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6 Ways to Push Your Sexual Boundaries

Never make the mistake of thinking you and your partner need to be suffering through a dry spell or stuck in a rut to benefit from a bit of experimentation. Sex is an integral part of staying connected in any relationship. Making it a point to try new things once in a while keeps things fun, fresh, and red hot.

It doesn’t necessarily take a dramatic change for you to reap the benefits, either. The following are some practical but approachable ways to push your sexual boundaries and add a little oomph to your love play.

1.      Take turns exploring each other’s fantasies.

If you’re not sure where to start, this is an excellent place. Confessing a pet fantasy to a partner and listening to them do the same is an incredible way to build intimacy. It’s also a huge turn-on, especially if these are things, you’d typically keep to yourselves.

Declare a “no judgment” zone to keep things comfortable, and then take turns swapping fantasies. Make a list of the ones you’re both open to trying. Come back to it when you’re in the mood to be a little naughty or are in the mood to surprise a partner with a treat.

2.      Try some backdoor play on for size.

Anal play is already on the menu for lots of couples, but if you’re an exception, it’s something well worth considering. Your backdoor is packed with sensitive nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated just right, and that goes for your partner, too.

If you’re comfortable trying full-on anal sex, more power to you, but keep in mind that there’s more to butt play than that. Anal toys or even your fingers are just as capable of introducing you to the magic. Just make sure you use plenty of lube if you’re planning anything penetrative.

3.      Start a shared toy collection.

Vibrators and other sex toys are, of course, phenomenal when enjoyed alone, but they can be just as world-changing when brought into the bedroom to use with a partner. Start with what you already have, experiment a little, and see how you like it.

If all goes well, consider starting a toy chest for the two of you to dip into whenever the mood strikes. Fill it with a wide variety of different options, and take turns suggesting new additions. Doing the actual shopping together can be super-hot, as well, so consider making it a team effort.

4.      Indulge your inner exhibitionist.

Although you definitely want to be careful not to get caught, getting a little naughty in public now and again is a great way to make sex more exciting. Thankfully, you don’t have to do anything too high-risk to get a real thrill out of the experience.

Drive to an out-of-the-way place, and channel your inner teenagers by having sex in the car. Experiment with a discreet remote-controlled sex toy one of you can wear and the other can operate without anyone nearby being any the wiser. Get frisky in your backyard or on your balcony after dark. Be as creative as you like! Your sex life will thank you for it.

5.      Schedule a “no clothes allowed” day.

Being naked is one of life’s simplest and most drastically underrated pleasures. Not only is it pretty freeing to spend a little time in your birthday suit now and then, but being naked with a partner is just plain sexy. The two of you get to drink up the sight of one another, as well as the feeling of each other’s skin, without necessarily having sex the whole time.

Try planning an all-day nude fest for a day you’re both free and can be sure you’ll have the place all to yourselves. Have sex as often as you like, and have fun hanging out in the nude the rest of the time. It’s so much fun.

6.      Dabble in some mild BDSM play.

You don’t need to go all-out with whips, chains, and the whole nine yards to get a jolt out of what BDSM brings to the table. Experimenting with concepts like submission, domination, role reversal, and orgasm denial isn’t just fun. It’s a terrific way to push your sexual boundaries together and discover some new scenarios you might both be really into.

Light spankings, temperature play, blindfolding, and mild restraint are all great places to start, especially if one or both of you are new to BDSM. Don’t ever spring something like this on your partner without discussing it beforehand, though. Consent is sexy, as well as an essential part of responsible BDSM play.

However, you and your partner choose to stay connected, a little sexual boundary pushing goes a really long way. Start as small as you like, and revisit the idea as often as you’re moved to!

5 Expert Tips for Exploring Your Kinkier Side

If you’ve led a relatively vanilla lifestyle from a sexual standpoint but are curious how the other half lives, you’re far from alone. Fifty Shades of Grey may have had its issues, but it left lots of people interested in expanding their horizons in the bedroom. Knowing you’re interested in exploring your kinkier side is one thing though. Figuring out where and how to start is another matter entirely.

Just know that even the hottest, sexiest kinkster you know had to start somewhere. If you decide kink is for you, you can get there too with time and practice. Here are some must-know tips for getting started in the right direction.

1.      Educate yourself about different types of kink.

There are more sexual categories to consider than just “vanilla” and “kinky”. The wide, wonderful world of kink covers quite a bit of territory. Some parts of it may be very appealing to you while others aren’t at all. That’s why every journey into kink territory should start with an education session.

