It’s a fantasy almost everyone has had at some point — how hot would it be to get frisky outside the bedroom? Sometimes you spot a golden opportunity with a lover and can’t help but think, “what if?” But what if you’re ready to stop thinking and start doing? Public sex can be an incredible thrill, but if you decide to give it a try, you need a smart plan to avoid getting caught.
The risks vs. the rewards of public sex
Let's be real: the main reason to have sex in public is the adrenaline rush. It's a great way to add a jolt of spontaneity to your sex life and create a secret, exciting memory with a partner. Even just talking about the possibility can be a huge turn-on and open up conversations about other fantasies. The risk, however, is equally real. If you get caught by the public, it's embarrassing and disrespectful to unwilling observers. And if you get caught by the cops, you could face serious charges.
A quick but important note on the law
Before we go any further, let's be crystal clear: having sex in public is illegal in most places. It typically falls under laws like "public indecency" or "lewd conduct," which can come with hefty fines or even jail time. This guide is for informational purposes only, for consenting adults. You are fully responsible for knowing and following your local laws. The smartest way to play is to be discreet, respectful, and not get caught.
How to have sex in public (and not get caught)
If you're ready to embrace the risk, a little preparation goes a long way. These tips will give you the best chance of having a great time and walking away with nothing but a sexy secret.
1. Dress for success
The goal is to blend in, not stand out. Wear neutral, understated tones that make it harder for passersby to notice you. Easy-access clothing is key. Think skirts or dresses with no underwear, or pants with a loose waistband. The fewer layers you have to deal with, the quicker and more discreet you can be.
2. Pick your location (and time) carefully
Timing is everything. Bustling locations like parks or beaches are best approached after dark. Secluded spots in wooded areas or off-the-beaten-path trails are often good choices. An empty movie theater (in the back row, of course) or a private dressing room are classic options for a reason. Always scope out your spot first to understand the risks.
3. Have a plausible excuse ready
Often, public play can look like something completely innocent from a distance. Before you get down to business, figure out what your cover story is in case someone approaches. Are you just admiring the view? Looking for a lost earring? If you’re caught by any actual authority figures, though, don’t lie. Apologize, be polite, and promise it won’t happen again.
4. Master the right positions
Public sex often requires some creative positioning. Standing positions or doggie style tend to work well in a pinch, as they can be done quickly and discreetly. Practice at home so you can get into position smoothly when the opportunity strikes.
5. Consider remote-controlled toys
The absolute best way to enjoy the thrill of public play with the lowest risk is with a remote-controlled toy. A discreet, wearable vibrator like the Unda or Ossia is perfect for this. One of you wears the toy in your panties while the other controls the vibrations from across a dinner table or a crowded bar. No one else will be the wiser.
Knowing how to have sex in public is really about knowing how to be smart, discreet, and respectful of others. The thrill comes from the risk, but the best experiences are the ones where the only thing you take home is a fantastic memory, not a public indecency charge. Play safe, and have fun.