and sex-positive than it was years ago, many people still think sex toys are solely for specific people when they’re for everyone. You don’t need to be a woman to benefit from a sex toy, nor do you have to be single. People of every gender and every relationship status can and do use sex toys regularly, couples included.

Sex toys don’t have to be phallic.

If you’re into representational sex toys that look (and feel) exactly like penises, you have options out there and shouldn’t shy away from exploring them. That’s not a requirement, though. Many of today’s most popular toys are designed with various unique aspects of a person’s anatomy in mind and don’t look anything like penises. A sex toy doesn’t even have to be insertable to be pleasurable to use and bring a lot to your sex life.

Body-safety is a must.

Whatever sex toy you choose, keep in mind that it’s going to get up close and personal with some of your most sensitive areas. That makes body-safety a key concern, but not all toys are equal in this regard. Cheaper bargain toys are the most likely to come with safety concerns, so it’s worth investing in a high-end toy from a brand with a great reputation. Read the packaging on the toys you’re considering and do your research, as well.

Do as much homework as you need to.

Speaking of research, there’s no such thing as too much when you’re in the market for your first sex toy. There’s absolutely no reason to go with the first option you see unless you genuinely want to. Take your time and see what’s out there first. Google your little heart out. Have a good look through some of the many toy review blogs out there. Ask your friends what they recommend if you’re comfortable doing so. Remember, this is about you and what gets you excited.

Proper care is so important.

Your vibrator is an investment in your pleasure, and it deserves to be treated that way. Don’t simply toss it in your nightstand drawer or stuff it between your mattress and your box spring for safekeeping. If your toy came with a storage bag, make sure you store it in that, separately from any other toys or accessories. Get into the habit of washing your sex toy after every single use, as well. Plain, unscented soap and water work just fine in many cases, but a good spray-on, wipe-off toy cleaner is an excellent alternative in a pinch. The better you are at taking care of your sex toy, the longer you’ll be able to enjoy everything it brings to your life.

The right lube is your friend.

Just as the right sex toy can be an absolute game changer when it comes to your sex life, so can the right lube. Don’t just think of it as something to keep on hand in case it’s needed, either. A little lube goes a long way when it comes to reducing friction and maximizing sensation. Just make sure your lube of choice is safe to use with your toy before you start playing. When in doubt, go with a water-based lube, as it will be compatible with just about anything.

Sex toys aren’t dirty little secrets.

Although some people are more comfortable being open about their sex toys than others, there’s no reason to hide that you use a toy, especially from a partner. Quality solo sex is a healthy part of absolutely anyone’s life, so there’s nothing to be ashamed of. And toys can be such huge game changers in the bedroom, so it’s well worth using one with your partner at some point. If you like how it goes, consider shopping for additional options to add to your collection together. It’s a beautiful way to nurture intimacy and expand your horizons as a couple.

If you’ve never used a toy before and are getting ready to buy your first one, you’re in for a real treat. In fact, your sex life may never be quite the same, but in the best possible way. Get excited!

Sexting 101: Why You Should Be Doing It and How to Become Great at It

If you haven’t made the leap yourself yet, there’s never been a better time to get into sexting. The current need for social distancing and responsible isolation makes sexting an extraordinarily terrific way to keep the sizzle in your relationship if you can’t be together in person. Skillful sexting is a great skill to have under your belt anytime, though.

Learn it to get through the pandemic satisfied. Keep it going indefinitely to add an incredible new dimension to your relationship. Here are some tips to get you started. You’ll be sexting like a long-time pro in no time.

Why Learn to Sext?

Don’t make the mistake of thinking sexting is something only the tech-savviest people out there like to do. Sexting can add some serious heat to any relationship. Here are just a few reasons to give it a try.

  • It’s a powerful way to show someone you’ve been missing them and stay intimate when life requires you to be apart physically.
  • It makes for excellent all-day foreplay while one or both of you are at work.
  • If you’re shy, sexting can offer you a great way to explore, express, and discuss your fantasies with your partner.
  • Once you get the hang of things, sexting makes you feel fantastic – sexy, assertive, and desirable – so it’s great for your self-esteem.

