Let's talk about a form of pleasure that’s been around for centuries but is only now getting the mainstream attention it deserves: analingus. Also known as rimming, eating ass, or a rimjob, this act of oral-anal contact is a powerful erogenous zone for many people. Yet, it’s often shrouded in mystery, stigma, or internet memes.
We’re here to pull back the curtain. This is your shame-free, expert guide to anal play's most popular oral technique. We'll cover what is rimming, how to eat ass safely, and why it might just be the next adventure for your sex life.
What is analingus, exactly?
Technically speaking, analingus is the act of using your mouth, lips, and tongue to stimulate a partner’s anus. In more colloquial terms, you might hear it called ass licking or ass eating. Regardless of what you call it, the anatomy is the same: The anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings, making this a highly pleasurable act for people of all genders and sexual orientations.
For some, a quick rim job is a fun part of foreplay to relax the muscles; for others, hardcore analingus (involving deeper tongue penetration) is the main event.
Is analingus safe? (A very important note)
Before we get into the fun stuff, let's talk about safety. Because the anus is an exit point for waste, there is a risk of transmitting bacteria (like E. coli) or parasites. There's also a risk of transmitting STIs like herpes, HPV, and hepatitis. The key to safe rimming is practicing good hygiene and using barriers.
- Hygiene is non-negotiable: The receiving partner should be freshly showered. A quick rinse with water and mild soap right before play is always a good idea. The giving partner should also practice good oral hygiene, but avoid brushing or flossing right before, as this can create small cuts in the gums that increase STI risk.
- Use a barrier: The safest way to perform analingus is by using a dental dam (or something sexier, like Lorals single-use latex undies). This is a thin sheet of latex or polyurethane that you place over the anus, creating a barrier that prevents direct contact while still allowing for sensation.
How to prepare for a rimjob
A little preparation can go a long way in making both partners feel comfortable, confident, and ready to enjoy the experience.
- Talk about It first: Consent is everything. Have an open, judgment-free conversation with your partner beforehand. Discuss desires, boundaries, and any anxieties either of you might have.
- Get clean: As mentioned, a shower is a must. If you’re concerned about internal cleanliness, a gentle enema or douche can be used, but it’s not always necessary for external play. (Check out our guide to anal sex for more detailed prep tips).
- Set the mood: Create a relaxed and comfortable environment. Dim the lights, put on some music, and make sure you have plenty of time so no one feels rushed.
How to eat ass: a beginner's guide
Ready to try it? Whether you are giving or receiving, here is the step-by-step breakdown on how to eat ass like a pro.
For the giver (The Rim-er)
- Start slow: Don’t go straight for the bulls-eye. Start by exploring the surrounding areas. Kiss and lick the lower back, the butt cheeks, and the perineum (the taint) to build anticipation.
- Use different techniques: Experiment with your tongue. Try broad, flat licks; circling the opening with the tip of your tongue; or flicking motions. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions to see what they enjoy most.
- Don't forget your hands: Use your hands to hold and spread your partner’s cheeks, giving you better access. This sensation of vulnerability can be a huge turn-on for the receiver.
For the receiver (The Rim-ee)
- Relax and breathe: The anal muscles can clench when you're nervous. Take deep breaths and consciously try to relax your body. The more relaxed you are, the more pleasurable the sensations will be.
- Get into a comfortable position: Access is key. Lying on your stomach with a pillow under your hips (to pop the booty up) or on your back with your legs raised (like in the "happy baby" yoga pose) are both great positions.
- Use your words: Guide your partner. Tell them what feels good — "faster," "slower," "right there." Your feedback is the key to an amazing experience.
Leveling up: Hardcore analingus and toys
Analingus can be incredible on its own, but it’s also a perfect complement to other forms of play. If you want to take things from "vanilla" to "hardcore," try these additions:
- Add a vibrator: While your partner is busy with their mouth, you can introduce external vibration. Holding the Pyra against the perineum or clitoris while receiving a rimjob creates a blended orgasm that is out of this world.
- Combine with beads: If you really want to blow their mind, try inserting Bougie Beads while you are rimming them. The sensation of the beads sliding out against your tongue offers incredible texture and stimulation.
- Prostate play: For partners with a penis, rimming is the gateway to the P-spot. Combining oral stimulation with a finger or a toy is a great way to learn how to have a prostate orgasm.
FAQ: Everything you wanted to know about eating ass
What is a rim job supposed to feel like? +
It varies! For most, it feels like a warm, wet, ticklish sensation that quickly turns into deep relaxation and arousal. Because the area is so nerve-rich, the tongue's texture can feel surprisingly intense.
Can I use lube for rimming? +
You can, but be careful with the taste! Many standard lubes are bitter. If you want to use lube, opt for a flavored one, or better yet, use natural saliva. Avoid anal lube alternatives like oils if you are using a dental dam, as oil breaks down latex.
What is hardcore analingus? +
Hardcore analingus usually refers to deeper tongue penetration (trying to push the tongue inside the sphincter) or engaging in rimming for extended periods of time to induce a trance-like state.
The bottom line
Analingus isn't for everyone, and that's okay. But if you're curious, it can be an incredibly intimate and pleasurable way to explore new territory with a partner. As long as you prioritize consent, communication, and safety, you can see for yourself what all the hype is about. Ready to explore more? Check out our full collection of toys to pair with your new skills.