There's no shortage of incredible sex positions for gay men. Whether you’re just starting to explore or looking to add something new to your rotation, this guide has you covered. The right positions can deepen your connection, let you play with control, and lead to some seriously intense pleasure.
This guide focuses on experiences for people with penises, and we’ll be releasing a guide for queer individuals with vulvas with the same level of care and detail soon. Bookmark this page for easy reference and inspiration.
Positions for Connection and Control
First, let's look at positions that build a deep bond while also letting you play with power dynamics. These are perfect for aligning with shared desires and comfort levels. A great way to enhance these positions is with cock rings, which can prolong erections and heighten sensation for both partners. An added bonus is that they make a penis look larger and firmer.
Safety tip: Always remove a cock ring immediately if you notice pain, numbness, or discoloration to avoid tissue damage.
Missionary (with a twist)
This take on the classic missionary puts intimacy front and center. The bottom drapes their legs over the top’s shoulders, creating incredible physical closeness. This angle is perfect for lingering eye contact, sensual kisses, and allows the top to easily massage their partner's thighs and calves, making every moment feel connected.
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This position is easily adjustable for different body sizes.
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It gives the bottom partner a great opportunity for self-pleasure, or they can let the top take charge of stimulating their penis and testicles.
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Finding your perfect rhythm might require a few adjustments to get the angles just right.
Cowboy
In the classic cowboy, the receptive partner sits upright, straddling their partner who is lying on their back. This is one of the best choices for anyone new to anal sex because it gives the bottom full control over the depth and speed. For experienced bottoms, it offers a chance to take on a more dominant role, while the penetrating partner can relax into a more submissive one. The angle is also ideal for deeper prostate stimulation.
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The person receiving can modify their movements as needed to heighten sensation or make quick changes if any discomfort occurs.
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The face-to-face intimacy makes communication easy.
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The giver has their hands free to run over their lover’s body, teasing and discovering erogenous zones.
Side-by-Side Spoon
For those moments when comfort and closeness are more important than intensity, the side-by-side spoon offers incredible intimacy. Both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, with the giving partner positioned behind in a full embrace. It minimizes physical strain, making it a great choice for anyone with sore muscles or limited mobility, and it’s perfect for longer sex marathons without fatigue.
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This is a perfect option if you’re looking for more affection and tenderness from your partner.
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For a more aggressive and primal experience, this angle easily allows the top to engage in hair-pulling or choking. (Always ensure you understand proper anatomy and breath play safety first.)
Deeper Angles: Next-Level Anal Positions
As you expand your repertoire, you might want to try some edgier and more advanced positions. This is a chance to experiment with new angles that can bring even more comfort and pleasure. No matter what you’re trying, don’t forget to use a generous amount of lube to reduce friction and the chance of tearing. Reapplying may be necessary, so keep it handy.
Doggy Style
The receptive partner is on all fours while the penetrating partner is behind them, either kneeling or standing. The bottom can control the thrust depth by changing the angle of their hips and the arch of their back. For more control and an even deeper angle, the top can wrap their leg around their partner in a mounting position.
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Penetration in this position is deeper and more intense, which can be a major plus depending on the bottom’s preference.
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It can create a powerful sense of power exchange, depending on your dynamic.
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The top has easy access to areas like the sensitive tissue around the anus and the perineum.
The Wheelbarrow
For the more adventurous, the wheelbarrow requires a bit more flexibility and strength. The receiving partner supports themselves on their hands while their partner lifts and holds their legs, creating a unique angle for deep penetration.
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This position requires trust and collaboration to get into and sustain.
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For those who appreciate a little kink, the giver can gently spank the bottom’s butt.
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To get even closer physically, the receiver can wrap their legs backward around the top.
Elevated Bottoming Positions
Sharing an act as vulnerable as anal sex can be a way to explore and affirm your identity and preferences. Elevating the bottom’s hips can be a game-changer for hitting the right angle, easing strain, and enhancing sensation. Grab some pillows and get ready to hit all the sweet spots.
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Consider investing in a specialized sex wedge, which can be used in a variety of positions to find out what feels best for everyone.
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Raising the hips helps reduce strain on the lower back and thighs.
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This position encourages the anal sphincter muscles to relax, which can ease insertion and reduce discomfort.
The Bottom Line
These positions are just a starting point. The real secret to profound, shared pleasure is communication, trust, and a willingness to experiment. Talk with your partner about what feels good and how you can adapt to each other’s bodies and desires. And remember, solo exploration can be a great path to mutual satisfaction.