Anal toys open up a world of new sensations, but diving in without preparation can be daunting. Anal training is the process of gradually preparing your anus for comfortable and pleasurable penetration. It’s a journey of discovery that helps your muscles relax and stretch, and the right tools can make all the difference. This is your complete guide to the best anal training toys, designed to help you start your adventure safely and with confidence.
What are anal training toys?
An anal toy designed for training is specifically engineered to help you slowly and comfortably acclimate to the sensation of anal penetration. Often referred to as an anal trainer or an anal training kit, these sets typically start small and are made from body-safe materials like silicone. The goal is to gradually increase in size at your own pace, training your muscles to relax and making future anal play — with larger toys, an anal sex partner, or even fisting — much more pleasurable.
The best anal training toys for beginners
While there are many options out there, most anal training journeys start with one of these three classic toys.
1. Butt plugs
Butt plugs are the most common starting point for anal training. They feature a tapered tip for easy insertion, a thicker body to provide a feeling of fullness, and a flared base that ensures they stay safely outside the body.
- How they work for training: By starting with a small silicone butt plug and wearing it for short periods, you allow your muscles to get used to the feeling of being filled. As you get more comfortable, you can gradually move up to larger sizes.
- Our Recommendation: A vibrating butt plug like the Pyra adds another layer of pleasure to the training process. Its rippled texture and tapered shape make it perfect for beginners, while the vibration helps relax the muscles.
Pro-Tip: If you have a prostate, plugs aren't just for training; they're a direct line to the P-spot. Learning how to have a prostate orgasm is much easier with a curved plug. Many men also pair a plug with cock rings to maintain a stronger erection while enjoying the fullness.
2. Anal beads
Anal beads consist of a string of small, connected balls that are inserted one at a time. The magic of beads comes from the sensation of them popping in and, especially, out.
- How they work for training: The graduated size of the beads provides a gentle introduction to insertion. The act of slowly pulling them out creates a unique, rippling sensation that helps your muscles learn to relax and release.
- Our Recommendation: For a luxurious experience, try the Bougie Beads. They offer a smooth, graduated design that is perfect for controlling pace and depth.
3. Anal dildos
While many dildos are designed for vaginal use, an anal dildo is distinct because it must always have a flared base. Smaller, slimmer dildos are excellent tools for training if you want to mimic the feeling of a real penis.
- How they work for training: Unlike a plug which stays still, an anal dildo allows you to introduce the sensation of in-and-out movement (thrusting). Starting with a slim dildo helps your body get used to this motion before moving on to a partner.
- Our Recommendation: Look for a toy made of firm-yet-flexible silicone with a tapered head. If you want to simulate the real thing, explore our thrusting vibrators, but remember to start on the lowest setting!
Safety first: essential rules for using anal training toys
Anal training should always be a safe and pleasurable experience. Follow these non-negotiable rules to ensure you have a great time.
- Use a ton of lube: The anus does not self-lubricate. A high-quality lube is absolutely essential to prevent friction, tearing, and discomfort. Avoid anal lube alternatives like oil or lotion, as they can damage condoms and toys.
- Always use a flared base: Never, ever use a toy anally that does not have a wide, flared base. The rectum can and will suck up objects without a base, leading to a very awkward trip to the emergency room.
- Start small and go slow: Always begin with the smallest toy in your kit. Listen to your body and only move up in size when you feel completely comfortable and ready. There is no rush.
- Clean everything thoroughly: Hygiene is critical for anal play. Always wash your toys with a dedicated toy cleaner and warm water before and after every single use to prevent the spread of bacteria.
- Listen to your body: If you feel any sharp pain, stop immediately. Anal training should feel full and stretching, but it should never be painful.
FAQ: Common questions about anal toys
What is the best anal toy for beginners? +
For absolute beginners, a small, soft silicone butt plug is the gold standard. It allows you to get used to the sensation of "fullness" without having to worry about thrusting or movement.
Is an anal vibrator better than a standard plug? +
Many anal lovers find an anal vibrator helpful because the vibrations can actually distract the nerves and help the sphincter muscles relax more quickly than a static toy.
Do I need an anal training kit? +
While you can buy toys individually, an anal training kit is convenient because it takes the guesswork out of sizing. It provides you with a clear roadmap from small to large.
By starting slow, listening to your body, and using the right toys, you can experience a safe, exciting, and deeply pleasurable journey of backdoor exploration. The key is patience, plenty of lube, and a sense of adventure.