Learn about the different kink categories out there and consider what each one is all about. There’s voyeurism, role-playing, BDSM, group sex, swinging, and lots of other options to explore. Figure out which ones appeal to you most and then take it from there.

2.      Get curious. Then get comfortable.

Part of the fun of kink is the rawness that comes with it. This is your chance to be genuinely honest with yourself about what turns you on and what feels good to you, both physically and mentally. Permit yourself to get curious and to seek satisfaction for that curiosity. Join social media platforms that cater to the kink-curious, jump into forum discussions, and talk to friends you know are into kink.

It’s important to fully accept what you learn about yourself in the process as well. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being kinky or having fetishes. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or that you’re a pervert. It means you’re a curious person who’s genuinely interested in growing sexually.

3.      Talk things out with your partner (if you have one).

If you’re single, there’s likely not much holding you back from exploring your interest in kink to whatever extent you like. If you have a partner though, you’ll have to have a frank discussion about your interest in kink should you decide to move forward with exploring it. This goes double if anything you’d like to try in the future involves bringing other people into the equation.

You know your partner best, so you likely have some idea of what type of reaction to expect. Are they comfortable with the idea of getting a little kinkier? How do they feel about the specific activities you’re interested in? Do they have any deal breakers that need to be considered? Where are their boundaries? Where are your boundaries? Once you figure out where you both stand on these issues, you’re ready to move forward.

4.      Start small and simple.

If both you and your partner are brand new to kink, know that you don’t need to go from vanilla to full speed right away. Most couples start with small, approachable changes and move into the racier stuff when they feel ready. Start with some dirty talk, some new positions, or a simple location change. Then when you’re ready, add some sex toys, like the Pyra butt plug, or some light role-playing.

When you’re 100 percent ready to explore serious BDSM, have a threesome, or spend an evening at a sex club – if you ever are — you’ll know. No rush though! There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to kink. So long as everyone involved fully consents to what’s going on, it’s all good.

5.      Follow up with your partner.

If there’s one thing that far too many couples overlook when it comes to exploring kink, it’s the follow-up. Anytime you try something new in the bedroom, it’s a good idea to check in with one another and talk openly about how everything went. Did you like what you tried after all is said and done? Did they? In what ways was the experience different than you each expected? Are you both interested in doing it again? Does either of you have any ideas on what you’d like to do differently (if anything) next time?

Not only does communicating in this way ensure you’re both on the same page at all times, but it’s a bonding experience as well. Plus the ability to speak frankly and openly without shame is key when it comes to being a kinkster, both now and in the future.

At the end of the day, everyone has a kinky side whether or not they talk about it or decide to explore it. Where you take yours is ultimately up to you, but it’s sure to be a wonderful journey if you’re up to the challenge.

8 Great Places to Get Down and Dirty (Outside the Bedroom)

Never underestimate what a little change in location can do for the intensity of your next intimate experience. Whether you’re getting busy with a partner or going completely solo, choosing a new place to have your fun is among the easiest and most effective ways to keep sex exciting, interesting, and red hot. The following are just a few ideas to get started with, but don’t be afraid to come up with a few more of your own as long as they’re outside the bedroom.

  1. The Couch

If you’re new to thinking outside the bedroom when it comes to chasing a good orgasm (or your partner is), the couch is an excellent place to start. It’s private and familiar, so it’s easy to get comfortable with the idea in more ways than one. Plus, there’s little to no risk involved. Plus, it’s just so natural to let a cuddle session in front of your latest Netflix find wander into naughtier territory. Add a sexy, steamy movie to the mix to help things along.

  1. The Stairs

If you’re lucky enough to live somewhere that features stairs, it’s high time you discovered just how perfect stairs are for sex. The variety of different elevations lets you easily experiment with different positions that wouldn’t be terribly comfortable under other circumstances. Plus, stair sex is the perfect excuse to pull your partner in for an impromptu kiss or a little X-rated groping out of the blue sometime.

  1. The Shower

You don’t have to drive all the way out to the ocean or the lake to try some sexy, steamy water action on for size. Your shower is the perfect place to experiment with anything you’re concerned might get a little messy (for obvious reasons). Plus shower sex is a great way to get a Monday or Tuesday off to a really explosive start. Add your favorite waterproof sex toys and a little of your favorite lube to the mix for even more excitement.

