Naturally, women today know that they should feel at ease in their own skin, regardless of what it looks like. Putting that thinking into practice can be challenging, though. Regardless of their size or shape, modern women are continually sent the message that they’re not good enough as they are.

Tuning out all the negativity feels impossible sometimes, especially when it seems like that’s all you hear, but it’s worth it. Nothing feels as good as self-acceptance and rampant self-love. Here’s how to build your sense of body-confidence and fall madly in love with who you are.

Focus on health, not looks.

What motivates your approach to eating, exercise, and physical self-care? A body-confident person with a healthy self-image always makes that call with proper health in mind. They eat to nourish themselves and exercise as a way to care for their body. It’s not about reaching or maintaining a particular weight.

Even if it’s hard, it’s time to stop focusing on the scale or how many inches your waist may have on it. Be good to your body instead. Feed it plenty of good quality foods – lean protein, whole grains, and fresh produce. Drink water like it’s your job, and go easy on the alcohol. Exercise by partaking in activities you enjoy and that make you feel alive. You’ll love the difference it makes.

Compliment yourself daily.

Body-confident women appreciate it when others pay them compliments, but they don’t wait around for it to happen. They pay themselves compliments first. Try it sometime, and work on making it a habit. Do it even if it feels silly at first, and do it every day. Remind yourself that these are true things you’re saying and that you deserve to hear them.

How you do this is up to you. Some women do enjoy looking at themselves in the mirror and paying themselves verbal compliments. However, using a journal to focus on what you like about yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is just as effective.

Get to know yourself sexually.

Society still trains women to think of an orgasm (or sensual pleasure of any kind) as something a woman waits for her partner to give her. It should be something every woman knows she can give to herself anytime she’s in the mood and in whatever manner she chooses. Learning your way around your own body is the best way to know what types of touch you respond best to. That’s information you can then use to improve your sex life with your partner.

There’s nothing wrong with doing things the old-fashioned way with fingers alone, but a good vibrator is too good to miss out on. Treat yourself to a luxury vibrator you can count on to come through for you. Then have a blast taking your solo sessions to the next level.

Do things for yourself often.

Telling yourself you’re worth it is a great start when it comes to building solid body-confidence, but you shouldn’t stop at mere words. Confident women show their love for themselves with actions, as well. Go out of your way to be kind to yourself and treat yourself to things or activities that make you feel your best.

Need a breather from an over-hectic social life? Schedule a weekend alone to regroup and recuperate. Pour yourself a glass of wine and treat yourself to a long, hot bubble bath. Spend an entire Sunday morning on a luxury skincare routine. Treat yourself to a day at the spa or splurge on that gorgeous new pair of boots you’ve wanted since forever. You deserve it, and you’re worth it.

Style yourself for you.

If you’re like many women, you’re conditioned to think that looking good is something you do to impress other people and gain their approval. And it’s OK to enjoy turning a few heads because it feels good. Just don’t build your whole aesthetic around what you think other people want to see from you.

First of all, it’s impossible to please everyone. Second, no one else’s opinion matters more than your own. Style yourself according to what you think is beautiful. Wear clothes that make you feel amazing and that you feel express who you are to the rest of the world. That can mean dressing to the nines in heels, lots of makeup, and a fresh blowout every day, or it can mean going au naturel every day in jeans, a t-shirt, and a fresh face. It’s your life and your body, so you, do you!

The more you consciously practice body-positivity and self-love in your life, the easier it will become. Before you know it, loving yourself and treating yourself like the queen you are will be second nature. Try it and see!