A Quick-Start Guide for Newbies

Although there’s nothing wrong with making things up as you go along when it comes to sexting, everyone has to start somewhere, so don’t sweat it if it doesn’t feel like second nature right away. Once you get the ball rolling, a good sexting session tends to unfold pretty organically. The following cues are good places to start.

Reflect on a recent time you were together.

When you’re at a complete loss for ideas, this is a good go-to, as you already have something to go on. It’s also an honest, easy way to let your partner know what you love most about being intimate with them in person. If you’re looking to get your sext on with someone you haven’t been physically intimate with yet, laying out a few simple ideas about how you picture it happening is a good substitute.

Pay them a sexy compliment.

Everyone loves a good compliment once in a while and paying your partner a few of the sexy variety can be a great way to get a spicy long-distance exchange going. Tell them how hot you think they are when they’re naked or how amazing their skin feels when you’re cuddled up close in bed together. If they rock your world in the bedroom, let them know and follow up by telling them you’ve been thinking about how they handle you. Then take it from there.

Give them a little peek.

Sometimes a naughty little hint is all it takes to get a sext party started, especially if you float it out there as a preview of coming attractions to enjoy later on. Are you wearing something sexy that’s bringing out the vixen in you? Tell them, or – better yet – show them. Have you just scored a killer deal on some sexy new bedroom wear? Let them know and tell them how badly you want to model it for them later.

Tell them what you want.

Everyone has fantasies, and you likely have more than a few of your own that star your partner. Why not share a few? Not only will it make for some exceptionally titillating sexting, but it could lead to some spicy hands-on experimentation in the bedroom later on. Tell them what you wish they would do to you or what you’ve love to be doing to them. Tell them what goes through your head when you’re getting down and dirty with your favorite vibrator while missing them. Then enjoy every minute of what happens next.

You can also try prompting your partner to take the lead if you’re really too shy or nervous to start things yourself. Questions are a great way to do this. You can ask about anything from what they like best about hooking up with you to what they fantasize about when you’re not together.

Elevating Your Sexting

Once you get the basics down, great sexting is all about ensuring both parties involved have a fantastic time. The best way to do this is not to take the whole thing too seriously. Sexting should be flirty and fun – something to smile about, not treat like a job or a major responsibility. Do your best to keep things light-hearted.

It’s also best to be honest. Yes, you’re using your imagination and sharing fantasies, but make sure they’re fantasies you really do have. Don’t over embellish in the hopes of impressing them. Just be the sexiest possible version of yourself you can be.

7 Sexy Resolutions For Every Woman’s List in 2021

If you’re like most women who make New Year’s resolutions every year, you tend to focus on doing less, as opposed to more. Some people vow to cut back on their drinking or make fewer fast-food runs. Others plan on watching less television or spending less time sitting around, wasting time in general. But doing more can be just rewarding and fulfilling.

This is especially the case for your intimate life, both with your partner (if you have one) and yourself. The following are just a few potential sexy resolutions that may help you upgrade your sexual satisfaction factor in a big way this year. Don’t be afraid to let your imagination run wild and come up with more.

1.      Treat yourself to new lingerie for your benefit.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with buying something sexy to slip into because you know it will drive your partner wild, but why leave yourself out of the equation? After all, it’s your body, and you’ll be the one wearing the items you pick. This year add something to your lingerie drawer because it makes you feel like a straight siren. Chances are, your partner will like it too, so it’s a win-win.

2.      Spend more time going solo.

Don’t make the mistake of assuming masturbation is only for people who aren’t in relationships. Solo sessions have a place in every woman’s life, whether she’s attached to someone else or not. They’re an incredible way to care for yourself, nurture your understanding of your body, and discover new sensations to enjoy. Treat yourself to a new luxury vibrator from a top manufacturer like FemmeFunn, and get 2021 started with a bang!

