Spending time physically apart from a partner can be challenging, but thankfully, modern technology offers some very fun ways to stay connected. While sexting and phone sex are great, there’s nothing like a smoking hot skype sex session to make you feel close, even from miles away.
Whether you're new to it or a seasoned pro, this is your expert guide to making sure your virtual encounters are completely mind-blowing.
First, a quick update on Skype
While "Skype sex" is the term everyone knows and searches for, the app itself is on its way out. The good news is that all the tips in this guide work perfectly for any video platform, like FaceTime, WhatsApp, or Google Meet. We'll keep calling it Skype sex because that's the classic term, but know that you can apply these skills anywhere.
How to set up for amazing Skype sex (The technical stuff)
A little prep work can make the difference between a frustrating, laggy call and a seamless, sexy experience. Nothing kills the mood faster than a bad connection or a laptop that suddenly dies.
Get your tech right
Do a little damage control in advance. Reboot your computer if it’s been a while and check your internet connection. When initiating skype to skype sex, ensure your camera is clean for a clear picture. Most importantly, if you’re planning on using a toy at any point, make sure it’s fully charged and ready to go.
Set the mood
Think about your location and what your partner will see. You don't need a movie set, but a little effort goes a long way. Consider some soft, luxurious bedding and a few scented candles. This will not only look great on camera but will also help you feel more sensual. And don’t forget about your outfit — consider wearing your sexiest lingerie underneath your clothes for a surprise reveal later.
How to perform during Skype sex (The fun part)
The beauty of video sex is that you get to combine dirty talk with live visuals. It's a chance to actually see each other get lost in the moment. Make sure you use that to your advantage.
Combine dirty talk with visuals
Start by telling your partner in detail what you’d like to do to them if you were in the same room. Make eye contact through the camera to amplify the effect. Let them enjoy watching you as you touch yourself, and don't forget to soak up the sizzling sight of their enjoyment as well.
Bring in your sex toys
Toys can take your session from good to unforgettable. Not only will it make the experience more stimulating for you, but it provides an incredibly hot show for your partner. Don't forget the lube!
- Interactive Play: For the ultimate long-distance connection, try a wearable vibrator. Many of these are app-controlled, letting your partner control your pleasure from anywhere in the world.
- Solo Play: For a powerful visual, a large wand vibrator is always a crowd-pleaser.
- Visual Tease: Using a realistic vibrator can add a very visual element to your show that your partner will love.
3 fun Skype sex ideas to try
If you're feeling a little nervous or just want to try something new, these simple scenarios can add a fun, playful dynamic to your call.
1. The Director
Take turns being "The Director." When it's your partner's turn, they're in complete control and get to tell you exactly what to do, from how to touch yourself to what position you should be in. Then, switch roles and direct your own scene.
2. The Party Line (Group Fun)
Are you non-monogamous or exploring polyamory? Video calls are surprisingly effective for coordinating skype group sex sessions. You can invite a third (or fourth!) partner into the call for a virtual group play session where everyone can watch and participate safely from their own homes.
3. The Surprise Reveal
Before your call, put on your sexiest outfit. Then, put a big hoodie or robe over it so your partner can't see what's underneath. Begin the call like a normal conversation, and then, when the moment feels right, surprise them by revealing what you're wearing. Just make sure they're in a private place first!
Skype sex is a powerful opportunity to explore a wilder side of yourself and your relationship. It’s meant to be satisfying, but it's also supposed to be fun, so don’t take it too seriously. If something feels awkward, just laugh it off together. At the end of the day, it's all about connection, and this is one of the most exciting ways to maintain it.
FAQ: Virtual sex tips
Is Skype sex safe? +
Generally, yes, but digital privacy is important. Ensure you trust the person you are on a call with. If you are worried about screenshots or recordings, stick to apps that notify you if a screenshot is taken, or keep your face out of frame during the most explicit moments.
How do I make it less awkward? +
Acknowledge the awkwardness! Laughing together releases tension. Also, using props like couples vibrators can shift the focus from "performing" to simply reacting to the sensation, which looks much more natural and sexy.
What is the best lighting? +
Avoid harsh overhead lighting, which creates unflattering shadows. Soft, front-facing light (like a ring light or a lamp placed behind your laptop) is the most flattering. Candlelight is great for mood, but make sure there is enough light for the camera to actually see you!