Orgasms come more easily to some women than others, so there’s no such thing as a bad one. But it also goes without saying that not all orgasms are equal. Some are so powerful, they practically leave you seeing stars, while others can be underwhelming.
The stronger the orgasm, the more satisfied it leaves you feeling, so it makes sense to want yours to be as strong as possible. Here’s a look at everything you need to know to improve the quality of your orgasms and walk away from every pleasure session fully satisfied from head to toe.
Adopt a mindful approach to masturbation.
If you’re like most people, you probably start your solo sessions with one end goal in mind – an orgasm – and there’s nothing wrong with that. A quick and dirty orgasm on your own terms is reason enough to spend a little personal time with your downstairs, but it doesn’t have to be the only one.
Mindful masturbation sessions that are more about exploration than simply getting off can be the key to having those life-changing orgasms you crave a lot more often. Set aside a good thirty minutes or so and decide you’re not going to focus on having an orgasm this time. Explore your entire body from head to toe using a variety of different toys, stimulation styles, lubes, or temperatures. The more you know about how your body truly responds to touch, the better.
Lock down a solid Kegel routine.
The strength of your pelvic floor plays a massive role in how intense your orgasms are, so a consistent Kegel routine is an absolute must. As with other types of exercise, a quick squeeze session whenever you happen to remember isn’t going to do the job. Instead, aim for three sessions of 10-20 repetitions each per day.
The beauty of Kegels is that no one can tell when you’re doing them, so you can fit your sessions in anytime and anywhere. You don’t need any special equipment to do them, either, as a simple clench and release routine is enough to yield results. But Kegel balls or vibrating Kegel eggs can make the process more fun, so it’s well worth checking out your options.
Invest in better-quality sex toys.
If you’re trusting your orgasm to a toy that’s cheaply made, way too basic, or well past its prime, it’s almost a certainty that you’re not having the kind of orgasms you deserve. Quality matters when it comes to the toys you use, so better designs, more powerful motors, and ergonomic shapes make a massive difference.
Consider swapping out your bargain-basement cylinder vibe for a luxury option from a top manufacturer like FemmeFunn and see what happens. You can stick to one go-to toy if that’s truly what you prefer, but many women find it worthwhile to keep more than one around. Try keeping a trusty rabbit vibe around for your own personal use, but a few additional options (like vibrating bullets or eggs) to use with a partner or take on the go.
Get comfortable asking for what you want.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make sure your partner has a good time when you’re getting down and dirty together, but keep in mind that your pleasure counts, too. It’s not uncommon for women to be so focused on their partner’s pleasure that their own takes a hit, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
If you’re not there already, it’s time to get comfortable with being demanding in bed. Ask your partner for what you need to orgasm like a champ, whether that’s more foreplay, more time receiving oral, or a stab at a new position. Your partner wants to please you, but they’re not psychic. They need you to tell them what you’re in the mood for and give them feedback on what works best.
Turn foreplay into an all-day affair.
A terrific romp in the bedroom has a lot in common with a perfect meal. It’s great anytime, but it’s most world-changing when you’re starving for it. The next time you’re hoping to get frisky with your partner later, consider spending the day leading up to it stoking the fires. Engage your partner with frisky texts or sexy selfies throughout the day, and watch what happens when you finally come together in the evening.
You can do the same even when you’re merely planning a solo session. Wear something that makes you feel sexy or sensual. Partake in some erotica that turns you on, or periodically let your mind revisit your favorite fantasies and sexy memories. Your orgasm is sure to be an explosive experience when you finally do get a moment to yourself. Try it and see!