3.      Fall madly in love with your body.

Yes, even the parts you don’t like so much. The better your appreciation of your body, especially in a sexual context, the more satisfying your intimate life will be going forward. Self-consciousness can distract you from thoroughly enjoying yourself, especially when you’re with a partner. However, an unshakeable sense of comfort in one’s own skin can be a gamechanger. Make this the year you fall in love with your body and make peace with your imperfections.

4.      Check out female-directed porn.

Visual porn may or may not be your jam, but if it is, you really owe it to yourself to check out some woman-directed material this year. Porn from female directors tends to be more body-positive and a lot more realistic than what you’re used to seeing from male directors. It’s often more artistic and easier for female viewers to connect to, as well. Do yourself a favor, and see what’s out there this year. It’s hot and inspiring.

5.      Make speaking up in bed one of your sexy resolutions.

When it comes to partnered sex, communication is the key to getting what you want out of the experience, so don’t be shy about speaking up in 2021. The key to success here is to focus on the positive and ask for things that feel good instead of criticizing something that isn’t working as well. Tell your partner how good it would make you feel if they stroked you a certain way or how hot it would make you if they tried out a particular position. Your partner wants to please you, so they’ll likely be more than eager to oblige.

6.      Commit to having only genuine orgasms.

Yes, you read that right. Most women have faked it a time or two over the years, and it’s unlikely you’re any different. It’s well worth your while to graduate to having only real orgasms, though. If your partner isn’t stimulating you the way you need to have the orgasms you’re after, it’s time to open up the lines of communication. Otherwise, you’re only encouraging them to do more of what’s already not working, and neither of you truly wants that.

7.      Learn something new about sex.

Add a sex book to your collection, and read it cover to cover in 2021. Sign up for a good sex class, or opt for a self-led video course instead if you’re more of a self-starter. Not only is learning new things fun and enriching, but you might be surprised at just how many new techniques, tricks, and tips you pick up in the process. Go for more generalized coverage on the topic of sex, or focus on something specific you’d personally like to excel at – like blow jobs or rope-tying, to name just two examples. You’ll be glad you made an effort.

A brand new year is like a nice, clean slate you can make into whatever you want. After the never-ending weirdness that was 2020, you owe it to yourself to indulge in a few upgrades in 2021. Why not start with your sex life?

How to Build Your Body Confidence and Feel at Ease in Your Own Skin

Naturally, women today know that they should feel at ease in their own skin, regardless of what it looks like. Putting that thinking into practice can be challenging, though. Regardless of their size or shape, modern women are continually sent the message that they’re not good enough as they are.

Tuning out all the negativity feels impossible sometimes, especially when it seems like that’s all you hear, but it’s worth it. Nothing feels as good as self-acceptance and rampant self-love. Here’s how to build your sense of body-confidence and fall madly in love with who you are.

Focus on health, not looks.

What motivates your approach to eating, exercise, and physical self-care? A body-confident person with a healthy self-image always makes that call with proper health in mind. They eat to nourish themselves and exercise as a way to care for their body. It’s not about reaching or maintaining a particular weight.

Even if it’s hard, it’s time to stop focusing on the scale or how many inches your waist may have on it. Be good to your body instead. Feed it plenty of good quality foods – lean protein, whole grains, and fresh produce. Drink water like it’s your job, and go easy on the alcohol. Exercise by partaking in activities you enjoy and that make you feel alive. You’ll love the difference it makes.

Compliment yourself daily.

Body-confident women appreciate it when others pay them compliments, but they don’t wait around for it to happen. They pay themselves compliments first. Try it sometime, and work on making it a habit. Do it even if it feels silly at first, and do it every day. Remind yourself that these are true things you’re saying and that you deserve to hear them.

How you do this is up to you. Some women do enjoy looking at themselves in the mirror and paying themselves verbal compliments. However, using a journal to focus on what you like about yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is just as effective.

Get to know yourself sexually.

