Sex is a fantastic way to get to know your own body and grow closer to a partner, but it's also a skill that can be perfected and expanded with a little creativity. For anyone interested in a well-rounded, sex-positive life, there are some experiences every person ought to have.
Building a sex bucket list is the perfect way to define your sexual goals and start exploring. The following are seven ideas to get your list started, but feel free to make it your own.
1. Add "mastering masturbation" to your sex bucket list
Just about everyone indulges in a little solo action, but too few people fully embrace masturbation for the wonderful thing it is. Self-love is an important part of a rich, full, intimate life. Masturbating helps you learn what turns you on and discover how you like to be touched — valuable information you can then pass on to a lover. It’s an empowering way to relieve stress and take responsibility for your own pleasure.
2. Watch (and act out) erotic media together
Porn and erotica aren’t just for solo enjoyment anymore. Watching with a partner can be an amazing source of inspiration and a great way to have an open conversation about personal turn-ons, kinks, and fantasies. For a fun challenge on your sex bucket list, try putting on your favorite video and acting out everything you see on screen. It's a perfect source of inspiration for new positions, scenarios, and costumes.
3. Build a sex toy collection
If you're serious about expanding your sexual horizons, a sex bucket list isn't complete without toys. Yes, they’re terrific for adding oomph to your solo sessions, but they’re also incredible for kicking things up a notch with a partner. Think couples’ vibrators, vibrating cock rings, and more! If you’re new to sex toys, start with something approachable like a moderately sized vibrator. A well-stocked toy chest is an investment worth making.
4. Plan an all-day "bed-in"
Everyone needs a delicious, self-indulgent day once in a while. If you’ve never given yourself permission to spend an entire day tangled up with a partner, it's time to add it to your list. Stay naked, go crazy as often as you like, and fill the time between with cuddling and cat naps. Singles can do the same! Splurge on that new rabbit vibrator you’ve been dreaming about, grab a new lube, and devote an entire afternoon to yourself.
5. Explore anal play
Your anal area is packed with sensitive nerve endings, so if you haven’t given backdoor play a chance, you could be missing out. You don't have to go straight to penetration unless you want to. Start slow with some light touching or by stimulating the outside with your favorite vibrator. When you’re comfortable, you can continue exploring with toys like anal beads or butt plugs.
6. Try a little public nookie
The idea of public sex is a classic sexual bucket list item for a reason. You don’t have to have full-on intercourse in a risky spot to get the thrill of possible detection. You can start small with some sneaky groping in the back of a movie theater. To take things to the next level, try adding a discreet remote-controlled vibrator to the mix. One partner wears it while the other controls it — perfect for some clandestine fun anywhere.
7. Bring a sexual fantasy to life
Everyone has a fantasy or two. Why not take the next step and bring one to life? So long as it’s safe and everyone consents, anything goes. Sit down with your partner for a judgment-free fantasy swap and choose one to act out. It can be an amazing, sex-positive bonding experience for both of you. Let your imagination run wild and explore the possibilities together!
Your sex bucket list should be a living document that grows and changes as you do. The goal isn't just to check boxes, but to stay curious, communicate openly, and have a lot of fun along the way. Now, what will you try first?