We've all flipped through those glossy sex manuals (Cosmo et al.) and felt a pang of “Wait, where do I fit in this pretzel situation?” If you've got curves that rival a Renaissance painting, some of those positions just aren't going to fly. But here's the tea: Your body is a wonderland, and it deserves to be celebrated in all its delicious glory. The key isn't to find positions that hide your body, but to find ones that work with it to create mind-blowing pleasure.
That's why we sat down with Sofie Roos, a licensed sexologist and relationship therapist at Passionerad, to get a rundown of which sex positions are the most empowering and pleasurable for plus-size bodies.
Why finding the right position matters
When you have a larger body, finding the right sex position is about more than just novelty — it's about comfort, confidence, and better orgasms. The right position can eliminate discomfort, provide support where you need it, and create the perfect angle for deep penetration or direct clitoral stimulation. When you feel physically comfortable and supported, it's easier to get out of your head and into your body, allowing you to fully relax and embrace pleasure.
The best sex positions for plus-size couples
According to Roos, these tried-and-true positions are perfect for curvy bodies, offering stability, control, and incredible sensations.
1. The spoon
Spooning is super intimate, with tons of full-body contact that's perfect for curvier frames. To do it, one partner lies on their side (little spoon) while the other (big spoon) nestles in behind them for rear-entry penetration.
“The Spoon works great for plus-sized people,” says Roos. “It’s a very intimate position that lets you kiss and whisper things in each other’s ears.” To make this position even more sensual, the big spoon can easily reach around and use a wand vibrator, like the Ultra Wand XL, to add extra pleasure for either partner.
2. The cowgirl
When it comes to empowering sex positions, you really can't beat Cowgirl. Even so, many plus-sized folks avoid this position, fearing they’ll “crush” their partner. But as Roos explains, that's rarely the case. “The top partner's legs bear most of the pressure, with the weight distributed onto the mattress,” she says.
The best part? Cowgirl puts you in the driver's seat. You control the speed, the angle, and the depth. Roos adds that it lets you "grind against each other in ways that feel good but aren’t necessarily so physically demanding." And, if you’d rather not grind directly on your partner’s pelvis, you can use a bullet vibrator like our OG Ultra Bullet to get yourself off.
3. Doggy style
Doggy style is a classic for a reason: It's primal, passionate, and allows for deep, satisfying G-spot or P-spot stimulation. If you have knee issues or just want some extra cushioning, place a pillow or two under your hips or knees for support.
Since doggy style leaves your hands free, it's the perfect opportunity to incorporate a vibrator for clitoral stimulation. The penetrating partner can also wear a cock ring to prolong their erection and add a little girth. If you're into anal play, doggy style is a great position to add a butt plug for extra sensations — just be sure to use plenty of lube.
The best sex isn't about forcing your body into a position that doesn't feel good. It's about finding the ones that make you feel powerful, comfortable, and incredibly turned on. These sex positions for plus-size bodies are a great starting point, but don't be afraid to experiment. Listen to your body, communicate with your partner, and have fun exploring what feels amazing for you.