Society still trains women to think of an orgasm (or sensual pleasure of any kind) as something a woman waits for her partner to give her. It should be something every woman knows she can give to herself anytime she’s in the mood and in whatever manner she chooses. Learning your way around your own body is the best way to know what types of touch you respond best to. That’s information you can then use to improve your sex life with your partner.

There’s nothing wrong with doing things the old-fashioned way with fingers alone, but a good vibrator is too good to miss out on. Treat yourself to a luxury vibrator you can count on to come through for you. Then have a blast taking your solo sessions to the next level.

Do things for yourself often.

Telling yourself you’re worth it is a great start when it comes to building solid body-confidence, but you shouldn’t stop at mere words. Confident women show their love for themselves with actions, as well. Go out of your way to be kind to yourself and treat yourself to things or activities that make you feel your best.

Need a breather from an over-hectic social life? Schedule a weekend alone to regroup and recuperate. Pour yourself a glass of wine and treat yourself to a long, hot bubble bath. Spend an entire Sunday morning on a luxury skincare routine. Treat yourself to a day at the spa or splurge on that gorgeous new pair of boots you’ve wanted since forever. You deserve it, and you’re worth it.

Style yourself for you.

If you’re like many women, you’re conditioned to think that looking good is something you do to impress other people and gain their approval. And it’s OK to enjoy turning a few heads because it feels good. Just don’t build your whole aesthetic around what you think other people want to see from you.

First of all, it’s impossible to please everyone. Second, no one else’s opinion matters more than your own. Style yourself according to what you think is beautiful. Wear clothes that make you feel amazing and that you feel express who you are to the rest of the world. That can mean dressing to the nines in heels, lots of makeup, and a fresh blowout every day, or it can mean going au naturel every day in jeans, a t-shirt, and a fresh face. It’s your life and your body, so you, do you!

The more you consciously practice body-positivity and self-love in your life, the easier it will become. Before you know it, loving yourself and treating yourself like the queen you are will be second nature. Try it and see!

Whisper-Quiet Vibrators: Your Ticket to a Naughtier Sex Life

If you’re like most modern ladies, you can’t even picture your intimate life without your trusty vibrator, the Delola, and with good reason. Whether you’re looking to elevate love play with your partner or flying solo for the immediate moment, vibrators have a way of taking things to the next level and beyond. There’s really only one drawback – that telltale buzz that ensures anyone even somewhat nearby knows precisely what you’re doing.

Of course, there’s nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to using a vibrator, but sometimes you want to guarantee your privacy. Making the switch to a luxury vibrator with a whisper-quiet motor can be a real game changer in this department. One experience is all it takes to make you wonder what took you so long.

Keep things private, even when your roommates are home.

Let’s face it. We’ve all been there. You’re in the mood for a little naughty play and think a romp with your vibrator is just what the doctor ordered. Now, if only the walls in the tiny apartment you share with your roommates weren’t so darned thin!

A vibrator equipped with a powerful but whisper-quiet motor could mean never again having to wait for everyone else in your household to go to bed before you can enjoy a few good vibrations from your favorite toys. Imagine the possibilities! Not only can you get down and dirty in your bedroom whenever you feel like it, but you can take your vibe into the shower or tub with you in the mornings without a second thought.

Help a toy-shy partner get into things more easily.

Sex toys aren’t just for enjoying on your own anymore. Bringing your trusty vibrator into the bedroom to enjoy with your partner is a good idea for lots of reasons. It takes the guesswork out of robust, toe-curling orgasms for both parties, as well as introduces lots of exciting new sensations to the mix. A partner who’s new to playing with toys may need time to get used to things, though, and a loud motor isn’t very helpful in this regard.

A whisper-quiet vibe adds all the oomph you could want to your play, but without a lot of extraneous noise that could kill the mood. Instead, you can simply focus on how good the stimulation feels, as well as the sweet sounds of your lover’s passion.

Take the struggle out of traveling.