  1. The Car

Car sex isn’t just hot for the way it brings so many people back to their wild, wet, and horny teenage days. It helps those just starting to experiment with different locations get comfortable with the idea by striking a perfect balance between private and public. Pull off onto the shoulder of a lonely back road or drive out to the middle of a quiet, secluded natural area, and get busy!

  1. A Hotel

Have you ever noticed how everything just feels a little more special when you’re spending the night at a nice hotel? It’s technically outside the bedroom, your bedroom. And you don’t need to wait for your next out-of-town trip to enjoy the effect that can have on your sex life. Try checking in for the night someplace nearby as a weekend treat to yourselves, order some champagne via room service, and let those sparks fly. Hotels make great settings for roleplay scenarios as well, so don’t be afraid to get a little creative.

  1. The Beach

The beach is considered a classic place to get busy for a reason. Nothing’s more ethereal and romantic than the sight of the setting sun or the moonlight on the water, so it’s a great setting for some anniversary bonding. Just make sure you bring a nice, big beach towel with you to lie on while you explore each other. Sand really does have a way of migrating into the worst areas and ruining your otherwise good time.

  1. A Plane

Joining the mile-high club is a classic bucket list item for sexually adventurous people and with good reason. It doesn’t get much naughtier, riskier, or more thrilling than getting busy just inches from a plane full of fellow travelers. Just make sure you’re smart about things if you do decide to go for it. Mile-high sex is best attempted during the portion of a long flight that finds most passengers asleep or otherwise occupied.

  1. Just About Any Event

Sometimes the hottest sex happens under circumstances you just can’t plan for. Have you ever found yourself at a wedding or a party, spotted an appealing little dark corner, and instantly thought to yourself “what if”? The next time that happens, consider seizing the opportunity and seeing what happens. When you keep your eyes open, you’ll find most events come attached to lots of fun little opportunities to sneak away from the action for a moment and explore the possibilities to the fullest. Plus, the rest of the event will be so much more fun when you’ve got a dirty little secret to think about.

Once you’ve started experimenting with new places outside the bedroom to get busy or chase a quick solo orgasm, you might be surprised at how creative you become. Just be mindful of your surroundings at all times, and err on the side of caution when in doubt.

The Logistics of Bringing Kink into the Bedroom

There’s something to be said for enjoying kink in practice, as opposed to only in your fantasies. However, thinking about kinking things up when it comes to your personal repertoire is one thing. Knowing where to start for best results is another issue altogether. Here’s a closer look at how you can know whether bringing your BDSM fantasies to life in your actual bedroom is really the right fit for you, as well as how to approach things should you decide that it is.

Is It Time to Get Kinky?

Sex is incredible for a lot of reasons, especially when it comes the sheer variety it can bring to the table. You can use it to connect to yourself or to another person in all sorts of exciting ways. You can use it to explore a multitude of different sensations, including pain and elevated stimulation. Kink can be a really exciting way to experiment with different power dynamics as well. However, some people are happier simply fantasizing about kink, and that’s Okay too.

Is kink something you and your partner have discussed? Is this something you both would like to explore together, as opposed to something only one of you really wants? Have you each done your homework regarding what you’d like to try, verified that you understand what’s involved, and decided you still want to proceed? If so, you’re definitely in the right head space to take things up a notch or two.

If you’re still not completely sure how to bring the topic up with a partner who may or may not be on board, start by testing the waters. Watch a sexy movie together that involves kink (like Secretary or Fifty Shades of Grey), use it as a conversation starter, and see how your partner reacts to the idea of kink in general. Alternatively, you can simply look for ways to work kink into your everyday conversations to get a read on where they stand. Then talk things out further when you’re ready.

Laying the Groundwork

Getting on the same page with your partner is a good start, but it’s still important to really prepare for your experience if you’re serious about getting the most out of it. Here are a few pointers to keep in mind.

Get specific.

Kink play covers a wide range of different sensations, experiences, and activities, so it’s important to really hash out what each of you wants to try before you just dive in. What are your exact, specific desires? What are theirs? If you’re not sure, you’ll want to find out, which you can do together if you like. (Watching porn, reading erotica, or even exploring a sex manual on kink together can help.)

Get super comfortable talking about it.

