Sexual compatibility may not be the only thing that counts in a relationship, but it’s really important regardless. In fact, some people don’t quite realize how important it is until they find themselves in a relationship where things just aren’t gelling in that arena. That said, wouldn’t it be convenient if you could get a good read on what someone’s really like sexually before you decide to take them to bed? Asking them the following questions can help you at least make an educated guess.
“What position do you like most?”
Although most people do prefer variety, overall when it comes to positions, everyone has a favorite, and that favorite can tell you a lot about someone. This is especially the case if you can also get them to tell you why. Sometimes it’s all about the view a particular position might bring to the table, while other times it’s about the way it feels. How popular the position they pick is can clue you in to whether they’re more of a traditionalist or an experienced, adventurous type as well.
“Do you like to watch porn?”
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being into porn. Some people are really super into it while others just watch it when they’re bored or in the mood for a little inspiration, but almost everyone checks it out at least occasionally. In fact, most people these days will have zero problem telling you whether they watch it, not to mention how often. Generally speaking, people who watch lots of porn are a lot more likely to take cues from it and act the way they see porn stars act. Whether or not this is a good thing is really up to you to decide.
“How do you feel about sex toys?”
As with porn, both men and women alike are becoming increasingly comfortable not only using sex toys, but being open about their experiences with them. Someone who likes to use sex toys, either alone or with a partner, is likely to be more comfortable with their sexuality, as well as more into trying new things in general. Someone who doesn’t seem comfortable with them on any level, including you using them on your own, will be a lot less so. In fact, if you’re into sex toys yourself, you may want to steer clear of a sex toy hater altogether as you might not be sexually compatible.
“Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?”
Striking the right balance between give and take isn’t just important in relationships. It’s the cardinal rule of thumb when you’re in bed with someone as well. That said, a person who understands this will be as into giving oral as they are getting it. Beware of anyone who not only admits that they don’t reciprocate, but doesn’t feel there’s anything wrong with that. Life’s too short and there are too many fish in the sea to settle for someone who’s selfish in bed.
“What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever tried?”
Still not quite sure what you’re dealing with when it comes to the other person? Want more information on just what they meant when they mentioned that they were adventurous before? Ask them this question and see how they handle it. You’ll learn a lot about just what words like “kinky”, “wild”, or “adventurous” actually mean to them. For some, kinky might mean full-blown sex orgies complete with all the trimmings, while for others that might be a simple blow job.
“Where’s the strangest place you’ve ever gotten it on?”
This is another great question along the same lines. It’s an especially great one to ask if you’re curious as to whether the person’s a “bedroom only” type or likes to keep things interesting by mixing it up now and then. Either way, this question will teach you quite a bit about the person’s personal limits and give you a better idea of whether they’re a good fit for what you personally have in mind.
“What’s your naughtiest fantasy?”
What someone would potentially like to try in bed can tell you as much (if not more) about them than what’s actually part of their go-to repertoire, so definitely ask about fantasies. You might also want to ask whether that’s just something they like to think about sometimes or something they’re actively interested in trying. You’ll definitely have a better idea of whether or not they’re just you’re average Joe or Jane as far as what they’re into.
As you can see, it’s actually easier to gauge sexual compatibility before you dive into bed with someone than you think. What’s your can’t-miss, go-to trick for figuring out what someone’s like between the sheets before you do the deed?