If you travel a lot for either business or pleasure, then naturally, your vibrator of choice needs to be well suited for taking on the go. Portable sizes are a must. A discreet shape that doesn’t make it immediately apparent that your vibrator is what it is doesn’t hurt either. A quiet motor rounds things out perfectly for an unparalleled pleasure experience that’s 100 percent go-worthy.

Imagine the possibilities. A vibrator no one nearby can hear means you can enjoy your next orgasm without anyone being the wiser. Enjoy a quick refresher anywhere from your motel room, to a cruise cabin, to an airplane bathroom. The only sounds you’ll need to worry about stifling are your own moans of pleasure.

Get genuinely creative with your play sessions.

Do you love looking for new places to get down and dirty, either by yourself or with a partner? Have you ever found yourself thinking a particular experience would have been so much better if you’d added a vibrator to the mix? Upgrade your go-to toy to a whisper-quiet vibrator, and the only limits on how you can play will be the ones set by your imagination.

A quiet enough vibrator lets you add some extra intensity to all kinds of illicit encounters. Choose a portable vibrator style like a bullet and stow it away in your purse or your glove compartment, so it’s always available with it’s needed. Treat yourself to a little impromptu tension release when you need it. Whip it out as part of a sweet, naughty surprise to elevate your next backseat love session with a date. The right vibrator means anything goes.

Stay sane during quarantine.

Quarantine has found even those of us who typically have more room to ourselves living in closer quarters than usual with family members of all ages. Think spouses that are now working from home indefinitely, children attending classes over Zoom, and elderly family members co-quarantining with non-disabled adults to take the guesswork out of daily tasks!

In other words, you might well have suddenly found yourself without the kind of personal space you’re used to. Upgrading to a quieter vibrator can help you keep your sanity intact by ensuring your next orgasm isn’t dependent on getting everyone else out of the house at the same time.

Take the difference for a spin today with a powerful, discreet luxury vibrator from a top manufacturer like FemmeFunn. You’ll love what it does for your intimate life on every level.

Taking a Break from Dating: When Should You Do It and What Are the Benefits?

There’s a lot to love about dating, but it’s certainly possible to have too much of a good thing. You can get burnt out on dating to the same extent you can work, so it’s essential to know when it might be time for a break. (The search for love isn’t all there is to life, after all.) Here’s a closer look at the benefits of temporarily putting your love life on pause when you feel yourself getting frustrated with the whole process.

When Is It Time for a Break?

You don’t necessarily have to wait to feel fed-up with dating to take a break from it. It’s a good idea to know the signs that you’re overdue for one, though. They include the following:

  • Dating feels like a full-time job, a drudge, or a chore.
  • You feel like you keep dating the same unsatisfying types of people, and you’re over it.
  • You’ve just had your heart broken or suffered some other colossal disappointment.
  • Dating feels like it’s taking up all your time and getting in the way of other things.
  • You’re just plain sick and tired of doing the whole dance involved.

Dating and sex are supposed to feel fun, exciting, and enticing. If that’s not how they feel to you right now, it’s in your best interest to step back until they do again. In the meantime, you can enjoy perks like the following.

Falling in Love with Yourself Again

When you’re always focused on finding love with someone else, you forget how satisfying it can feel to love yourself. Maybe you’ve never really done that before. Whatever the case may be for you, a dating break is a perfect time to do some catch-up work in that regard and get to know yourself a little bit better.

Discover some new interests and dive as deeply into them as you like. Give that edgy new look you’ve been thinking about a try. Treat yourself to a new luxury sex toy and have an orgasm or two solely on your own terms for a change. Whether you have partners in your life or not, self-love of any kind is always a wise time investment.

Catching Up on Your To-Do List

It’s not that anyone plans on pushing certain aspects of life to the sidelines when they’re with someone. It’s just that dating takes up a ton of time and energy. Before you know it, you’re all wrapped up in it, and it’s been forever since you hung out with your friends or took on a personal project just because you wanted to.

Take a moment to consider what you’ve been neglecting to make more room in your schedule for dating. Get more involved at work and go for that promotion you’ve been dreaming about. Plan one of those dinner parties you used to love to have with your besties all the time. Redecorate your living room the way you’ve been meaning to and go hog wild with making it everything you want it to be. You get the picture.