Open, comfortable dialogue is an absolute must when you’re engaging in kink play of any kind. For instance, consent is very important, but it’s hard to know whether you really have it if you’re not comfortable with frank, clear communication. It’s Okay if you’re shy. Practice makes perfect, so just get in the habit of communicating in more detail regarding sex, both in and out of the bedroom. Dirty talk is a great way to do this, as is talking casually about sex on an everyday basis.

Start tame and work your way up.

Even if you and your partner think you’re 100 percent comfortable dressing each other up in full BDSM gear and going straight for the heavy kink right away, it’s better to start light and go from there. Role play is a good place for most couples to start. Creative play that involves different kinds of sex toys is another. Light spanking, restraint, and sight deprivation are still more relatively approachable ways to introduce yourselves to the world of kink and discover what you both like.

Have a safe word.

Any time you’re experimenting in the bedroom, you should have a safe word picked out – something either of you can say at any time to immediately shut down whatever’s happening, no questions asked. To avoid confusion, it should be something that’s extremely unlikely to be said in a sexual context – “paprikash” as opposed to “pussy”, for example.

Communicate during and after.

Communication is just as important during and after kink play as it is before. While you’re playing, actively let your partner know if something does or doesn’t feel good. Then discuss your experience together after you’re done. Did both of you get what you wanted? Was it what you expected it to be? Do you both want to try it again sometime (or something similar)? What would you do differently?

The key to kink play that satisfies truly is communication, honesty, and plenty of both. Start exploring the possibilities today, and see where your play takes you.

5 Simple Ways to Add Excitement to Your Sex Life

Like a lot of life’s most wonderful experiences, sex is really what you make of it. Yes, sometimes positively toe-curling encounters occur all on their own, but that’s no reason to simply leave things up to chance. Whether you’re in a long-term monogamous relationship, prefer to play the field, or are getting ready to jump back into the pool after a long time on your own, a little effort goes a long way. The following are some simple but effective ways to keep sex fresh, exciting, and satisfying.

  1. Talk It Out

Communication is one of the easiest (and most effective) ways to keep your sex life as exciting as possible, especially if you’re in a relationship. Maybe you’ve been curious about bringing a favorite sex toy into the bedroom or wanting to try roleplaying on for size. Perhaps you’ve been dying to trade pet fantasies with your partner so you can make one of theirs come true someday.

Whatever the case may be, couples should be talking openly and frequently about sex instead of playing guessing games, so get in the habit of doing this.  When you’re talking about sex with one another, you’re always in the know as to what’s working for you both and what’s not. It’s that much easier to bring up new ideas for consideration as well.

  1. Get a Little Luxe

Not only does everyone like to feel a little pampered from time to time, but using little luxuries as precursors to sex can help build anticipation and boost excitement. If you have a special occasion coming up or simply want to make things feel extra special for a change, take the time to set the mood in preparation for intimacy. Light some candles, turn down the lights, and play some soft music.

Then trade slow, sensual massages with your partner. Be sure to experiment with different ways to soothe the kinks out of those tired muscles. Try using a fragrant body oil to help your hands slide effortlessly over your partner’s skin. You can also experiment with a good wand massager, especially if you’re looking for a no-pressure way to introduce toys into your sex life. Start by keeping things innocent and using the massager to help with the actual massage, but don’t be afraid to finish your partner off with a happy ending if you’re both game.

  1. Try All-Day Foreplay

Sex is always so much hotter when you’ve been positively aching for it all day long. That said, who says foreplay has to start immediately before it’s time to get down and dirty? The earlier in your day you start laying the groundwork for a night to remember, the hotter the sex will ultimately be when it is time to get together at the end of your day.

Start by sending your partner off to enjoy their day with a long kiss and perhaps a little flirty groping. Then keep the heat building by sending them steamy sexts all day long, as well as a super-hot selfie or two if you’re game. By the time you’re together again at the end of the day, you’ll both be more than ready to rip each other’s clothes off and get to it.

  1. Embrace Erotica

The more time you spend thinking about sex and anticipating the next time you’ll have it, the higher your sex drive is ultimately going to be. Erotica and porn can be wonderful ways to explore your personal collection of sexual fantasies both on your own and with your partner. They can also be great ways to get yourself going in anticipation of a potential sexy romp with a partner later on, especially if you bring your vibrator along for the ride.

Porn can also be a great conversation starter for you and your partner. Many couples love watching porn together as a way to get in the mood or come up with some fun new bedroom tricks to try. Others like watching porn separately and sharing or discussing clips they especially liked later on. There’s no wrong way to go about it, so just do what comes naturally.

