Let's talk about a form of pleasure that’s been around for centuries but is only now getting the mainstream attention it deserves: analingus. Also known as rimming, this act of oral-anal contact is a powerful erogenous zone for many people, but it’s often shrouded in mystery and stigma. We’re here to pull back the curtain. This is your shame-free, expert guide to what analingus is, how to do it safely, and why it might just be the next adventure for your sex life.
What is analingus, exactly?
Analingus, or rimming, is the act of using your mouth, lips, and tongue to stimulate a partner’s anus for sexual pleasure. The anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings, making this a highly pleasurable act for people of all genders and sexual orientations. For some, it’s a fun part of foreplay; for others, it’s the main event.
Is analingus safe? (A very important note)
Before we get into the fun stuff, let's talk about safety. Because the anus is an exit point for waste, there is a risk of transmitting bacteria (like E. coli) or parasites that can cause illness. There's also a risk of transmitting STIs like herpes, HPV, and hepatitis. The key to safe rimming is practicing good hygiene and using barriers.
- Hygiene is Non-Negotiable: The receiving partner should be freshly showered. A quick rinse right before play is always a good idea. The giving partner should also practice good oral hygiene, but avoid brushing or flossing right before, as this can create small cuts in the gums.
- Use a Barrier: The safest way to perform analingus is by using a dental dam. This is a thin sheet of latex or polyurethane that you place over the anus, creating a barrier that prevents direct contact while still allowing for sensation.
How to prepare for analingus
A little preparation can go a long way in making both partners feel comfortable, confident, and ready to enjoy the experience.
- Talk About It First: Consent is everything. Have an open, judgment-free conversation with your partner beforehand. Discuss desires, boundaries, and any anxieties either of you might have.
- Get Clean: As mentioned, a shower is a must for the receiving partner. If you’re concerned about cleanliness, a gentle enema or douche can be used, but it’s not always necessary for external play.
- Set the Mood: Create a relaxed and comfortable environment. Dim the lights, put on some music, and make sure you have plenty of time so no one feels rushed.
How to perform analingus: a beginner's guide
Ready to try it? Here are a few techniques to get you started.
For the giver
- Start Slow: Don’t go straight for the main event. Start by exploring the surrounding areas. Kiss and lick the lower back, the butt cheeks, and the perineum to build anticipation.
- Use Different Techniques: Experiment with your tongue. Try broad, flat licks; circling the opening with the tip of your tongue; or flicking motions. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions to see what they enjoy most.
- Don't Forget Your Hands: Use your hands to hold and spread your partner’s cheeks, giving you better access and creating a sensation of vulnerability that can be a huge turn-on.
For the receiver
- Relax and Breathe: The anal muscles can clench when you're nervous. Take deep breaths and consciously try to relax your body. The more relaxed you are, the more pleasurable the sensations will be.
- Get into a Comfortable Position: Lying on your stomach with a pillow under your hips or on your back with your legs raised (like in the happy baby yoga pose) are both great positions that provide easy access.
- Use Your Words: Guide your partner. Tell them what feels good — "faster," "slower," "right there." Your feedback is the key to an amazing experience.
Taking it to the next level with toys
Analingus can be incredible on its own, but it’s also a perfect complement to other forms of anal play. While your partner is busy with their mouth, you can introduce an anal toy for a mind-blowing, blended sensation. A beginner-friendly toy like the vibrating Funn Plug or a string of Funn Beads can add a feeling of fullness and internal vibration that takes the experience to a whole new level.
Analingus isn't for everyone, and that's okay. But if you're curious, it can be an incredibly intimate and pleasurable way to explore new territory with a partner. As long as you prioritize consent, communication, and safety, you can see for yourself what all the hype is about.