Repurposing Your Disposable Income

Dating doesn’t just take a lot out of you mentally and emotionally. It can be pretty costly from a financial standpoint, as well. Even when you’re splitting the bill, all those restaurant dinners, movies, tickets, and cocktails add up after a while. Then there is the way the dates that don’t go so well wind up feeling like a colossal waste of money.

A dating break is a perfect chance to give your finances a little reboot. Save up the cash you’re not spending on all those outings for a rainy day. Alternatively, spend them on a bit of something you’ve been wanting and haven’t felt you could justify. One of the greatest things about single life is not having to explain yourself to anyone when you feel like treating yourself.

Finally Getting Your Mojo Back

No matter how tired of dating you are right now, there was undoubtedly a time when you felt utterly differently, even if it was way back when you first started. Do you remember the butterflies you’d feel when you’ve just had a fantastic date with someone genuinely interesting? How about the optimism you’d have when a relationship was working out, or the possibilities you’d imagine when locking eyes with a stranger from across the room?

Give yourself some time and space to reboot a little. Focus on other things you love about life for a while. Eventually, you’ll feel ready to get back out there again, and you’ll find yourself getting super excited for all those fantastic little meetings and occurrences. Everyone needs a break sometimes, and it’s incredible how recuperative those breaks can be.

The Modern Woman’s Guide to Dating Multiple People at a Time

These days, sex and dating don’t have to be about traditional relationships or monogamy unless you want them to be. The world is filled with fun, interesting people who are well worth loving, so it’s understandable that you wouldn’t want to limit yourself to just one. There’s a fine art to successfully dating multiple people at once though. Here’s how you can do it without stepping on any toes along the way.

Figuring Out What You Want

First thing’s first. You need to be clear on what you are and aren’t looking for from a connection with another person before you get involved with anyone. Are you strictly interested in casual dating and no-strings-attached sex right now? Would you be open to a committed relationship if the right person came along? What do you need and expect from any partners you do get involved with.

It’s a good idea to think long and hard about why you want to date multiple people in the first place as well. If you’re doing it solely to prove you’re over someone else or because you want to boost your ego, it’s probably not a good idea. If you’re doing it to explore whether monogamy is even for you or simply because it feels like a good fit right now though, carry on.

Honesty Is Always the Best Policy

The days when there was only one “proper” approach to dating are over. Today, there are as many ways to enjoy love and sex as there are types of people in the world, so you’re free to make your own rules. Just make sure you’re honest with other people about where you stand and what you’re looking for.

If you’re already seeing other people at the time you start seeing someone new, tell them that. If you’re not looking for anything more than the occasional Friday night hook-up, tell them that too. If someone doesn’t care for being one of several people on your radar, they’re not the right choice for you anyway. Keep looking until you find someone who’s looking for the same things you are.

Safety Is Key

It should go without saying that unprotected sex is a no-no in this day and age. Responsible adults are not only conscientious about safety but insistent that anyone they sleep with is too. Have as much sex as you want with as many people as you like, but always use proper protection. No sex is so good that it’s worth risking a nasty STD.

And don’t ever count on the other person having protection. Always be prepared with some of your own. Don’t forget that options like condoms are good for more than just private parts either. You can slip them onto your favorite sex toy, like the FemmeFunn Cadenza, if you’re in the mood to share some good vibrations. This keeps things extra safe, hygienic, and responsible. It makes clean-up a little easier too.

In Case of Feelings

Be aware that sometimes things happen. You could be uninterested in anything serious one day only to see something extremely special in one of the people you’re dating the next – something that makes you completely rethink your stance on commitment. Alternatively, someone you’re seeing could develop deeper feelings for you. It’s a good idea to know what you’d do in both those situations.

