Matching your wants and needs with the perfect vibe
October 18, 2021
Tell me what you want, what you really, really want … from the perfect vibe
If you’ve been scouring the web in search of the perfect vibe, like so many others, you’ve undoubtedly discovered that there are a crazy number of options available out there!
This is especially true in the case of first-time sex toy users who may feel intimidated and slightly overwhelmed. However, kudos if you’ve made the effort to focus on your sexual health and well-being.
Besides being downright amazing, orgasms are one of the best forms of self-care, and yeah, while we do realize that you can totally do it yourself for free, a little extra assistance can elevate the experience from ordinary to extraordinary.
However, here’s the thing (we’re so sorry to break it to you) but there is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all vibrator– many individuals find that they need to try a variety of toys before finding their perfect match.
And just because one buddy (or even hundreds of others) swears by one specific vibrator, this doesn’t mean you’ll experience the same results.
Our recommendation? Before you click the purchase button, do your research and figure out what you want from a vibe.
When it comes to exploring the vibe tribe, it’s important to know the basics. There are generally five types, which include:
- Internal vibrators: These are meant for penetration, although some are designed specially to stimulate your G-spot
- External vibrators: These focus on the clitoris, labia, and other erogenous zones
- Combo (rabbit-style) vibrators: These simultaneously stimulate both internally and externally.
- Anal vibrators: These have a flared base (so nothing gets lost up there)
- Penis vibrators (or cock rings)
Vibrators are available in a variety of shapes and sizes. You may experiment with a tiny or bullet-style vibe, which is excellent for clit stimulation.
External vibrators may also be long and feature bulbous or round, contoured-shaped tips for enhanced clit contact and stimulation. Rabbit-style vibes are insertable and include a clit stimulator that branches off, allowing the gadget to stimulate both regions at the same time.
But, as enticing as it sounds, a rabbit-style vibrator could prove too much for vibe newbies to handle at first. If you’re a first-time viber, it’s probably best to experiment with one or two vibrators. If you buy an insertable one and a clitoral one, you can use both hands and compare the experience you have from both.
All about sensations
When it comes to figuring out what you may like, it’s best to draw from experience and think about what sensations you already enjoy during solo or partnered sex. By knowing which places you like to be touched, it will be easier to find a tool that helps you touch that place in a feel-good way.
To make your life easier, we’ve compiled a rudimentary guide pairing desired sensations with the most appropriate vibe:
If you enjoy clitoral stimulation
Bean flickers to the front! Choose a clitoral vibrator if you prefer to play without penetration or if you love shining your pearl during vaginal-penetrative sex.
There is a massive variety of all different types and styles of clitoral vibes (also known as external vibrators).
Alternatively, use a wand vibrator (such as the Ultra Wand) which has a long handle for easier reach, and is much more intense.
If you enjoy internal vaginal stimulation:
Do you like it deep deep deep or somewhat shallow?
Do you feel yourself pulling your partner deeper inside you during penetrative sex? Do you love riding on top or doggy style?
It’s probably because you enjoy having your cervix (C-spot) or anterior fornix zone (A-spot) stimulated, which are both located at the back of the vaginal canal.
To replicate this deep, or deep and full, sensation, opt for a long insertable vibrator like the Cadenza.
If, however, you enjoy having the front few inches of your vaginal canal stimulated, you probably enjoy G-spot stimulation.
Opt for a G-spot vibrator like the Lola G for the ultimate moan-inducing vibes.
If you enjoy internal and external stimulation:
You’re going to want a rabbit vibe, which features a longer “shaft” for G-spot stimulation and an external attachment to give your clit some love.
If this sounds up your (ahem) alley, try one of these beauties:
Yes, some vibrators can gift you the gift of anal pleasure (and maybe even an anal orgasm).
Think about whether you want something that replicates anal intercourse, meaning it can move and thrusts in and out of you, or something that goes in and stays put (like a butt plug).
A vibrating dildo like the Forto Thruster features a realistic head, robust ridging, and a wickedly curved shaft that’s perfect for activating the sensitive P-spot in penis-having folk.
If you enjoy penis stimulation:
Starting off, decide whether you want the feeling of restriction that a cock ring provides or do you want to experience a combination of constriction and vibration.
The most common kind of penis vibrator is a cock ring with an integrated vibrator. These are worn around the penis’ base to both limit blood flow and vibrate it.
A penis vibrator may also be used to stimulate a partner’s clitoris during penile-vaginal intercourse.
Whatever you buy, make sure it’s body-safe
Unfortunately, there are still various vibrators on the market that are not body-safe. This means being a little consumer savvy before putting any new toy near your naughty bits.
Here’s what to look out for:
Porous or non-porous
If you have to remember a single fact from this entire article, make it this: a vibrator must be manufactured from nonporous material.
Porous basically means that the toy has tiny pores (that you won’t be able to see) that may collect microbes and impede proper cleaning of the toy.
If you don’t clean the toy thoroughly after each use, you run the risk of introducing bugs into your parts, which may lead to nasty infections.
Avoid these porous materials:
- polyvinyl chloride (PVC)
- thermoplastic rubber (TPR)
- thermoplastic elastomer (TPE)
- jelly latex
Ideally, you want a toy made of a nonporous material, such as:
- stainless steel
- ABS plastic
Battery-powered vs Rechargeable
Most vibrators are now rechargeable.
If you don’t mind replacing batteries every few months and/or are on a tight budget, battery-operated vibes are a good choice, but they may not have as many intensity levels or any of the other frills that come with the rechargeable versions.
If you’re partial to a bit of spunk tubbing, buy a waterproof vibe.
The same holds true if you can imagine yourself utilizing a vibe while in the shower.
Toys for the bath or shower are great for individuals who don’t have a lot of privacy.
It should be noted that although certain sex toys are advertised as water-resistant, this is not the same as waterproof. Water-resistant toys are those toys that can be dipped in water to clean them and you can probably use them in the shower, but they cannot be completely submerged and used in a bathtub or pool.
App and remote-controlled
A remote control or connected app may be used to operate certain vibrators. These are excellent options for people with bigger bodies and mobility options since you don’t have to fumble with hard-to-reach buttons between your legs.
Before emptying your cart, remember …
Sex toy cleaner
This isn’t essential but will definitely come in handy if you’re sensitive to soaps or if you don’t get the time to wash your toy after play.
This item is essential!
Lubricant reduces friction and disperses vibration, both of which enhance enjoyment. Add a water-based lubricant to your list of purchases if you’re using a silicone toy.
Now that you’ve got your toy…
Before you get all up in and around your junk, spend some time familiarizing yourself with your new sex toy. Even if you’re not a sex toy novice, take the time to learn about your new purchase and all its features.
While there is no right or wrong way to use a vibrator, it’s important to be comfortable and do what your heart (and genitals) desire.
So, let go and let the good vibes roll.