Sexting 101: Why You Should Be Doing It and How to Become Great at It

If you haven’t made the leap yourself yet, there’s never been a better time to get into sexting. The current need for social distancing and responsible isolation makes sexting an extraordinarily terrific way to keep the sizzle in your relationship if you can’t be together in person. Skillful sexting is a great skill to have under your belt anytime, though.

Learn it to get through the pandemic satisfied. Keep it going indefinitely to add an incredible new dimension to your relationship. Here are some tips to get you started. You’ll be sexting like a long-time pro in no time.

Why Learn to Sext?

Don’t make the mistake of thinking sexting is something only the tech-savviest people out there like to do. Sexting can add some serious heat to any relationship. Here are just a few reasons to give it a try.

  • It’s a powerful way to show someone you’ve been missing them and stay intimate when life requires you to be apart physically.
  • It makes for excellent all-day foreplay while one or both of you are at work.
  • If you’re shy, sexting can offer you a great way to explore, express, and discuss your fantasies with your partner.
  • Once you get the hang of things, sexting makes you feel fantastic – sexy, assertive, and desirable – so it’s great for your self-esteem.

A Quick-Start Guide for Newbies

Although there’s nothing wrong with making things up as you go along when it comes to sexting, everyone has to start somewhere, so don’t sweat it if it doesn’t feel like second nature right away. Once you get the ball rolling, a good sexting session tends to unfold pretty organically. The following cues are good places to start.

Reflect on a recent time you were together.

When you’re at a complete loss for ideas, this is a good go-to, as you already have something to go on. It’s also an honest, easy way to let your partner know what you love most about being intimate with them in person. If you’re looking to get your sext on with someone you haven’t been physically intimate with yet, laying out a few simple ideas about how you picture it happening is a good substitute.

Pay them a sexy compliment.

Everyone loves a good compliment once in a while and paying your partner a few of the sexy variety can be a great way to get a spicy long-distance exchange going. Tell them how hot you think they are when they’re naked or how amazing their skin feels when you’re cuddled up close in bed together. If they rock your world in the bedroom, let them know and follow up by telling them you’ve been thinking about how they handle you. Then take it from there.

Give them a little peek.

Sometimes a naughty little hint is all it takes to get a sext party started, especially if you float it out there as a preview of coming attractions to enjoy later on. Are you wearing something sexy that’s bringing out the vixen in you? Tell them, or – better yet – show them. Have you just scored a killer deal on some sexy new bedroom wear? Let them know and tell them how badly you want to model it for them later.

Tell them what you want.

Everyone has fantasies, and you likely have more than a few of your own that star your partner. Why not share a few? Not only will it make for some exceptionally titillating sexting, but it could lead to some spicy hands-on experimentation in the bedroom later on. Tell them what you wish they would do to you or what you’ve love to be doing to them. Tell them what goes through your head when you’re getting down and dirty with your favorite vibrator while missing them. Then enjoy every minute of what happens next.

You can also try prompting your partner to take the lead if you’re really too shy or nervous to start things yourself. Questions are a great way to do this. You can ask about anything from what they like best about hooking up with you to what they fantasize about when you’re not together.

Elevating Your Sexting

Once you get the basics down, great sexting is all about ensuring both parties involved have a fantastic time. The best way to do this is not to take the whole thing too seriously. Sexting should be flirty and fun – something to smile about, not treat like a job or a major responsibility. Do your best to keep things light-hearted.

It’s also best to be honest. Yes, you’re using your imagination and sharing fantasies, but make sure they’re fantasies you really do have. Don’t over embellish in the hopes of impressing them. Just be the sexiest possible version of yourself you can be.