  1. Be Open to Possibility

While there’s definitely a lot to be said for a well-planned romantic night in, it’s important to be open to spontaneity as well. Always keep your eyes open for opportunities to get frisky or get a little sexy. Take advantage of those dark corners, out of the way places, and little chance moments that sometimes fall in your lap out of nowhere. Whisper sexy things in your partner’s ear in the middle of a crowd. Be creative.

At the end of the day, sex at its best is primal, fun, and energetic. The more you allow for it to be this way, the more exciting your sex life will become (and stay). What are your favorite ways to keep things interesting with your partner?

Unleash Your Inner Siren: How to Be Your Sexiest and Sultriest

While it’s great that modern women are openly embracing concepts like sexual empowerment and body positivity, those things definitely come more naturally to some of us than others. Even the most confident women you know probably didn’t get there overnight, so it’s important to understand that sexual confidence is a process.

Sexiness and sultriness are totally qualities you can cultivate though. The key to success lies in learning to love yourself and to embrace your unique sexuality for everything that it is, both with a partner and on your own. It’s easier than you think and we’re here to teach you how.

Dress the Part

We’re all familiar with how powerful putting together the right look can be, right? We all have a specific dress, a pair of jeans, a power suit, or a favorite lipstick that makes us feel like a million bucks every time we put it on. We can’t help but walk taller, hold our heads higher, and act with more confidence than we normally would.

If you really want to get in touch with your inner seductress, make it a point to wear things that make you feel your sexiest and most attractive. Feeling sexy really helps you to easier achieve unforgettable orgasms! That doesn’t have to mean high heels, red lipstick, and skintight vinyl (although it’s fine if you want it to). If you feel your sultriest dressed in a white t-shirt, a ponytail, and a bare face, then that’s the look you should be rocking.

Embrace the Art of Self-Love

No, we’re not talking about giving yourself a pep talk or treating yourself to a manicure when you want one. We’re talking about spending some serious sexual one-on-one time with yourself and truly getting to know your body. Women who are sexually empowered and positively ooze sex appeal are women who perfectly understand how their bodies like to be touched.

If you’re most comfortable doing things au natural and letting your fingers do the walking, that’s perfectly OK, but don’t underestimate the value of adding the right sex toy to the mix. A great vibrator can be positively lifechanging and introduce you to interesting new sensations you never knew you’d love so much, so don’t be afraid to open that door and walk through it with gusto.

Talk About Sex

If you’re in a relationship or seeing someone, then it makes sense to include your partner in the process. Better sex and higher sexual confidence start with open, frank conversation about those topics, so it’s officially time to get comfortable communicating with your partner on this level (if you don’t already).

Start by being honest with them about how you’re feeling. Tell them you’re looking to get in touch with a sultrier, more sexually expressive version of yourself. If you’ve got some ideas on what changes you’d like to make, bring those up for discussion. Invite your partner to offer up some suggestions of their own if they like. Example topics to consider can include personal fantasies, sex toys, roleplay, or items to add to a mutual “sexual bucket list”.

Cultivate Confidence in General

How you carry yourself, conduct yourself, and live your life outside of the bedroom has more to do with your sexual confidence than you might think. Mindfully look for opportunities to be more assertive and cultivate confidence in every areas of your life. It’s only a matter of time before you’re instinctively doing it in the bedroom as well.

Is there something you want that you know you deserve – a promotion, an apology, or even just a little appreciation? Do you know beyond the shadow of a doubt when you’re right? Are you tired of going along to get along so much of the time? Speak up. Make your voice heard. Confidence and assertiveness aren’t just useful qualities to have. They’re five-alarm sexy as well.

Be Yourself

Every woman has features and personal qualities she likes about herself, as well as a few she doesn’t like. Most of us spend way too much time focusing on what we don’t like and looking for ways to hide it or change it. Instead, try flipping the script and focusing on the positive instead.

What do you like most about yourself, and what do other people compliment you on the most? Maybe it’s your sparkling blue eyes, your long legs, or your naturally curly hair. It could be your sense of humor, your smile, or your laugh. Those aren’t just the things that make you stand out. They’re the features that make you sexiest, so look for ways to play them up and make them work for you. Trust us when we say no one’s really noticing the things you don’t like about yourself anyway.

At the end of the day, “sexy” is all about how comfortable you are in your own skin, both in the bedroom and outside of it. Isn’t it time you explored the possibilities?

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