Even the most passionate couples can benefit from trying something new in the bedroom. Venturing outside of your comfort zone is a key part of keeping a relationship exciting and intimate. If you're looking for new ways to spice up your sex life, you're in the right place. The following are just a few suggestions to get you started.
1. Introduce a new sex toy to the bedroom
You don’t need to be single to appreciate what an amazing sex toy brings to the table. Vibrators, probes, and dildos aren’t just for getting to know your own body better — they’re also incredible ways to take sex with a partner to the next level. A new toy can be the perfect reason to go shopping for something innovative or intriguing. Consider a rotating vibrator with a suction cup base like the Turbo Rabbit for hands-free fun, or a versatile toy like the Volea that can double as a C-ring. A well-stocked pleasure chest is an investment worth making.
2. Try mutual masturbation
Masturbation isn’t just for going it alone. Doing it in the presence of a consenting partner is seriously hot, and it’s a great teaching experience for both of you. You each get to see exactly how the other person likes to be touched and pleasured, which is valuable information that will come in handy later. You can do it together simultaneously, to each other, or take turns putting on a little show. The sky’s the limit, so don’t be afraid to get creative.
3. Get serious about lube
Don’t make the mistake of thinking lube is simply something to keep around “just in case.” It’s one of the best, most accessible ways to take just about any sexual experience to the next level. Getting down and dirty with your partner or treating them to a quick hand job? Lube amplifies the pleasurable sensations for everyone involved. You can also experiment with lubes that cool, warm, or even have a flavor.
4. Flip the script on your go-to positions
It's time to see what partnered sex looks like and feels like from the other side of the equation. If you’re normally the one on the bottom, flip the script and get on top. If you tend to let your partner make all the power moves, try being the more dominant one for a change. Normally into having sex in the dark right before bed? Try starting your day with morning sex or leave the lights on for a refreshing change of pace and some seriously sexy visuals.
5. Perfect your oral sex skills
When was the last time you really let go and enjoyed giving your partner some seriously amazing head? We mean the kind of oral sex that rocks worlds and curls toes. Pick a time when you’ve both got a while to really enjoy yourselves. Light some candles, put on some music, and take your sweet time taking your partner for a ride to remember. Feel free to add a little extra oomph with some flavored lube or a flickering tongue vibrator like the Versa T.
6. Bring your sexiest self to bed
Sexy is a state of mind, and it starts with how we allow ourselves to feel on an everyday basis. Get in touch with the sexier side of yourself and look for ways to make it a part of your life. Do your hair and makeup for no other reason than wanting to. Put on an outfit that really hugs your curves and take some sexy selfies. Sext your partner out of the blue during the day, and then roll with whatever happens next.
Spicing up your sex life is all about curiosity, communication, and a willingness to explore. Trying new things together is a powerful way to build intimacy and reconnect. Pick one idea from this list and see where the adventure takes you.