Feelings on either end are a sign that it’s time to reevaluate things. Is the person in question someone you could see yourself with? If so, do you like them enough to drop the other people you’re seeing or does a polyamorous set-up sound better to you? Whatever you’re thinking, be sure to communicate it clearly with the other person so they know where you stand. Also, be aware that unreciprocated feelings for either person can complicate things, meaning it may be best to just end things.

Don’t Overextend Yourself

When you’re dating more than one person at a time and everything’s going better than you could have hoped, it might be tempting to say yes to every opportunity that comes your way. Be careful not to overextend yourself though. Even if you’re keeping things casual with everyone you’re seeing, for now, it’s important to treat people with respect.

No one likes feeling like they’re being canceled on in favor of someone else. Plus, while leaving your options open is freeing, juggling way too many people can be stressful and defeat the purpose.

If you’re an open, honest type who genuinely loves connecting with lots of different people, you may find you like adopting an open policy to your dating life to stick with it a while. Just stay communicative with everyone involved, as well as respectful of their feelings, and all will be well.

5 Simple Tips for Boosting Your Body Confidence Quotient

Everyone occasionally struggles with their body image, but it’s important not to normalize negative self-talk or to let criticizing your body become a habit. Cultivating a positive, confident attitude toward your body instead is too beneficial to miss out on. It lowers your likelihood of developing mental health issues like depression and anxiety. Body confidence leads to happier, stronger relationships overall as well, including the one you have with yourself.

The following tips can help you start breaking bad body-image habits and replace them with healthy, nurturing new ones. Which ones will you start with first? How do you like to keep negative thoughts and feelings about your body at bay?

1.      Fall in Love with Exercise

If you think of exercise as nothing more than a way to conform to narrow social standards about what your body should look, it’s officially time to think again. Regular exercise is an important part of staying healthy and taking care of your body on every level, including mentally and emotionally. It’s also something that deserves to be enjoyed, as opposed to treated as a punishment for eating too many doughnuts.

Any activity that gets you up and moving counts as exercise, so choose something you genuinely enjoy. Yes, you’ll love how toned exercise makes you look, but you’ll also find yourself celebrating everything your body can do before too long.

2.      Limit Social Media Use

If you could swear scrolling through your feeds on Facebook or Instagram makes you feel worse about yourself, it’s not your imagination. The endless parade of vacation photos, perfect selfies, and humblebrags can easily give onlookers the impression that they’re the only ones out there who aren’t completely satisfied with their lives or their looks.

Keep in mind that other people’s pages are carefully curated highlight reels, so you’re only seeing what they want you to see. (Facetune and Photoshop make it even easier to make life seem perfect when it’s anything but.) Limit your screen time to make staying in touch with reality easier. Fill your feeds with people, brands, and accounts that inspire you, as opposed to bringing you down.

3.      Take Control of Your Pleasure

Not feeling as body-confident as you’d like can affect your ability to enjoy intimacy with a partner. If you’re busy worrying about how your body moves or your O-face looks, you’re not getting lost in how pleasurable the experience is. The same thing can happen if you’re too focused on your partner’s pleasure at the expense of your own.

A great way to cultivate a better relationship with your body is to learn how to please it. Treat yourself to a fantastic new luxury sex toy and put it through its paces. Learning what types of stimulation feel the best to your body helps you enjoy partnered sex more. You’ll become a more passionate, less inhibited lover as well. It’s hard not to fall madly in love with your body under circumstances like those.

4.      Upgrade Your Look

When you aren’t happy with your body, it’s all too easy to let your look go stale over the years. You get into the habit of wearing shapeless, nondescript things to hide your figure and trying your hardest to blend in instead of standing out. It’s easy to forget how much fun expressing yourself through your looks can be.

You don’t have to wear a size two to treat yourself to clothing that makes you look good and feel good. Breathe new life into your wardrobe by getting rid of anything that doesn’t fit, doesn’t make you look good, or isn’t “you” anymore. Replace those things with stylish, contemporary new clothes that are not only comfortable but make you look your best.

