Being physically apart from your partner is tough, especially when it comes to intimacy. But just because you can't be in the same room doesn't mean your sex life has to be put on hold. With a little creativity and modern technology, you can keep the spark alive and the passion burning, no matter the distance. Here are five tips for keeping things hot when you can't physically be together.
1. Set the stage for video sex
Getting ready for some long-distance pleasure is a lot like preparing for a great date. The setting matters. Choose a spot in your home that’s comfortable and feels sexy to you, but that also offers a visually appealing view for your partner. Think about adding some special touches, like soft lighting from candles or luxurious bedding.
You’ll also want to make sure any tech you’ll be using is in good working order. There’s nothing worse than a webcam glitch or a bad Wi-Fi connection at the worst possible moment. And most importantly, always triple-check the security and privacy of your connection.
2. Talk about your desires first
While a surprise cam show can be hot, it's a good idea to talk things over first, especially if this is new territory for you as a couple. Ask your partner how they feel about giving video sex a try. If they’re game, take turns suggesting things you each think would be hot. Would they like to see you in something special? Do you like the idea of watching each other use toys? This is a great excuse to have a frank discussion about your fantasies.
3. Ease into your virtual session
Once you've set a date, you don’t have to launch right into a full-on striptease (unless you want to, of course). Break the ice with some casual conversation, just like you normally would. You can let your partner watch you undress or change into something sexy while you continue to talk. Allowing them to watch you shower is another great idea. The goal is to build anticipation and get you both comfortable and turned on.
4. Master the art of dirty talk
Making your play sound sexy is just as important as making sure it looks the part. Use your most seductive bedroom voice. If you're new to talking dirty, you can wait until you're genuinely aroused. Touch yourself a little or let your partner watch you use your favorite vibrator. Describe how good everything feels and talk about the things you’d be doing to them if you were in the same room together.
5. Get creative and use your toys
How the actual sex goes is completely up to you, but don’t be afraid to get creative. Make sure your partner has a good view of the action and vice versa. Then, lose yourselves as you watch and listen to each other enjoy the moment. Bringing toys into the mix can elevate the experience for both of you. For a truly connected session, a remote-controlled wearable vibrator like the Unda or Ossia allows your partner to control your pleasure from anywhere in the world.
Long-distance sex is a fun and satisfying way to enjoy each other whenever you have to be apart. It's an opportunity to explore a sexier, wilder side of yourself and your relationship. Embrace the technology, get creative, and have fun with it.