5.      Focus on the Positive

Life is about so much more than what you look like. It’s also way too short not to spend it appreciating everything that makes it awesome. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself and love about your life. Hang it up somewhere you’ll see it often and be reminded to keep things in perspective. Actively work on replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations as well.

It’s OK if you have to fake it at first. Thinking more positively will likely become second nature given enough time and practice. If not, there’s no shame in asking a counselor for additional help. Sometimes body image issues have underlying causes that need to be addressed before you can get where you want to be.

At the end of the day, all bodies are beautiful, capable, and worthy of being appreciated. Yours is no exception, so take steps to love it a little more sooner rather than later. You’ll be glad you did.

How to Know If the Sex Is Good for Them Too

If you’re like most people, really great sex doesn’t just mean things were mind-blowingly good for you. You can’t help but wonder if you rock a partner’s world just as thoroughly as they rock yours, especially if you’re getting busy with someone new and they aren’t exactly the vocal type. Of course, you can always just ask them if you really want to know, but there are other ways to tell too. The following are some of the most obvious signs someone likes having sex with you just as much as you enjoy having it with them.

The sex is frequent.

When you really like something, you want to enjoy whatever it is as often as possible. This is just as much the case for sex with someone you’re wildly attracted to as it is a beach vacation or a favorite meal. Is the sex nice and regular between the two of you? Does your partner initiate it as often as you do? Are they eager to take advantage of surprise opportunities to get down and dirty with you a little more often than usual? The chances are excellent that they’re more than happy with your bedroom technique.

They’re affectionate after sex.

If you’re like many people, a round of amazing sex has a way of making you feel super relaxed and more than a little blissful afterward. You want to cuddle up close to the person who just made you feel that way, share some pillow talk, and partake in a few more intimate moments. Your partner probably isn’t any different. Are they affectionate after a good roll in the hay? Do you get the impression that they like letting that warm, close feeling linger a little after you’re done doing the deed? If so, you can rest easy in the knowledge that they had a good time.

They tell you outright.

Some people are more comfortable talking about sex than others, but when someone’s really blown away by someone in particular, they find a way to say so. After all, they want you to keep doing whatever it is you do that rocks their world so hard! They’ll tell you that you’re amazing at oral, that they love it when you ride them, or that they can’t stop thinking about how sexy you look in lingerie. No, not everyone is this expressive or direct, but if your partner is, you know that they’re having a good time with you and want it to continue.

You know you’re good in bed.

When you’re really good at something, you know it, and this goes for sex just as surely as it does any other type of skill. You just have a sixth sense when it comes to pleasing someone between the sheets, and you can just tell when you’ve done a particularly awesome job. You’ve almost certainly had people tell you you’re amazing in bed as well. That said, if your instincts are telling you that you rock your partner’s world, you’re probably right. Some people are just better at expressing how they feel in words than others.

Sex is often spontaneous.

When you’re really driven wild by the thought of going to bed with someone, you aren’t always willing or able to wait for that next taste. How often do the two of you have spontaneous sex in general? Does your partner ever take you by surprise on the couch, in the shower, or on the stairs? Do they occasionally get handsy in public or outright tell you they wish they could have their way with you right at that moment? If spontaneous, playful sex that finds the two of you getting lost in the moment is a regular part of your lives together, you know it’s as good for them as it is for you.

They’re eager to please.

When you’re having sex with someone who’s several cuts above average, you feel naturally compelled to kick things up a notch when it comes to your own bedroom game. Does your partner go the extra mile to make sure you’re satisfied in bed? Are they always looking to raise the bar when it comes to their own performance? Do they love exploring with new toys, techniques, and play scenarios? They know they hit the jackpot with you, and they’re serious about keeping you happy.

Communication just flows naturally.

When sex is mutually amazing for both partners, there’s a certain easiness about the way they communicate. Does your partner feel comfortable sharing their innermost fantasies and sexual thoughts? Do they often let you know that you’re the first person they’ve felt comfortable sharing something in particular with? It’s because they feel totally connected to you sexually and trust you with that most vulnerable side of themselves. What better proof could you hope for?

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